Welcome maekimmi
Wow, such a long post and thoughtful questions too - let mesay youre in the right place. Youre right, having some good friends is important here too and trust me, you will find them.
As Brandy says, we hope NOW you will be a posting girl
If you have (more) questions, just ask and feel free to post your ideas and thoughts. Its a very friendly forum, not a place to fight for. Every opinion is welcome and accepted, no matter if everybody agrees.
Enjoy and have fun