Chastity. with special thanks to zuzannah for her imput.This is an interesting play that many Dominants dabble in with their submissive partners.
There are 4 depths of the play from the shallow to the deep. Chastity does not have to be an all-or-nothing proposition and can be very sexually exciting.
Play 1 or Chastity Light A Even though, some are not into chastity play per se, most Dom/mes have instructed their submissive partner to ask for “permission to cum.” They therefore are exercising their power of the climax and making their submissive wait for their pleasure.
When about to orgasm. The submissive asks … “May I com Sir / Mistress? Or however they are told to address their superior.
Believe it or not, this is the light end of Chastity play.
Permission is rarely denied. This simple ritual of asking reinforces the D/s hierarchy and can be very satisfying for both as they both know, He or She could say “No” this time round.
Play 2 or Chastity Light B The next step in the chastity journey can be the Dom/me’s actual refusal of permission to cum. This is to increase the intensity of the (allowed) orgasm. Orgasm denial is a time-honoured sexual amplifier.
Done within the context of a Dominant/submissive relationship, it is an awesome technique. If you are in a Dom/sub relationship, having your sexuality controlled by your Dom/me is a massive turn on.
When you are denied orgasms, sometimes on multiple occasions such as
“Edging” and then allowed release, some say the intensity of the orgasm is worth the build-up.
Careful with
edging though, too much can de-sensitise the submissive and spoil the effect. Sometimes less is more.
Play 3 or Classic Chastity – Medium Play This can be accomplished without chastity devices and is all about orgasm control. It is Chastity play where the Dom/me does not allow a single orgasm for the entire scene. The Dominant can deny any self-touching or allow self-touching on the understanding the submissive cannot cum until in the Dominants presence and play. It is a great exercise in Dominance and submission and many submissives love this type of play.
This Classic Chastity is one of the most popular scenes that Professional Dommes and Mistresses are asked for in their leather-high-booted-wielding-a-whip play. Depending on the arrangement with their client/submissive, there can be release after the scene…or not. But, there is no doubt that a full-out chastity scene can be very hot for both the Top (Dominant) and bottom (submissive).
Of course, any failure to achieve the Dominant’s instruction results in a punishment – No clothes (in public/BDSM meet); spanking; humiliation perhaps. Maybe an inserted vibration egg vaginally or anally with remote control kept by the Dom/me to tease the submissive.
Play 4 or Long Term Chastity - Heavy play Heavy/long term chastity play is where a chastity device – a female chastity belt or a male cock cage — is used to physically enforce chastity. The Dominant can instruct or place the device on the submissive Him/Herself for a set period of time.
The Dominant may keep the key to the lock or place it in a place where the submissive can see it but dare not touch it without permission.
The Dominant may tease the submissive to turn them on.
It could be real life play where the submissive sits passively in the corner of the room and watches their Dominant’s play.
ORThe Dominant could make them watch porn, or read erotic literature or to verbalise their fantasies in a story telling way.
The idea is to turn them on, make them throb and deny them the pleasure of climax. The Dom/me wants their submissive to have a raging hard on (which is difficult in a cock cage) or to be soaking wet. Both to be made uncomfortable in their sexual need for more.
That is until the Dominant of course feels they have earned that release.
Then the Dom/me will allow play to fulfilment, only to remind the submissive the joy of climax and then to return them once more into chastity or not… as the case may be.
In the game, you may see a submissive in Chastity.
Sometimes the Dom/me may wish for others to tease the submissive to sexually excite but to go no further.
The submissive may not even have a Dom/me but are indulging their own fantasies but that is what Achat is for.
The sub will explain the rules if this is the case, otherwise they are not allowed to play sexually and are waiting on their Dom/me to decide when their chastity (self-denial) comes to an end.
The Dominant and submissive may also go a step further and, as well as Chastity play, may well include and indulge their fetishes in Latex. PVC and leather wear.
This entices the submissive sexually if they love/find it a turn on to dress up from head to foot.
But it also denies most observers from seeing the submissive as sexually attractive and even as a comical type figure. Most submissives like to wear the full body suit and gimp mask. It also plays on the humiliation draw of their look and people’s views of them.
Hints of their play may even be included on their game/forum profiles.
This dress-up play is not just limited to the above materials however.
Submissives and Sissy boys can be locked into specific outfits like satin dresses and French maid outfits.
Even so, respect should be given to their play. It is their sexual fantasy and they are not harming anyone.
Certain play by the Dominants can decide if the submissive returns to Chastity. When coming out of Chastity, the Dominants can demand that the submissive has a certain amount of time to cum. They deliberately put pressure on their submissive. If the submissive fails to cum in that time, they are returned to chastity. If they succeed, they are allowed their freedom – for a time anyway.
Sometimes, just because they can – the Dominant will smother a delay cream on the submissive genitals to make achieving orgasm, by wanking or fucking a sex doll, that much harder. This is particularly used more with submissive men.
ORIn the case of a woman, tie her spread eagled to a bed and allow a hanging ball vibrator to tease her pussy but any pressure from writhing will annoyingly push it away as not steadfast. She also will be given a set time to orgasm. Any failure will result in more time in chastity.
For those inclined, there are also chastity services, where for a fee, a Dominant will retain the key of the lockable outfit/chastity device for a specified time – with or without tasks to perform. There are also code numbers on chastity devices which change on removal. Photographic evidence is required for proof of task completion and non-chastity device removals. Many enjoy these unusual services.
Chastity and dress up can be very rewarding for the parties involved.
As the sayings go... “Don’t knock it, till you have tried it” and “Never say Never”
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