West, go to the main forum page and go to "Quick Start Guides", you will see a guide put together by myself and many others here on the forum. It gives a good users eye level view of things.
Indeed it is a forum thing... And they could add some new levels... Janine is the only one that made it to that many posts though. Bear is a good second I think... West, common courtecy gets you the farthest. There are many complaints from girls that react to an inappropriate approach by male or female (males most of the time). Some even taking action like using the ignore button or putting some kind of warning on their profile page. The old saying: Reap what you sow is also applicable to AChat. Be nice and be treated nice (by courteous people), be an ass and be treated likewise..
One thing that is a shame is that once a person hits the "ignore" button, they close off communication. While this is certainly justified for stalkers and mean-spirited people, it eliminates the chance for newbies to apologize and explain, not to mention learn why the person was accidentally offended. Maybe for the first few days you could issue an emoticon to those of us who are learning. Not sure how to draw the face, "I am new, harmless and stupid. Teach me please." Thanks again.