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Discussions about sex => Everything about sex and love => Topic started by: vip561 on June 18, 2011, 11:29:07 AM
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I was just wondering if anyone has met someone in real life because of achat?
If so how was the experience was it everything you hoped for?
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Hello, everyone. :)
Since chatting in Achat is not topic-restricted, it makes no technical problems to propose your partner to meet in a real life.
Have anybody done that? Did it work out?
Now, as a general rule -- Achat is a fun game, and it's fun because of your anonymosity. So, is it OK for you, if your partner suggests you a meeting in a real-life -- say, over a cup of tea in a cafe? Would you consider such a proposal seriously, or would it make you irritated as an outing attempt, and possibly make you to add that person to your ignore list?
Thanks for any answer. :)
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I would not. This is my escape from real life to live out my fantasies. However, if I were... less attached in my life, I might consider it if I felt very comfortable with the person in question.
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I myself have never pushed the issue and have resisted any pushing it on me. I know of a handful who have, and none that turned out well, so seriously don't expect it.
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When you interact with people here or on AChat, you get to see a part of people they might not (readily) show IRL. You're also looking at an avatar, which may be an approximation of their real body, but just as likely can be an approximation of their inner ideal form. Then there's chemistry, which is nothing like personality. Online you may mesh as if you're soulmates, but if the chemistry or spark isn't there it's very likely you won't ever be more then best friends with no benefits at all.
Personally I keep AChat separated from the rest of my life, for the reasons mentioned above and also because your partner may be a great actor that turns out to be a creep you can't get rid of with a bullwhip and pesticide... Anonymity is generally good protection in environments such as AChat and a wise thing to maintain nowadays.
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Afraid not I would not meet with people in real life i met with on here. Happy to play with but i would prefer to keep a degree of separation between here and out there.
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A while back, way before AChat, I did, and more than once. Sexually it was about as mixed bag as it gets, and mostly the guys aren't near as studly and long-enduring semen-sprayers like they can be here. (LMAO) But on all counts it was an emotional FAIL. Yeah, a lot of that was me and where my head was at at the time and that stuff about opposites attracting might work for magnets, but if you're in a bad place emotionally, likely that's what you're going to attract. Or at least the kind of guy that can sense that and prey on it.
So the odds of getting burned are pretty damn high. I'm not just singling guys out here either, there's more than enough women out to play games too. Anyway, it sure as hell changed at how I am online and being careful, not only with the whole meet in real issue, but with things like phone (or Skype) and cam too.
On the other hand, I know some that did it and it was great for them. It's a lot rarer, but I've seen it happen, and God bless them for finding something special in a unlikely place and setting. So while the odds are pretty close to 100% I won't do the virtual to real thing again, you never know. But one thing for sure, there'll be a shitload of hurdles for him to jump before he's even close to the finish line.
So okay, say you're going to go ahead and take the big leap. Be smart about it, meet someplace public (discreet maybe if you have to, but public). Have a drink, or dinner, whatever. If it doesn't seem right, you can smile, thank them and bail. I can tell you for certain you don't want to be in some motel room and find out that your online stud is really Freddy Kruger. Not unless you like high stress environments and have a conceal/carry permit and a 9mm you know how to use and are willing to.
Just my two cents, and God forbid any of you got to learn some of those lessons the hard way.
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Personally, I like/need at least a minimal connection for even a virtual tryst. At least a few words exchanged before the invite. I'm excited about the "Cafe" pose I read about in another thread. THAT would be cool! Even a coffee shop for group meetings! Oops, carried away again. I have met several people from on-line in the past (early to late 90's) and a few more recently. Some became good friends. Others, well "Fatal Attraction" comes to mind. Just be careful if you must and meet in neutral territory, and follow SueCB's suggestions (esp abt the 9mm lol). That said, my sister met a guy on a poetry website, divorced her husband (that part was underway, anyway), flew to the UK to meet him, got married and lived happily ever after, so far.
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I think AChat is a great place for one to let go of their inhibitions and embrace something they may not normally do. That being said, if you feel comfortable with the person and are willing to take the chance go ahead and meet, but be for warned. You may not get what you are expecting. On the flip side, I have been burned in the past by dating sites and other meet and greet venues that as a rule I will not meet anyone here in Real Life unless they are someone I already knew in Real Life
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It might be alright if you'd established a genuine friendship; but I suspect that otherwise it might be quite disappointing. Some of the things that are possible in Achat seem to me to fall quite clearly into the "don't try this at home" category. Not to mention the risk of finding out the bisexual female object of your desires is a gay male; or that the virile twenty-something man you've been getting it off with is actually a sad 50+ bloke who can't get it up without the aid of pills!
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As I said in the other post on the same topic:
It might be alright if you'd established a genuine friendship; but I suspect that otherwise it might be quite disappointing. Some of the things that are possible in Achat seem to me to fall quite clearly into the "don't try this at home" category. Not to mention the risk of finding out the bisexual female object of your desires is a gay male; or that the virile twenty-something man you've been getting it off with is actually a sad 50+ bloke who can't get it up without the aid of pills!
I'm here for the fantasy, and would be very worried if I felt someone I was meeting here saw it as anything else.
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the virile twenty-something man you've been getting it off with is actually a sad 50+ bloke who can't get it up without the aid of pills!
I'm certain some stereotypes pop out here, but we REALLY SHOULD think twice before making generalities. As a non-pill-popping 60+ bloke, i must remind you, "Sex after 50 is surprising only to those UNDER fifty." I don't really take offense here because I see the context, but iI often get in trouble for trying to talk with my foot in my mouth. <smile>
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No offence intended. I'm not remotely suggesting that sex is only for the under 50s, but you might be dissapointed meeting a fifty-something (little blue pills or not) if you were expecting someone in their twenties. And I'm sure Achat appeals to some precisely because it allows them to fantasize about what they might have done when younger. Even at 38 there's an element of that I can assure you ;)
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If one is blindly and foolishly accepting a meeting without qualifying their partner, they set themselves up for disappointed in the results. He can just as easily be an overweight slob under 30 reeking of BO.
In this day and age, arranging such meets is setting oneself up for problems. Predatory types thrive on the mindless arrangements of this sort.
Red lights should be flashing in the heads of women of guys who press the issue for a real life meet.
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Meeting someone real before knowing them at least some is beyond stupid. I know I did a lot of things wrong the first go-around online, but even dumb as I was, I was never that stupid.
I guess the best thing is just be careful and for sure only agree to meeting real only after knowing someone online a long while. I'd also strongly urge that it's only after other communication too, like email, phone (or maybe even cam ... sexual or not). Even with all that, you won't be sure until you meet, and even then, you can get burned (like with any real relationship). So I guess bottom line is to say "Don't rush it." If it happens, it happens.
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I guess this can work one time out of..... many...
Well, the advantage of virtual is that it makes imagination and fantasy works full speed and as we all know, our da- to-day reality is quite different.
So I guess chances of just being disappointed are enormous ;-)
Are virtual and real compatible ? Well, it would be nice to have one witness of a success....
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So I guess chances of just being disappointed are enormous ;-)
Are virtual and real compatible ? Well, it would be nice to have one witness of a success....
[size=14Well, back in the olden days of bulletin boards, we used to have parties, where many got together with their on-line friends, and i've heard of web-sites doing this, so they can be compatible for groups, anyway. Plus, i have met several women irl from websites and only had one negative experience. (i got cute and her dog bit me! lmfao!!!!!)pt][/size]
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OK, nice to see it may happen with positive outcome...
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Lol I never do that and also I never play this game with my real life friends...(I play real games with them ;))
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Eugen,
As a young girl, I will never ever give out my personal details on this site and I do get asked many times/day.
I am using the site for fun, but it is possible that some are using the site hoping to meet a partner in rl, but there is too much danger for me and I will not provide photographs which would let anyone recognise me or my address. To someone I trusted after relating to them for what I would consider long enough, I would be prepared to exchange e-mail addresses as I have set up one just for this site. But if I have set up one for this site, so many more will have done.
No I think fantasy is good enough for me, I don't consider this to be a dating site.
;)
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I sometimes fantasize about that..and even told that to my partner and fantasize about meet in real...but I am so afraid to do it. There is more to lost that profit.
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to be honest there is a lot to lose such as respect, your self esteem and also something really really bad could happen when meeting someone from achat....
only if you know the person and are sure you know them still can be a bit iffy
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I would never meet in RL with anyone on here. I might share a sexual pic of my self, however I never show my face and never ever give out contact information, other than an e-mail address I have set up for here. Too many dangers out there for me. and No I dont believe this is a dating site. It is a fantasy sex site. Emphasis on Fantasy!!!
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No meeting
No pictures
No e mail
No Web Cam
No....
@NewGurl : tsss stop the paranoia, we are not dangerous (waves a leash and a paddle) :P
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not dangerous....tsk tsk....whit a paddle!?
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not dangerous....tsk tsk....whit a paddle!?
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LOL at both of you (wiggling my ass)]
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No meeting
No pictures
No e mail
No Web Cam
No....
@NewGurl : tsss stop the paranoia, we are not dangerous (waves a leash and a paddle) :P
A leash and a paddle eh? here is my address......................
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I would never meet in RL with anyone on here. I might share a sexual pic of my self, however I never show my face and never ever give out contact information, other than an e-mail address I have set up for here. Too many dangers out there for me. and No I dont believe this is a dating site. It is a fantasy sex site. Emphasis on Fantasy!!!
Well said NewGurl! I'm the same way. I'll never go to meet anyone here in real life. With those I trust on here, I may talk about my real life some, but that's my limit. I did have some guy hounding me to meet him for a long time as it turned out he lived near me in real life, but I refused. After he persisted, I had to put him in my ignore box. >:( It's too dangerous. Also, a friend on mine in real life went to meet a girl he had been chatting with on one of these sites, & it turned into a total disaster. He flew up to Boston to meet her, & it turned out that the girl had several aliases, she was married, etc. He was devastated to say the least. :'( She didn't tell him any of this while they were chatting. This is only one of many reasons to avoid meeting someone in rl. It's not safe, & I agree that this is not a dating site. I do believe in virtual love, as my Achat wife & I are a good example of that. But I'm not one who will go to meet someone in real life.
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Shit, I wanted to invite you all to a big AChat convention this summer :D
For most of us meeting in real is not wanted. Though I can unerstand people who do want. Not only for sex. I was asked to visit a girl not so far away from my home to meet her in the city. I refused, cause I like to chat, love to have fun here, but meeting in real is another level.
For you girls it can be more dangerous. You don't really know the person behind the screen.
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Shit, I wanted to invite you all to a big AChat convention this summer :D
For most of us meeting in real is not wanted. Though I can unerstand people who do want. Not only for sex. I was asked to visit a girl not so far away from my home to meet her in the city. I refused, cause I like to chat, love to have fun here, but meeting in real is another level.
For you girls it can be more dangerous. You don't really know the person behind the screen.
Well said Lover. :) Safety is a huge concern for me. As for an AChat convention, the idea of that sounds pretty cool. ;D .
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If you really wanna do it, there must be a full deep trust between you and your, well, partner and this can be not enough.
a month or more ago, a guy, when i say him i leave in italy, come out telling me he sometimes come to Rome (maybe work!? dunno!) and like to meet me. so, i figured out he doesn't read my profile (strange, uh!?) and i had tell him i'm a guy too. he never ask it more, but, well, we had meet here and had some times again.
people i care, know about me, i tell them even if they don't had read on profile........so, sorry Stephanie if i don't had tell you before, i had think of doing it many times, cause i think you are a pretty nice friend.
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hentaiboy, I do know that you are a guy, & that's fine. :) I did read that in your profile. And this is a fantasy site, so this is the place to do that. And I think you are a very nice friend as well. :) Kisses.
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thanks....you are really sweet!
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walk with Confidence and always remember to sing!
(Solarplexes, Instep, Nose, Groin)... and I can do it wearing stilletto's... lolz.
and for those individuals that always seem to be a pest, don't be polite! Be BLUNT! - because it seems to be the only language they understand. A sweetly exclaimed F U C K O F F !! does the trick everytime.
Mwah!
AZRIELLE
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This is a very controversial issue , I could tell that most of the arguments against dating in real life,
reasonable and above all a very cautious way of looking at things.
Quite a good and safe attitude, recommended for each of us.
Certainly a sure way to save yourself the potential danger, disappointment, etc.
But - I really can not fully agree with this, cause each of us almost daily in our real-life encounters with all
what we are afraid here.
So what is the difference ?
For example, meet in a club with someone - you feel the appeal of the air and surrender to the unknown, that someone acts as a nice person but in fact you can never be sure who is the person?!
Just like and what you can not be sure who is behind the A-chat screen .
- I regret the disappointment for those who dared to move the A-chat border, get to know someone they have
met here and suffered disappointment.
- I am happy for those who have achieved happiness and fulfillment. My respect for all of them !
It's all part of life and we all know that very well.
What I know is - someone who has never dared to do nothing,
did not achieve much in anything and did not get very far.
Whether it comes to this game , real life or anything else..
I'm very grateful to all dear friends here, for each wonderful thought and a moment that we shared together.
Whether we admit it or not, they are all part of our lives - all of them in some way affect us in our real life,
even though we haven't met !
Otherwise why should we waste our time on them?!
However, I am here also to live my fantasies.
Carefully choose my friends and play the game on my way - following the intuition.
I have absolutely not one bad experience for three months as I am here,
also have no experience with the introduction of virtual ( but real ) people in my life and yes - I think that we need to be careful and smart with moving boundaries, but I'm also firmly convinced that we should follow feelings and intuition if we believe that a person worth of it.
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First jeanona, every person has to decide alone - do I want it or don't I?
I can understand, there is sometimes a big longing to meet your partner in rl. I had a wonderful girl here. We had a wonderful time for more then a year; we also used messenger to chat, mails... anything what was possible to stay in touch. The only reason we never met was the distance - she lived in US, I in Germany. The reason we aren't in contact anymore is not a fight. Just let me say, she isn't able to...
I write this to let you know my attitude. Yes, I know the big wish you can have. Yes, I understand the longing for kissing, hugging, having sex in real... and also just to see into the eyes of your lover, to talk to... face to face.
I just don't agree to your example of meeting some strange person in a club. It's the same danger. There is no "better" or "worse" danger.
Sometimes you have to follow your intuition. I eypnad this... often you have to follow it. But make sure, you're really listening to it and not only to your wish of having a wonderful lover to meet. If you meet a strange person in a club, you get more than his/her words or view. There is body langauge, expressing emotions etc... Your intuition or 6th sense gets much more information than just here on screen.
Here I could tell you how much I love you, could tell anything you want to hear... and laugh about in tne background or watch TV...
You cannot notice my real emotions. Mad idiots are very smart in using these words and finding out your wishes and desires. This is the main problem.
I for myself make it easy. I just say what I'm really feeling and simple believe the other is doing the same. As I know, never to meet this person in real, it's not a problem.
So, to come to an end, if you really wanna meet someone, make sure to know as much as possible. Chat, write mails, use messenger with webcam... it's much harder to lie over a long time and mails you can read again and again, checking for contradictory to testify.
Use the telephone, listen to the words and to the voice...
I wish you all good luck and hope, you stay here, having many more wonderful moments.
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I go into greater detail in "Janine's Dungeon" but since it feels necessary at this point...
#1. Make sure the first meeting is in a public place. Or if you are say meeting someone in another state (or country) have a verified address.
#2. Set up a safe call. What that means is that you have someone who knows where you are, and what you will be doing. At a certain time THEY are supposed to call you. If you say one thing they know everything is okay, but if you say another, or don't pick up they know to call the police and give them all the information.
If the person you are meeting has a problem with either of those notions don't meet them.
I would say more, but those two points are so often argued or out and out ignored there's not a lot of point. That, and I am listening to Manowar to get into the right frame of mind to post for the Erotic Fantasy thread, and feeling very Valkyrie right now. ;)
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Very good points Janine. There are more safeguards (you mentioned it) but I'm not sure if we really should publish them.
I have to be more unique in my opinion.
In AChat are many young and inexperienced women. Every tip we give, can give them a deceptive safety - "ah, if I do this and this nothing can happen".
But of course, as we speak about, probably every little is better than writing "don't do it".
- Ask a friend also to come to the date. This friend stays in background, just watching and able to help if necessary.
- Be careful what you drink. Not too much alcohol and keep beware of your drinks.
- If you wanna have sex don't go to his house. The best would be a hotel room.
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I think the best thing you can do if you REALLY can't wait to see him/her is meeting in a public place like Janine said but instead of making it a 1 on 1 date make it a group date to get to know wach other better and bring a couple of friends so they can tell you what they think about this new person.
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@Lover I agree in most things you said, as for me personally, I am still far from meeting in real. Even if it is decided on something like that would not be recklessly stormed into all , all the precautions that are given out here are always welcome as well, as advice for those who dare.
There is so many posts against this possibility, I just wanted to hear other opinions about everything, let me say a more positive opinion on this subject.. And Yes - I agree that each person should decide itself, is not my intention to impose my view. Maybe I still do not have enough experience here, so my opinion may seems naive and wrong,
I agree that it is possible I can not see far enough... (which certainly does not mean that diverges from my original opinion)
But I do have a lot of experience in the real, to me personally the best things in my life happened when I was able to make difficult and complex decisions and with the courage follow to the end, no matter what ,(just to know that I am not talking about trivial matters),so even though at that time all spoke against , all reasons against - are reasonable and proudly stood in front of me - still I made it, not expecting much from the future, expecting almost nothing but stunning and completely unthinkablein a very short time I got a lot. In such an extent that I need months to get used to all the good that is happening to me continuously.
For me it was marvelous, very clear indication that you should always follow your heart.
If you continue to say, one's real life and the other is this game - it is not the same thing.
Okay I accept, but I still stand by my conviction..
Thanks for listening and for the part of the experience that you shared with us. :)
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All the above are excellent suggestion for personal safety and working out how to deal with people regarding the meeting public.
The way however I approach this is like i said before I keep a degree of seperation between my AChat and rl. Therefore meeting is not on the cards, in addition I am always upfront and honest about this .. some people have had an issue about it. However I choose to take the approach that I do not expect to meet anyone on Achat i real life. This is due to many bad experiences in the past that have made this attitude. (Some have been good but the majority have been bad)
I agree for those that do decide to meet its better for a group meeting as opposed to a 1 on 1 and should be in a very public location.
It is true there are people out there in real life if you meet them that they can hurt you true of even on AChat as you build a friendship emotions are certainly part of it.
My advice from my experience is to keep these things seperate but if you are not going to proceed with all caution possible. (thats for both sides) Best case is everything goes well.
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At some point , you'll always meet someone here and ask this particular question.. What if we met in real life... ?
I agree with all the safety net advice that other members have posted.
Always meet in public.
Always tell someone where you are going with a code call but remember this too
Putting all the emotional turmoil aside and getting down to the bare bones ...this is an erotic fantasy sex site , not a dating site and is not perhaps the best place to meet a potential partner. If you are looking for love ... look elsewhere ... if you are looking for hot brain sex .. then kiddo you have hit gold :)
Enjoy your game and all that goes with it ;)
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OK, here goes! I agree with everything that has been said here regarding this being a virtual/not real/fantasy site and not a dating site. When i joined achat, i wasn't really looking to meet anyone here. i had memberships on a number of adult dating sites (after being kicked off the traditional ones for being too open and honest), and came close to meeting people a few times, but it just didn't work out logistically. however, as jeanona31 says we should be open to what is presented to us, and not reject it out of hand simply because of its source. yes, take all the aforementioned precautions and any others you can think of, but i read somewhere that "life is what happens to us while we are busy making plans." that's what happened to me.
i have met a number of sweet, kind, and incredibly sexy, sensual, sexual women on here and had a lot of fun. i am old enough and smart enough to know that what happens on achat is not the real thing. that being said, i DID meet someone who was different. in addition to being all the aforementioned things, we just seemed to "click". ultimately, we spent as much time chatting on here as playing, then played more conventional games in other places. we have spent hours and hours talking (and playing) on the phone. we have talked, cam to cam. in the 5 months we have known each other, we have spent more time talking, in depth, than i did in 25 yrs with my ex-wife (and WE talked a LOT). she knows more about me than all of my friends and family combined, probably DUE to where we met. i am totally, madly, deeply head-over-heels in love with her, and hope to be married by the end of this year (she has already said yes). Afterwards, we would like to do some kind of reception/celebration with all our friends here on achat.
i guess what i'm saying is, you might not be looking for the real thing here, but it CAN find you if you are open to it. just take the same precautions we all SHOULD take (but often don't) in real life. my previously mentioned sister's internet marriage is 17 years long, now and counting, so THERE is the success story someone was looking for! ok, i'm getting off my soapbox now... ;D
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Well, being a romantic soul....... Chasxxx, you have made my face & heart smile - Congratulations to both you and your lady.
I wish you a long and happy life together :) I just love happy endings.
I also think it was sensible of you both to take your relationship away from here to allow it to grow and flourish. Meeting is all about trust and it seems that you have successfully overcome these barriers. Many dont or cant :)
That being said though, as Chassxxx has stated - please take all necessary precautions that have been outlined in this thread, if you are strongly considering this big step .
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to brandy and any others who don't know me (yet), please call me chas (pronounced chazz). the xxx is an affectation designed to make me appear sexy and mysterious. besides, chas was already taken. sorry... off topic! lol
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Chas
Afterwards, we would like to do some kind of reception/celebration with all our friends here on achat.
This is the most importent sentence of your post ;)
Ok, just kidding... It's great you met your lady here. I wish you both all the best. Adn imo what you did is bit different to just "meet in real life". You spent hours, days, weeks... before with chatting, talking... you started to know each other on several different ways.
This is like real life goes (almost). There is nothing wrong with it.
When I answered here it was more about the question "there is someone i have a lot of fun here and he wants to meet me in real now..."
Hm, I don't know... we have an AChat-baby, perhaps now we have the first AChat-wedding :D
Go on working for this wonderful relationship.
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Very happy for you chas and wish you both all the happyness in the world ;)
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Let me join the well wishes chas. I don't think anyone her ever wanted to say it was bad or wrong (some saying it was wrong for them) more that it should be handled carefully, like you did. As Lover said, you developed there relationship rather than those who just get it into their head to move from meeting on AChat to meeting in real life.
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Dear Chas, I am so happy to hear the great news!
Congratulations to you both and wish you every happiness in the world.
I admire your courage, admire your real love that she found the way to defiance of all virtual, all the prejudices and obstacles that stood between.
Marvelous and wonderful !!!! For you and your lady - Cheers !!!!
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After reading the posts here over several weeks/months, I have decided to add my 2 cents (they are US currency so not worth a whole hell of a lot).
I came to achat just over a year ago. I came because like most I have met, I was bored and curious. I met a few people here and there and played quite a bit in the early days. I had no intention of ever having feelings for anyone, let alone arrange a real life meeting. However, that changed over the months. I met and fell in love with a man and after being together almost 24/7 for 6 months on achat, we talked about a rl meeting. We did end up meeting, twice. First time, a public place and second time a little more intimate. Worked well, until we went back to our own lives and back to achat. It was very hard for him to make the transition from rl back to virtual. Ultimately, he ended up leaving, never to be heard from again.
After this experience, I went through all the normal feelings, hurt, distrust, anger. I was convinced that I would just come back onto achat to talk with friends and make new ones. Not looking for anything.(They say love hits you when you are least wanting or looking. ) I did meet someone else. We have only known each other a short time, but already talk about the "what ifs" of the future and yes, that includes a rl meeting.
Basically, what I am trying to say is...you never know what may be around that corner, just keep on turning them. Because a "never" may turn into a "forever" without you even realizing what has happened. Just enjoy yourself, be smart and safe, and be open. Wonderful things may happen.
And best wishes to you and your intended Chas.
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Chas, i'd like to join to the congratulation! this is the proof that nothing is impossible! cheer!
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Yes I did abt a year ago...OMG...run like hell...grl....no was a guy...blk dude on top of it...I'm not a dumb ass...meet in a place where I could RUN LIKE HELL....LoL...
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This is an old thread, a bit dismissed, you can add more of your experience here, kat!
http://www.funnyadultgamesplay.com/forum/index.php/topic,1155.0.html
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So, is it OK for you, if your partner suggests you a meeting in a real-life -- say, over a cup of tea in a cafe? Would you consider such a proposal seriously, or would it make you irritated as an outing attempt, and possibly make you to add that person to your ignore list?
Hello to all kind peoples who are here.
Well, I may share my feeling, even if I feel it is a bit ... off topic ... Please accept my apologies if what I feel bother or bored you .
What I feel during my experience of Achat's Dreamworld ( as I call it myself, better than "game' ) is a way to evade my IRL life.
I must said that I am ... sadly ... a kind of broken person (spiritly ) , so my relations within the real life are very limited to my closes friend.
I know this is stupid ... because I will, this way, never makes new friend ... but ... still ... it protect me also a lot from agressions and rejection ...
So I find here, a way to fill my mind and to please like a second way to live. It is really unperfect I agree, but even the confort and security this Dreamworld grant me feel me nice and happy.
I am very not into IRL meetings, even around a cup of tea. My pleasure is to role-play, even if the way I role-play is very close to what my life was
( for exemple, I was a slave. But I am no more now ( except occasionaly with intimates peoples, but no more permanently like I was). And this Dreamworld grant me the opportunities of feeling those shame and excitations I experimented during my past experiences .)
Peoples proposing me IRL things ( meetings, SM sceances, or pictures of myself ... ) are not irritating me , they don't see my announcment, but I feel no anger or irritation of any sort. I feel ... well ... sorry ...
I will surely not add them to my "ignore list" also for just asking.
This Dreamworld lightes very ofen the canddle of my lust and horniness Myself... so I am tempted too to croos the styx between the Dreamworld and the Real World. ... But I know very much also that the real world is not as kind as the dreamed one.
What may lead to my "ignore list" is harrassement of people who ask me for IRL things continualy, and don't respect or understand that I don't want , and continue there own way for having IRL things even If I explain then I am not interested.
I know that this topic is for sharing nices experiences of IRL meetings and to please that share.
But I had to explain my point of view also . I hope I didn't bother you by doing it.
If So ... please may you accept my apologies. And may you be aware that some peoples may have others views.
I Thank you those you read me.
Please accept my best humblies regards.
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Evelyne, dear......
You have a point of view on real meeting like everyone, so don't worry, no one consider it boring.
The sad things, for me, is reading about your approch to here and real life.......i feel so sorry hearing that, but i can understand you a little, cause i don't have many friend too, but cause i didn't had found someone tio share the same hobby so easy: i'm not interessed in football (here in Italy is a must) and i find whatching it boring, most of the time. and in part it's my fault of this closed personality i have sometimes.
Anyway, i'm glad to make you blush in another thread, cause at least i think you can be a nice person......maybe just a little strange, but who isn't it!? ;)
I'll gonna catch you soon or later in your Dreamworld!
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The sad things, for me, is reading about your approch to here and real life.......i feel so sorry hearing that,
Hello Mister HentaiBoy69
Please don't be sorry about me ... Please. I now feel really happy with my life. Even before I join this wonderfull Dreamworld's communauty!
I must admit ... that now I am like a bit hooked by the Dreamworld ... I may agree ... But It is just a complementary fun ( and what fun it is for me ) to my present life.
I know I might seem strange sometime. Even my Friends are sometime unconfortables with my habits of apologise a lot, always asking for permission ... I know ... but still, this is the way I found that work the best with me for having social relations. Even during commercial meetings I used to be like that ... sometime it make those meetings a little weird and fun ... But I think it is a good thing, and most of time, I got what I wanted , so I don't bother ...
Anyway ... that time, I am really off Topic.
I Leave ... Bests Humbliess Regards.
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Evelyne, i really hope you are happy, cause everyone need a ray of light in their life. and sorry if i say you are strange, never in my mind to mean it in a bad way!
and, oh gosh, you had call me Mister again......ah ah, it sound so unfamiliar to me....but it's nice!
Better back on topic from now...... ::)
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Evelyne, I don't believe anyone who has posted here feels their answer is the one and only true word for all to hear and heed.all i am saying is like in real life, you have the potential for finding something wonderful and beautiful in the dream world if you open your mind to it. taking that final step is always your choice.
I have also found that therer ARE negative aspects, even to an apparently fairy-tale occurence like mine. some of the supposedly "grown-up" males i entrusted with this information have decided they don't get enough attention any more and cancelled relationships with her. that is fine and their choice, but don't try to dump the onus of lack of contact on her! she responds to anyone who talks to her. if you want to talk with someone, you talk to them. if you don't tell them you need/want to talk to them, are they supposed to read your mind? sorry i went astray here. this needs its own thread....
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Chas, they are just envy of your relationship.......or, at last, they not so "mature" as they look at your eyes.
i know something about it for my personall experience whit my spouse Marla and a guy......at last i spent more time whit him then whit Marla, but he gone crazy for every little thing (talking whit other while i was chatting whit him, lol!). some months ago he argue whit Marla and he start a war whit her and i was put in the middle by him, till he ask me to choose between them. at least, i leave the decision to him and he don't wan to see me more.
is this insanity, maybe!? yes! at least, every world have mad peoples around, even the dreamworld!
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Is it envy, misunderstanding or other reasons?
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I wouldn't rule out meeting someone from here irl, not one bit. Of course one should be cautious and venture towards that kind of endeavor with care. But who's to say where you will find that special someone in your life? I have seen online relationships work out rather well for folks, some even leading to marriage. I've also met ladies irl who I've only been acquainted with online, a lot are still on my facebook page and have remained good friends.. I have also seen/been in some that have blown up in a tragic end in the years I've been joining online chat rooms, meeting places and dating sites. Why limit ones self if you're truly looking for a relationship? I surely won't.
I try and keep an open mind when meeting new people both here and on other sites where friends can meet and get to know one another. Would hate to think my special someone would slip through my fingers because I was too narrow minded to even consider it on this site/game..
Just my .02