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peterkink
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« : December 27, 2014, 07:36:46 AM »
Hetero, Homo and bisex is not very fitting for shemales. It would be better to write who you wants to fuck; men, woman, shemales.
That could work för men and woman too btw. Makes things less confusing.
hentaiboy69
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« #1 : December 27, 2014, 08:07:42 AM »
Hey Peter, I understand the little mess for shemale, but why even for girls and guys!? I think it's pretty clear in those two case
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« #2 : December 27, 2014, 10:45:03 AM »
Actually I find it confusing as well.  Shemales can self-identify as either sex.  I have several real life transgender friends from my days of loving drag shows... Anyway, some consider themselves male and others refer to themselves as women even though they physically have penises.  I obviously wish to respect their choices of identification. Then there are obviously both physical males and females delving into the fantasy of being transgender as well as the true transgenders.  Bisex is of course easy for shemales..but hetero and homo can mean either. 

As for male and female players, I for one am hetero.  I will room with a shemale (what's not to like about boobs, add in a cock and it's the best of both)   But I prefer for that shemale to identify as male and be one...I know I just need the punctuation of a male orgasm, semen and all to satisfy me  (from the person behind the toon, obviously it's all about that connection to the person for me not what's on the screen.) Since shemale is a gender neutral choice (imo) hetero doesn't quite display that  i may be interested, but bisex would indicate that I want to room with women...and I don't except for the occasional mff.  For some bisex may just mean men or women, and exclude transgender fantasies, so ya..it can mean anything...maybe we can add in a trisexual choice ;)  Especially as in I'll try anything haha.
« : December 27, 2014, 10:56:58 AM Misdevious »
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« #3 : December 27, 2014, 09:17:54 PM »
Yeah i posted a thread about changing everything on the profile to checkboxes basically... but people should know, homo-hetero is a totally false binary. theres 2 sexes but theres more genders, and being heterosexual explains you're attracted to the opposite sex, but I doubt anyone only has that condition for who they're attracted to, I'm guessing most people dismiss it as "preference" but I think it goes deeper than that. I dated a masculine girl in highschool (personality not appearance) and within a month I had such bad relationship fatigue that I wanted to shoot myself
peterkink
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« #4 : January 01, 2015, 05:18:25 PM »
Quote from: hentaiboy69 on December 27, 2014, 08:07:42 AM
Hey Peter, I understand the little mess for shemale, but why even for girls and guys!? I think it's pretty clear in those two case

If you are male and like to fuck shemale it does not seem so obvious if that makes you homo- or heterosexual. So it seems like a stupid and unpractiacal definition, which can be avoided easily if you instead write on your profile what categories you want sex with.
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« #5 : January 01, 2015, 05:35:59 PM »
I think it depend on how you consider a transsexual......if you look at her as a "girl", you can't think at your self as an homo and under this point I agree with you, but this is a too big complex thing ro elaborate in few words
peterkink
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« #6 : January 02, 2015, 02:53:47 PM »
Quote from: hentaiboy69 on January 01, 2015, 05:35:59 PM
I think it depend on how you consider a transsexual......if you look at her as a "girl", you can't think at your self as an homo and under this point I agree with you, but this is a too big complex thing ro elaborate in few words

Sure it is, and that makes it an issue surely worth discussing. However, I think the solution I suggested would kind of solve many of the problems. Btw: does it happen that any issue being discussed in the forum ever leads to some resultning changes in the game?
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« #7 : January 02, 2015, 06:15:26 PM »
Sometimes they listen to us. A few things in game are based on our ideas and if we find any glitches, usually they change it fast. We still are working to make them to listen more to us but we need patience.
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« #8 : May 01, 2015, 08:01:23 AM »

I personally see myself as female.  I am attracted to women.  I chose bisexual as the available choices left me feeling it would only confuse everyone seeing my profile.

I think adding who you are primarily attracted to would make it easier for everyone here.

I only speak for myself.

this may seem like a minor inconvience that doesn't need fixing or addressed, I would love to see it fixed  ;D

Kisses
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« #9 : May 07, 2015, 11:18:30 AM »
Hello!  This is my first post on this forum, but this topic really needs to be addressed!  I don't consider myself bisexual, even though I list it because its so confusing.  I am a woman and I love men, I just happen to have a penis.  I don't consider myself to be gay, or transgender either.   Ive actually been with a couple and the man wanted to watch me fuck his girlfriend.  I was into it, because I wanted to please him and hoped he would join in, but it was really hard because all he wanted to do was watch, and I am just not very attracted to women.   I think this really hits on the labels that society puts on us.  Some how, because I have a penis, I am expected to want to use it, and that's just not always the case.  So take this for what its worth, but I think that if you feel like you are a woman, then thats what you are, and who you are attracted to makes no fundamental difference, other than your own sense of sexuality. 
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« #10 : February 20, 2016, 07:25:55 PM »
Quote from: Abby_Vista on May 07, 2015, 11:18:30 AM
Hello!  This is my first post on this forum, but this topic really needs to be addressed!  I don't consider myself bisexual, even though I list it because its so confusing.  I am a woman and I love men, I just happen to have a penis.  I don't consider myself to be gay, or transgender either.   Ive actually been with a couple and the man wanted to watch me fuck his girlfriend.  I was into it, because I wanted to please him and hoped he would join in, but it was really hard because all he wanted to do was watch, and I am just not very attracted to women.   I think this really hits on the labels that society puts on us.  Some how, because I have a penis, I am expected to want to use it, and that's just not always the case.  So take this for what its worth, but I think that if you feel like you are a woman, then thats what you are, and who you are attracted to makes no fundamental difference, other than your own sense of sexuality. 
Well put!

I'm a transgender woman, I identify as a woman and I also just happen to have a penis. I would never involve it during sex though and I will have the operation there eventually but I felt like I wanted to be honest when I joined in here.
I've had bisexual as my orientation for quite a while here because I'm a bit curious. But honestly I can't see myself fucking with a cis-woman as long as I have a penis because of the expectations it forces upon me... and I am in truth more sexually attracted to men.
Anyways, because of this I think of myself a hetero basically, simply a woman whom are interested in men.

There are of course quite a lot of people whom are not gender binary which choses to play Achat and they might very well chose to play as a shemale (even though that body might not really represent them in the way they want too) and I guess that's when the available options gets confusing.
It's pretty sad that the porn industry is mostly focused on "shemales" and I guess that's why they are included in Achat and for example not a pre-op female-to-male transgender avatar which would be a male bodied avatar with a vagina.
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« #11 : February 29, 2016, 04:39:41 PM »
Hello everybody,
Well, as a shemale that I am, I like to be treated as female, besides having a cock, because many shemales loose sensity when change to a vagina, and I'm affraid of that.

Let's be honest, I spend so much money on hormones, makeup, clothes, etc etc, I'm chubby, but I've tried to have the most feminine body that I could, big tities, so I like to be treated as female and that's how I feel.
I prefer to be passive, that's all I tought when I felt the need to change my body.

A while ago I saw a documentary about human, the body can born male, but the brain borns female. Makes sense? Let me explain, imagine you born like you see in the mirror but you think completly different, you act like female, sit, think, live, like a female.
There's a point when you feel bad about that and you realise: my body is male but I'm female and thats how you continue your life. It takes a tough shell but you can do it.

It's really a bit confuse, but once you undestand makes perfect sense.

Please don't judje me, it's my experience, what I have lived. Kisses  :-* :-*
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« #12 : March 01, 2016, 08:34:29 PM »
I'm a bit confused sometimes about it . Exept for shemales who did surgery to "loose" their penis which clearly are women to me . But , talking of shemales who don't do surgery , if they like women are they lesbians ? If they like men are they gay ? Or are they hétéro in both cases . The only thing i'm sure is that if they like both , they are bisex like everyone .

                 STOP TO FAVORIZE THE MF ORIENTATION , FF PAY THE SAME PRICE THAN THEM AS ALL OTHERS ORIENTATIONS !!!!
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« #13 : March 02, 2016, 02:28:36 AM »
The question is, do we always have to put something or someone into a drawer? Is it really necessary to have categories for everything?
Is someone gay, just because he kisses or has sex with the same gender? What if it happens just once? Was he/she gay for that moment?

What I mean, let's simply accept, everybody has his own favourites, likes and dislikes. Treat everybody as he wants to be treated. Accept, that there is diversity and this is really good.
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« #14 : March 02, 2016, 09:47:07 AM »
Quote from: Lover on March 02, 2016, 02:28:36 AM
Is someone gay, just because he kisses or has sex with the same gender? What if it happens just once? Was he/she gay for that moment?

Well i consider shemales as women in general with or without surgery . So if they like women , i call them lesbians , if they like men , i consider them hétéros . If they try the other orientation once they stay their orientation ,but if it's repeated they are bisex .

To your question sould we class everyone in cathegory , i think yes ( as long as it's without any discrimination thoughs ) , i'm proud to be cathegorized lesbian for myself :)

                 STOP TO FAVORIZE THE MF ORIENTATION , FF PAY THE SAME PRICE THAN THEM AS ALL OTHERS ORIENTATIONS !!!!
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