« #30 : November 16, 2012, 07:12:55 AM »
That said there are only 2 anal poses Kneeling spoons and the anal doggy,... decline to accept them and offer another choice. Be clear that anal is not a turn on but a mood killer,... and as kitten' says play is mutual... don't accept an action if you don't like it. Good men will repsect that. If they don't then I guess they aren't a decent sort are they?
Dominates/Tops around here will typically insist on the option, most likely because they see it as a taboo element missing from their RL experience... that is your choice if you choose to yield. Good Dom's will take it under consideration,... if you establish that as a boundary a Dom will/should respect it. Great Dom's will consider it a challenge... to find a way to lead you to the fulfillment of it's potential enjoyment without breaking the boundaries.
I will say that some women banner "no anal"... reserving it for special partners... you need to be clear ahead of time that it is a mood killer and you don't enjoy it.