I'm not sure what you're talking about here either.Are we talking about a guy that acts like a girl and when he gets excited and happy he acts like a guy?
What do you mean with really young?You never may forget: Talking can bring people together, make people fall in love.... but also starts wars. Words can help and also bring someone down. Many people, here and in real life, are very careful in talking about private details. Perhaps the way you asked frightened them or they just don't like this. Be patient and use your words very carefully when you want to know more about the person. It needs a lot of trust and one wrong word can lead to distrust or break the connection you have built for weeks.As I'm still not sure if I understand you right, tell me if my answer was helpful.thanks