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Kaileen
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« : March 31, 2010, 01:35:23 PM »

I know a lot of people get off on just playing around with the different poses, however, I'm not one of these. Therefore I would like to offer a few friendly pointers that might help make your experience more exciting while making love in a virtual world.

A few facts:
  • While having sex in a virtual world you do not get the physical touch from your partner, so in order to enhance your experience you need to replace this with emotions and imagery.
  • The virtual world is never going to offer you all the poses and positions you would like to try. To achieve the desired effect you will have to "proxy" it, meaning you select the closest match and describe the rest.
  • In difference to real life, where you are present at the actual act of having sex, having cybersex means you try to experience things through an avatar while sitting in front of your computer. Hence you need to care for your pleasure in real life while you provide sufficient stimuli for your partner through typing. This can be quite difficult, but I'll try to offer some advice later on.


Descriptive sex:
There are, as far as I know, two types of descriptive sex: where you describe your feelings and actions in real life, and where you describe the feelings and actions of your avatar. I usually use code to mix the two in order to provide as much stimuli to my partner as I can.

The codes I use are the following:
  • Actions or feelings that my avatar does are proceeded with a "*" sign. Example: *I move closer to you, rest my head on your shoulder, and sigh happily*.  Example 2: *My face twists in agony as you twist my nipples*
  • Dialogue is used with no proceeding sign, although exceptions may need to be made during roleplay. If a roleplaying session has started and I'm started to get emerged in the story I find it helpful to simply put out of character dialogue within brackets to make it clear to my partner that it is not a thing my avatar is telling him/her. Example: (give me a moment, I'll be right back)
  • Actions and feelings that I do in real life are within brackets: ( ). Example: (Give me a moment while I undress). Example 2: (I am going to masturbate for a while so I might not type for a bit). Example 3: (Orgasm, fingers shaking, sticky, can't type... cleaning)


Roleplaying:
I find virtual sex to be a lot better, and easier, if I'm immersed in a role. I might decide with my partner beforehand on a story that we are playing out, we might decide upon the roles and a short background story. Some of the great sessions I've had have been quite elaborate and lasted for several 4 hour sessions (yes, roleplaying sessions can get quite long). What I find makes virtual sex easier through roleplaying is that you have things to talk about, and things to describe, during sex if you play a role.

Example 1: I've played a sweet and innocent girl who lost her diary. The diary was picked up by a pervert who used it to blackmail me into becoming his sex slave. That's all the details we needed to get started, and then the story just evolved from there. (For those interested: he blackmailed me into having sex with him once, he filmed it, sent the video to my character's boyfriend who then left me but not before giving the video to my parents who then kicked me out. Thus forcing me to seek shelter elsewhere, but without other contacts I ended up living as a sex slave with the guy who blackmailed me in the first place)

Example 2: I've played very simple roles too. One started out with me having a broken sandal, and a guy on the street offered to fix the strap in his apartment. Once there he started to seduce me. What was interesting here was that I could talk about how I was on my way to school, how sweet he was for fixing the sandal, and how I wanted to reward him for his kindness. We automatically had things to talk about, and my partner could describe his apartment and how he seduced me based on what he knew about my character.

You do not have to create long background stories (although I've been with people who've written several pages in preparation for a session with me). Just having a scene, a role, and describing what you say and so goes a long way to achieve immersion.

Descriptive Roleplaying Sex:
It's very difficult to convey emotions and provide stimuli to a stranger. What descriptive roleplaying gives you is immersion, which helps put a person in a certain mindset. It is a lot easier to relate to a fictive role than an actual person, and I believe it is because we base our fictive roles on known concepts. These concepts can help you with dialogue, can help you describe what you do, they can cause you to feel certain things you otherwise wouldn't feel, and they can give you a very powerful orgasm (the best orgasm I ever had was actually during cybersex and not during real sex).

Example:
Woman: *I knock on the door* Hello? You called me and said you found my diary
Man: Yah, come on in *looks at the lovely young girl as she enters and offers a sly grin*
Man: I decided I want a reward for handing it over
Woman: r..reward? Uhm, I... I suppose I could give you *looks in my wallet for some money*
Man: No, not that kind of reward *moves closer and grabs hold of the girl's arm*
Woman: *chocked* Hey, let go of me!

... I think you get the picture, gonna spare you the rest of the story as I'm sure not everyone want to read about a girl being blackmailed into becoming a sex slave. I happen to like it though... These dialogues can continue into the sex act, or you could let your characters turn silent and just describe what you do, how you touch your partner, how you tease, etc. Or, you could mix dialogue with descriptions, whatever you feel comfortable with.

Pleasing yourself and your partner:
It is very important to me that I manage to please my partner, and that I manage to please myself. I never have cybersex unless I intend to actually get a real life orgasm. So, when do you find the time to masturbate etc. while typing so much? I suppose that's where the time aspect comes in. If you just want a quick orgasm you might as well watch porn.

The whole point with cybersex is the buildup, or at least that's what I think. During the whole buildup, during the roleplay, you might get a few opportunities to masturbate, but you don't really need that much time once you get into it. Once you're into the act of having sex I'm sure you'll be so turned on that you only require a minute or two to climax. And for that amount of time you can just tell your partner to keep going while you masturbate.

Of course men have the advantage of being able to please themselves without getting their hands messy (until it's over that is). Women, like me, might not be so lucky as my fingers tend to get sticky, however, I can use a vibrator which is a bonus. Just be respectful of each other and allow your partner enough time to reach climax. After all, it's supposed to be a pleasurable experience for both, right?



I hope you have enjoyed this little guide to cybersex, and please feel free to comment. I don't claim to have all the answers, I just wanted to share some of my own experiences...

bobbler
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« #1 : March 31, 2010, 01:43:06 PM »

nice  ;D
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« #2 : April 01, 2010, 10:03:06 AM »

Finally someone who gets the idea of adding realistic content to the digital world. I think what we are exposed to is thought of as the "norm" & that can result in missing out on alot. When I first started exploring the intimate side of the virtual world I didn't have the benefits of animations like the ones in AChat so I had to be descriptive, & it's what I'm used to & enjoy. Don't get me wrong I love the animations, I just see it as a bonus to the overall experience. But just sitting there watching the anims? be better off watching porn lol.
Janine Dee
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« #3 : April 02, 2010, 10:04:57 AM »

Kaileen... I love you. I love you and I want to gay marry you.  ;)

Seriously though I've been using ideas very similar to yours for cybersex ever since I learned of the concept.

Though I will say the only "code" I tend to use is ** for actions, and even that's primarily if I'm mixing words and actions. In my experience once the connection is found and that chemistry is flowing you get that if your partner is typing "OMG, OMG So GOOODDDDD." that's obviously words, and "My eyes are smiling at you brightly as I pull my fingers out of you and keep that eye contact as I lick them clean." would obviously be an action.

Just like "BRB gotta wash my hands." Is going to be a requirement not to ruin ones keyboard.

On the need to be descriptive... honey you did a service starting this topic. When I first logged onto AChat I will admit I was a bit of a tramp. It was just all so neat that if a woman invited me I usually agreed. That however quickly got old as I would be typing out lines, and lines, and lines of description, and get "yeah" or "oohh that's nice" so I quickly learned to start filtering out those partners and focusing on those who gave as well as they got.

(Actually it's a second reason to avoid cold invites as those who aren't imaginative enough to give you a reason to want to join them probably aren't going to be very capable at descriptive text.)

So yes, yes, and yes, and Ill even throw in a Ohhhhhhhhhh yes! because we are talking cybersex.

As far as roleplaying... I just discovered that on here, but I have been having a wonderful journey of discovery.

Bathed in moonlight
I'm proclaimed by angels cry
Think well
Do take your time
Because your soul
will be mine the day you die

Kamelot, Descent of the Archangel
Kaileen
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« #4 : April 02, 2010, 03:04:44 PM »

Kaileen... I love you. I love you and I want to gay marry you.  ;)

Seriously though I've been using ideas very similar to yours for cybersex ever since I learned of the concept.

Though I will say the only "code" I tend to use is ** for actions, and even that's primarily if I'm mixing words and actions. In my experience once the connection is found and that chemistry is flowing you get that if your partner is typing "OMG, OMG So GOOODDDDD." that's obviously words, and "My eyes are smiling at you brightly as I pull my fingers out of you and keep that eye contact as I lick them clean." would obviously be an action.

Just like "BRB gotta wash my hands." Is going to be a requirement not to ruin ones keyboard.


Thanks for the compliments sweetie *hugs*.

As for the codes I think it's ok to use whatever you feel comfortable with. As long as you are aware of the fact that you are balancing different personas (avatar and real life) and don't get them mixed up to the point where it gets distracting or confusing. The codes are more of a side-note to the fact that intimate cybersex is based on imagery that you have to convey with words rather than actual images. You need to describe all the subtle movements of your hands, your expression, your feelings. If the codes help you do this then I recommend you use them, if you can manage fine without I think that's just as swell...
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« #5 : April 08, 2010, 04:55:30 PM »

Congratulations Kaileen!

Let me admit, I often explain the setting. I dont only have sex in a room with just a bed; i use tables, chairs, beach, shower...Then we talk about our clothes using in the scene. If I am at beach I wear another dress then my avatar. And its silly to put off (with words) the dress the avatar is wearing, if the scene needs other clothes. Actually I ask what my girl is wearing in real, to make it as natural as possible.

I use toys we dont have in AChat: Feather, dildo, ice cubes, blindfold...to coddle

I tell as accurate as possible what I am doing with which part of the body to share the same emotion. I wait for the reaction before I go on...

And you are absolutely right: I had great sex and wonderful orgasm just through this "head cinema". Sometimes I really felt the things that happened virtual.

Lover

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« #6 : May 06, 2010, 11:46:15 PM »

Thanks for the advice. I'm new and am a male interested in this kind of roleplay. Though I have experience as a roleplayer, I am a newb in this area.
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« #7 : May 07, 2010, 07:02:47 AM »

I love RP alot.  What I look for in a Achat partner is imagination thats why I don't  do cold invites.  My Apartner and I will discuss what we want to do that day(if we disagree we'll compromise).  Then we pick our outfits and play our roles.  We might be two cops that got bored on a sting operation, decided to go at it in the undercover car and we will play that character.  I'll get discriptive telling you how the frabric feels on my skin, or I might joke around with my rp. 
I have meet some guys here who have a nice personality but their imagination comes up short.  For ex:  I'll say, grab my hair and the guy will say, you can't do that here(achat room).  I'll ask the guy what do you want to do to me and do it, don't let the room limit you.   Because you can't grab or tickle dosen't mean you can't do it. 
Thats what ppl have to remember about role playing, its all in your head.  You can be anywhere, anyone and do anything you want(as long as your partner agrees).  And of course I love your ideas guys,  ;D
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« #8 : May 10, 2010, 07:59:12 PM »

I know a lot of people get off on just playing around with the different poses, however, I'm not one of these. Therefore I would like to offer a few friendly pointers that might help make your experience more exciting while making love in a virtual world.

A few facts:
  • While having sex in a virtual world you do not get the physical touch from your partner, so in order to enhance your experience you need to replace this with emotions and imagery.
  • The virtual world is never going to offer you all the poses and positions you would like to try. To achieve the desired effect you will have to "proxy" it, meaning you select the closest match and describe the rest.
  • In difference to real life, where you are present at the actual act of having sex, having cybersex means you try to experience things through an avatar while sitting in front of your computer. Hence you need to care for your pleasure in real life while you provide sufficient stimuli for your partner through typing. This can be quite difficult, but I'll try to offer some advice later on.


Descriptive sex:
There are, as far as I know, two types of descriptive sex: where you describe your feelings and actions in real life, and where you describe the feelings and actions of your avatar. I usually use code to mix the two in order to provide as much stimuli to my partner as I can.

The codes I use are the following:
  • Actions or feelings that my avatar does are proceeded with a "*" sign. Example: *I move closer to you, rest my head on your shoulder, and sigh happily*.  Example 2: *My face twists in agony as you twist my nipples*
  • Dialogue is used with no proceeding sign, although exceptions may need to be made during roleplay. If a roleplaying session has started and I'm started to get emerged in the story I find it helpful to simply put out of character dialogue within brackets to make it clear to my partner that it is not a thing my avatar is telling him/her. Example: (give me a moment, I'll be right back)
  • Actions and feelings that I do in real life are within brackets: ( ). Example: (Give me a moment while I undress). Example 2: (I am going to masturbate for a while so I might not type for a bit). Example 3: (Orgasm, fingers shaking, sticky, can't type... cleaning)


Roleplaying:
I find virtual sex to be a lot better, and easier, if I'm immersed in a role. I might decide with my partner beforehand on a story that we are playing out, we might decide upon the roles and a short background story. Some of the great sessions I've had have been quite elaborate and lasted for several 4 hour sessions (yes, roleplaying sessions can get quite long). What I find makes virtual sex easier through roleplaying is that you have things to talk about, and things to describe, during sex if you play a role.

Example 1: I've played a sweet and innocent girl who lost her diary. The diary was picked up by a pervert who used it to blackmail me into becoming his sex slave. That's all the details we needed to get started, and then the story just evolved from there. (For those interested: he blackmailed me into having sex with him once, he filmed it, sent the video to my character's boyfriend who then left me but not before giving the video to my parents who then kicked me out. Thus forcing me to seek shelter elsewhere, but without other contacts I ended up living as a sex slave with the guy who blackmailed me in the first place)

Example 2: I've played very simple roles too. One started out with me having a broken sandal, and a guy on the street offered to fix the strap in his apartment. Once there he started to seduce me. What was interesting here was that I could talk about how I was on my way to school, how sweet he was for fixing the sandal, and how I wanted to reward him for his kindness. We automatically had things to talk about, and my partner could describe his apartment and how he seduced me based on what he knew about my character.

You do not have to create long background stories (although I've been with people who've written several pages in preparation for a session with me). Just having a scene, a role, and describing what you say and so goes a long way to achieve immersion.

Descriptive Roleplaying Sex:
It's very difficult to convey emotions and provide stimuli to a stranger. What descriptive roleplaying gives you is immersion, which helps put a person in a certain mindset. It is a lot easier to relate to a fictive role than an actual person, and I believe it is because we base our fictive roles on known concepts. These concepts can help you with dialogue, can help you describe what you do, they can cause you to feel certain things you otherwise wouldn't feel, and they can give you a very powerful orgasm (the best orgasm I ever had was actually during cybersex and not during real sex).

Example:
Woman: *I knock on the door* Hello? You called me and said you found my diary
Man: Yah, come on in *looks at the lovely young girl as she enters and offers a sly grin*
Man: I decided I want a reward for handing it over
Woman: r..reward? Uhm, I... I suppose I could give you *looks in my wallet for some money*
Man: No, not that kind of reward *moves closer and grabs hold of the girl's arm*
Woman: *chocked* Hey, let go of me!

... I think you get the picture, gonna spare you the rest of the story as I'm sure not everyone want to read about a girl being blackmailed into becoming a sex slave. I happen to like it though... These dialogues can continue into the sex act, or you could let your characters turn silent and just describe what you do, how you touch your partner, how you tease, etc. Or, you could mix dialogue with descriptions, whatever you feel comfortable with.

Pleasing yourself and your partner:
It is very important to me that I manage to please my partner, and that I manage to please myself. I never have cybersex unless I intend to actually get a real life orgasm. So, when do you find the time to masturbate etc. while typing so much? I suppose that's where the time aspect comes in. If you just want a quick orgasm you might as well watch porn.

The whole point with cybersex is the buildup, or at least that's what I think. During the whole buildup, during the roleplay, you might get a few opportunities to masturbate, but you don't really need that much time once you get into it. Once you're into the act of having sex I'm sure you'll be so turned on that you only require a minute or two to climax. And for that amount of time you can just tell your partner to keep going while you masturbate.

Of course men have the advantage of being able to please themselves without getting their hands messy (until it's over that is). Women, like me, might not be so lucky as my fingers tend to get sticky, however, I can use a vibrator which is a bonus. Just be respectful of each other and allow your partner enough time to reach climax. After all, it's supposed to be a pleasurable experience for both, right?



I hope you have enjoyed this little guide to cybersex, and please feel free to comment. I don't claim to have all the answers, I just wanted to share some of my own experiences...


Janine Dee
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« #9 : May 11, 2010, 04:59:32 AM »

Did you add anything vinicius? Or just quote all of Kaileen's post?

Bathed in moonlight
I'm proclaimed by angels cry
Think well
Do take your time
Because your soul
will be mine the day you die

Kamelot, Descent of the Archangel
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« #10 : May 11, 2010, 10:10:42 AM »

maybe he thought we didn't see it the first time.  its really easy to miss.   :P
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« #11 : May 18, 2010, 10:58:27 PM »

New to tis concept of descriptive Sex,...will add a thought of something I tried. Consider using external aides to heighten your experience. share music together (although a burdensome in coordinating...)...use it to create the atmosphere of the moment, a romantic dance under the stars,...or nightclub. Coordinate the use of other audio waves besides...Ocean sounds, rainfall....elements that can add to the story and experience you are acting on. The most exquisite evening I have had employed such...dancing on a beach-side patio under the stars..transitioning to the ocean sounds as we retired to more intimate quarters...which lasted just long enough before the passion of the moment made it irrelevant.

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« #12 : May 18, 2010, 11:33:47 PM »

Damn Bear, you just made me realize i'm lacking a romantic side.  Like the idea.   ;D
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« #13 : May 24, 2010, 08:58:50 AM »

I'm just posting because I want this  topic visible on the main page rather then that spammy feeling post by that guy for his own page.

Bathed in moonlight
I'm proclaimed by angels cry
Think well
Do take your time
Because your soul
will be mine the day you die

Kamelot, Descent of the Archangel
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« #14 : May 30, 2010, 07:47:17 AM »

Kaileen, thank you for this great helpful post!

The thing I'm sometimes struggling with is how to combine descriptions of what's happening in real life (which turn me on) with the actions/story in the virtual setting. The brackets are an excellent idea for that.

Still, I would like to know if it's just me, or that it really takes lots and lots of practice to balance talk, fantasy, choosing poses/actions, and playing with yourself in the process. When I'm really into it, I forget to click on things, or start typing erratically. Any tips on how to improve this would be greatly appreciated :)

X Carli
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