« #1 : June 24, 2012, 07:36:37 PM »
This seems to be the best place to put this. I am not advertising my services as a Domme for hire. However, I get a lot of requests in game for that very reason. I do take on slaves for personal enlightenment and to enjoy their own fantasies though. Most are from people who want a quick, cheap, thrill and do not understand what it is I do. So I will explain what being a Domme means to me and you can decide for yourself if what I am is what you are really interested in, or if you need to look elsewhere.
First, BDSM is a lifestyle choice for me. It is something I have wrestled with all my life and the decision to live my life this way instead of in a “vanilla” way was not an easy one, but I am more content and fulfilled now than I have ever been. I take what I do very seriously and this is not just something I do for a cheap thrill. So if you are just confused about what BDSM is, I can suggest some very good non-fiction reading material on the subject that may help you better understand.
Second, the media and porn specifically has given most people a skewed view of what BDSM is really about. For me, this is a window to your soul. Your deepest desires, fears, and most animalistic instincts can be brought to the surface for you to experience and be smothered in. This kind of “play” exposes you for who you are. To yourself, your Dom/Domme, and whoever else may be witnessing your scene. This is very invasive mentally, and is not for everyone.
Third, I am always willing to discuss my experiences and my lifestyle with people, and sometimes I am even willing to train people as subs/slaves. However, I play AChat to play in a virtual environment. I do not give out personal information. I have in the past and it just gets too weird. So the only way we will have to interact is in a virtual environment or through chat. It will not be as intense as doing this in person, but I believe that if you are honest with me and with yourself you can achieve close to the same results. I really enjoy being a Domme because I get a lot of sexual gratification from breaking down a submissive, and helping them live out their deepest fantasies and desires.
Finally, if you are looking for a Mistress, I will not be yours just because you ask. Accepting you as my slave/sub is a commitment, in time, effort, and emotional support I do not give out lightly. If I decide that we make a good match for BDSM play together, I may offer to train you though. Eventually I may even offer to enslave you. But that final decision is mine and mine alone. I demand commitment, honesty, and obedience at all times from those I train. Anything less is unacceptable. If I find that you are lying to me I will dismiss you from my service immediately, and I will not take you back. No exceptions. Disobedience will be met with punishment, and I promise you, it will be something you will NOT enjoy. If you continue to be disobedient or attempt to “top from the bottom” I will dismiss you.
Now, if you still think you want me to train you or if you have any questions about BDSM that you think I can help you with, please do not hesitate to send me a message and I’ll be happy to talk to you about it. If you wish to be trained, then you must apply for training. I want you to tell me why you are looking to be trained. What you expect to get from training. What kind of sub you are (i.e. pain slut, sissy boy, dirty girl, humiliation slut, etc.). I would also like to know what BDSM means to you. I ask you to be very honest in your answers. If you are not, it will only end in frustration for both you and me. No answer is a bad one. One of the greatest lessons I ever learned is that “your kink is your kink”. If you are a man who likes being dressed like a little girl or if you just want to be tied to the bed and threatened, your kink is yours and no one should tell you different. Also, if you want training, please do not address me as “Mistress”, that presupposes a relationship that does not exist yet. If you just want to chat, my name is Christy. If you wish to be trained you may address me as Miss Christy or ma’am.
--Christy