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Discussions about sex => Everything about sex and love => Topic started by: LessonInSexy on September 30, 2009, 07:26:42 AM
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I thought i would start a post where people can list their turn ons as far as Achat goes :P. Keep in mind everyone is different and thats ok. What is it you look for when you come on to Achat? What type of conversations do you enjoy having most? Is there room for conversation at all?
For me it is: meeting new people, I love to laugh so if you have a great sense of humor I think we'll do just fine, I love people who are polite and sweet and also patient(very big turn ons). Conversation is kind of like jello for me... theres always room for it.
See you all on Achat :-*
Oh and before I forget, theres a few things that really get to me and are also my turn offs: Being sent random invites.... not because I think it is rude but because it actually makes the program act kind of weird(even though it is rude...) random threats when I don't reply, getting angry when I don't reply and spamming my chat box with hello's(from the same person)
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I'll join you on this LIS. When I started achat, I was like a kid who had found the key to the sweets jar: I wanted to taste them all ;)
But very quickly I got to know a few people quite well, and now I often come here just to chat with people who have become more than simple pseudonyms. I can even say that, like you I believe, I met one person who has become very special :)
Now when it comes to those intimate moments, fantasy is the key. I love to imagine scenarios and act them out. Once my partner and I didn't even click on any action; we just typed and went along with our common fantasy :D
Imagination... the ultimate weapon ;)
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Leo, you said everything I wanted to say. :) What I first came here for is now second to coming back to the lovely ladies I can now call my friends.
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Very good topic to start...
for me
* Getting to know the people I am chatting with makes it so when the private room choice is made that alone then turns me on.
* Littletyping motion flirting like poking,pinching, whispering, and tickling is a turn on for me to do and to get.
* Getting Offline messages when I 1st sign on in game about anything even saying hi draws me to a person more.. I find that a turn on
* Normal chatting about everyday things is like a bonding thing that I feel like I know them better and that is a turn on
* In the room I really find it all erotic and a turn on (Being on top and Missionary is the best sofar for me)
* I do enjoy some fantasy/rollplay a turn on, although it depends on the person for me.. Hard to find good rollplay
There is more but all I can think of now...In the game some just say the right things at the riight time and they turn me on..
Turn offs
* Strangers wanting room
* Aggressive guys/girls
* Dannyello
* Constant invites with no chat
* 2 minutes chatting then feel like chatted enough and invite
* Premium-members that think they are better then Non-premium-members just because they are premium.. I have met and had better chats with non-premium then some premium
Sandy
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i agree with Leo :-* the use of imagination is the most important thing in this interaction, also just plain common courtesy and respect for the other people that you are "with" is doubly important.. and really well worded and descriptive actions. :D
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For me... Well i guess i will say the same things than Leo : when i first came to achat, it was for sex. I have to be honest about it. But i soon realized that is was also a wonderful place to chat and meet people. I started to talk for hours with a member whithout doing anything sexual, and she became a friend. That's just how am i : i love to talk with people. And i don't really see the interest to have virtual sex with somebody you don't even know a little. There's nothing really exciting about it.
This is a short answer, i'll try to be more talkative in the future... Believe me, i can do that ! ;)
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I started to talk for hours with a member whithout doing anything sexual, and she became a friend.
lil' sweeties 4 ya Florent xxx
Yes i'm very talkative and i think it's very important. That help me build strong relationship. With communication the game raise another level ;-)
Louna the Morbid Girl (http://pichipoeme.p.i.pic.centerblog.net/0dx05lxh.jpg)
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HMM... thought I would also join this forum and respond
yes boys and girls this is Sandy's husband... I am back intown till monday then you all can have her back..
Well she is looking over my shoulder right now as I read what turns her on...
I would like to say Thanks to those who have kept and will keep her company while I was and will be away.. Shes has mentioned a few players and to those Thanks..
Well turn on for me are---Sandy...
Hey i am simple just her is all i need to get turned on..
LOL so i come Home and shes sick... I might need to play this game and rub one out(I got slapped in the back of my head for that)... geesh...
well chat more Later I am going to bed i am tired
later
RocknN'Stomper
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Hi RockN,
Welcome to the Forum.
Don't worry, we will take good care of her for you while you are gone.
;)
Hope you feel better soon SS.
bobbler
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Hi all,
i am 100% with Sandy. I agree with her list of turn-on and turn-offs. Including this particular user in the forum. ;D
Tharvun
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Come on guys and gals, don't be shy.. you certainly aren't on Achat :P. and for everyone else who has responded, have fun! and I hope you always find what you're looking for :-*
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What's turn me on? a lot of things...
without starting a chat
first of all
the pose and the perspective of the avatar... I hate the front-standup pose... the right example of my preference is ugly leila... her poses and angles of view are everytime interesting and not usual
second
an interesting profile message, that say something of the personality of the person
third
a complete profile, expecially in the provenience... well maybe it's only a false problem, but my english is poor and I be shy with the persons that are English native speakers... from the other side, I like to chat in italian but some italian here use non italian names and don't put the country in the profile...
In chat
first and only... HAVE A CHAT!!! I hate the random invites and the persons that say HI and invite me...
I'm a person, I like to know something of the other persons before to go in room...
In room
I love to describe my acts, to complete the poses and the actions of the room... I love the persons that do the same, or that ask me something to do... I love the particulars, focalize my mind on the acts... have some response from the other person and reach a real feeling of intentions...
I love to know the fantasies and the really state of the person with me... I can fill a situation with a lot of stimulations, but without a feelback the fantasy it's only mine... it's a game for 2 (and maybe in the future for few ::) ) persons, not a solitarie... and know the situation of the other person in real can change the game and make it more "immediate"...
I like to be a bit servant... in some cases I like to follow the requests of my partner to satisfaction her... but it's depend from the character of my partner ;)
and what turn me off :
Without starting a chat
the avatar with the standard pose and naked or with the standard dresses, the avatar with a nacked part without a reason (like a profile message that explicate it) or the poses with the avatar far at the horizzont
the empty or sickly profile message, like "fuck me" or "I'm a slut" or something of similar... if someone have that message I probably don't respond at it... the empty messages for me are a lost possibility to describe yourself or feel your preferences...
the empty or fantasy country take me in dubit... from a side I'm curious to ask the provenience but the other side I think that if someone don't fill this part of his/her profile, ask the provenience is rude... I prefere who write it directly :P
In chat
the people that not respond... I know that we aren't everytime in front of the chat window, but I search to start a conversation, I make question, or comments about the profile message or about the pose or the dress of the avatar... I don't say only HI and send an invite... well I like the answers and prefere a "I'm busy" to a silence...
In room
the people that want be immediate... I want use my fantasy... this is a relation game, not a first person shoter... I can be quick, but I want have the time for my mind to explore the situation and receive the right stimulation... sometime the rytms of the persons are different and in this case I suppose that is better be honest and say the truth and ask more time or close the room...
And sorry for the papyre ;D ;D ;D
mmm... the post isn't too long.. I must add something again ;-)
Chatting with Ninni I had see that my post sound like a stone...
I don't pretend all that... only ask to the others to respect my ideas...
I'm sure that not everytime I can respect the my ideas too.. but is a trace...
If I can I'll do that I have write.. if not, well... no one is perfect ;D
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Great post, Willyco... I mean really, great post!
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Very good topic to start...
for me
* Getting to know the people I am chatting with makes it so when the private room choice is made that alone then turns me on.
* Littletyping motion flirting like poking,pinching, whispering, and tickling is a turn on for me to do and to get.
* Getting Offline messages when I 1st sign on in game about anything even saying hi draws me to a person more.. I find that a turn on
* Normal chatting about everyday things is like a bonding thing that I feel like I know them better and that is a turn on
* In the room I really find it all erotic and a turn on (Being on top and Missionary is the best sofar for me)
* I do enjoy some fantasy/rollplay a turn on, although it depends on the person for me.. Hard to find good rollplay
There is more but all I can think of now...In the game some just say the right things at the riight time and they turn me on..
Turn offs
* Strangers wanting room
* Aggressive guys/girls
* Dannyello
* Constant invites with no chat
* 2 minutes chatting then feel like chatted enough and invite
* Premium-members that think they are better then Non-premium-members just because they are premium.. I have met and had better chats with non-premium then some premium
Sandy
Ha,Ha :D You love me...yes ;)
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Willyco, i agree with you. 300% agree !
:)
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@Willyco this is a grat post, i am completly with you.
Your turn ons i mine too.
And concerning the turn offs, i have to repeat:
A Big problem are people who do not respond. You can be busy, ok, you do not like the person who wants to chat to you ok, no prob. But it is no prob either to send a short message like "busy" oder "dont like to talk". You know than, that you dont have to try again.
And if you are not at the machine: well logout or leave a message.
Simple form of courtesy produces less unnecessary - mostly stupid - chatting and all know better what they can do.
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@Willyco this is a grat post, i am completly with you.
Your turn ons i mine too.
And concerning the turn offs, i have to repeat:
A Big problem are people who do not respond. You can be busy, ok, you do not like the person who wants to chat to you ok, no prob. But it is no prob either to send a short message like "busy" oder "dont like to talk". You know than, that you dont have to try again.
And if you are not at the machine: well logout or leave a message.
Simple form of courtesy produces less unnecessary - mostly stupid - chatting and all know better what they can do.
I know you don't have many choices as far as girls to talk to tharvun, but you can't really get upset if someone doesn't respond to you for not being at the computer. Not really much you can do there except move on sweetie. Being busy or away from the computer has nothing to do with being rude.
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a charming man starting a witty conversation trying to win a date lol
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@ LessoninSexy
thanks very much for answering.
That is what i said. I belive that in many cases it is not rudeness. I belive that the person not answering is not at the Coputer. But you dont know.
So I made the proposal to either logout if you are away (logging in again takes a few seconds), or leave a message in the charakter profil, that you are away, as many users already do. That is also a very nice and easy way to tell people you are not there at present.
Thanks in advance
Tharvun
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I'll be a bit more direct:
chatting outside the room:
flirty girls, girls who get to be a bit suggestive and then start to escalate their suggestions
inside the room:
talking dirty, telling my partner what to do & vice versa, having them tell me what they are doing in real & vice versa, girls who use toys, seducing my partner being as descriptive as possible and
the #1 thing that turns me on in the room is .. .... ..... ..... .. .... ....!!! :o
...forgot something...adding it now...
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So i think i also will write a little about this topic. This has two reasons:
First to vitalize the forum a little (maybe Danny isnt that annoying, at least he does this - oh my god what did i say, i summoned the daemon)
Second to let you know something aboout my likes and dislikes
Many things are already said, so i am short EDIT: No i am not short sorry
and will tell turn ons and turn offs together
BEFORE CHAT:
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a profile with some useful information, the info does not have to be the truth, but it must be valid for this game, especially the country. I am from Germany and i speak enough english to chat but it is easier to chat in my native lagnuage.
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a nice Avatar. I know the possibilities for free users are not that big. But i hate the front view pics of bald men with white shirt or no shirt or even worse comöleatly naked. Come on also as a free use you can play a little with the avator.
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some nice info in the box, something to make me curious or so. I know i am not the best example for this as i use it to scare away jerks but i try to compensate this with a nice picture auf the avatar ;D
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dressing, i really like to change the outfit and style, one of the reasons i became prem.
IN CHAT:
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a good intro, not just "hi, h r u" or even ruder, "hi bitch" or something esle. This is essentil also for the one introducing to me, as an interessting intro makes me curious and i will answer even when i am quite busy (even when i am really busy i always try to say everone at least i am busy).
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interessting and personal topics. I like it when this develops like in an real date. There you also talk only, when you have something to say to say. When i realize that may partner in chat is only doing same standard phrases, waiting for some time to invite me, i am totally turned off.
I like it even to chat when there is nothing with sex in it and we leave after an hour or more. Some days ago i had a nice chat with a young guy from israel doing his 3year military service now. We chatted about country, travel and even politics and thats it.
Of course there are exeptions: When i know someone fe, it can be quite thrilling too to play the horny girl who wants a quickie and take the guy without much talk.
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building up the tension i like, creating suspense, teasing and necking. Never allowing the other to be sure of me. (of course only if the chat is going in a sexual direction.
On the other hand i dont like it that much when a guy - especially someone i chat firsttime with - thinks he can be too sure, because the chatting is switching to Sex. I often experience it, that a nice chat turns into a "wanna fuck" boring story, when the first words about sex are said.
IN ROOM:
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i like the scenes and actions. Although they in most cases do not suit my fantasies a 100%. So i like to use them to supprt the things i have in mind and i try to tell my partner. This ideally leads to a long and thrilling illustrated story about sex. So the pictures are importent but that is not all as the most important things happen in my mind.
2.
As i said i like to tell what is in my fantasy, not in real life. I dont think it is that interessting what i do with my fingers during the virtual sex. I think everybody knows what it means when the answers and comments beginn to fade a little. I want to tell a story in my mind not a report about the situation in my bedroom. ;)
Of course i am not angry if one asks me nice about it. And if i have the the feeling my partner really likes some "info" i will tell him some exiting details about the lingerie i am wearing ;) but i really dont need a description of may partner while wanking over his computer. I know, we all do this, but it is a lot nicer to think about how it should be (sex together in room) than how it is in rl.
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As I told, the most important thing is a good story, so i had good experiences - especially at time i wasnt prem with other free users but also now- without any animation. But i like the animations they are worth their money. But i dont like the guys - often new users - who say "wow a hole bunch of options, i have to try all" and than start clicking down the line, a total turn off.
Well that should be enough. Its already way too much. But i am talkative.
EDIT: well i little tooo long i think ;)
Edit: and sorry if this sounds as if i am a little nosy and spoiled, but I expressed my wishes and whats neceessary to make me really happy of course I have a lot of fun too when not all this things are met. But as the wise say: "Der Weg ist das Ziel" (dont know in english)
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Just to help you Ninni, and to support a great post, here's how I would translate it (as you, I am not a native English speaker, but I've heard that expression in my own language):
"The main goal of a trip is the trip itself"
Hugs to you, and take care all.
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@BigLeo
Thanks Leo, a great translation. That was it what I wanted to say.
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So far...nothing has turned me on....I have said "Hello" to several ladies, only to get ignored.
I only asked for help since I am new here. Is everyone this rude?
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no Estel, not everyone is like that, dont be put off. iv only been on for a week and have been able to chat to a couple of real friendly people (and really hit a spark with a girl with similar tastes)
i think because some girls get so many random messages and invites (which arent asked for) they tend to ignore some. if you ever need help, id be willing to help (though im still new to things myself :P )
what turns me on as far as playing? simply knowing the girl is having a good time...i prefer to give pleasure rather than receive...so really paying attention to a girls wishes, and knowing they are enjoying themselves really gives me a high.
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HI ESTELE; :-* I 'm the black sheep here. But I say so :COURAGE. :D :D :D :-* Smile please.
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@Estel and zsasz
I understand that it is sometimes a little frustrating for you guys, especially when there are a lot of guys online and only a few girls who are looking for men.
You often get no response or a very short one. But please keep in mind, that the girls are often overwhelmed with guys wanting to chat, being rude or just blindly inviting. Sometimes you get 10 or more blind invitations within a few minutes and hear chats like "How are you hun, i wanna fuck your ass" as first words from a guy you dont know. In this cases you may sometimes be not that nice to guys addressing you especially when you are in the middle of an hot chat and get your window spammed.
I always try to be polite and answer everybody (at least with a "sorry busy") but often its not possible. And often I hear things like "Oh no, you never talk to me, why? Please talk to me."
So please be patient and try more often in a nice, polite and interessting way. (To start a chat with: "Hi how are you" is polite but not very interessting).
AND: Try to learn the programm first. There is a help routine. YOu can ask questions in the forum and you can have first experiences (though not that sexy) with robot girl. I am very, very often adressed be guys pretending they are new, they need a helping hand and so and. But I soon relized that this is only a trick . And i dont like to be tricked.
AND: Guys, try to make yourselfes look special. I know this is not easy on free account. But you can doo something. Naked guys showing their dick or bald guys with naked chests are real turn off, at least for me.
So good look for you and all the newbies
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I'll agree with you on one thing and disagree on another Ninni. I'll agree on most though, don't worry ;)
For a start: patience young Padawan; the way to the room is a complicated one, and being too hasty or demanding will only lead to the dark side.
But I wanted to say that it's often difficult to start a conversation with anything else than "hello, how are you?", especially when you don't know the person already. That's why an interesting introduction message is often very helpful. But we're not always inspired on a daily basis, so the "hello, how are you?" is already a good start.
Even long time members have tough days sometimes and get all their messages ignored. Don't lose faith guys and keep cool and friendly. There are really very interesting encounters to be made, and some of them might even become truly incredible :)
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@Big Leo
i think we do not really disagree. I should have been more precise maybe. I said, the usual "how are you" is polite, so nobody will blame you for this.
But fact is, that you hear this intro quite often and its difficult to continue after the usual opening (... i am fine, and you? thats good, i am fine too....), so I wanted to say its not interessting and this is fact (imho). Of course often there is no other option but i suggest, that you should always try to do something special.
And he Estel if you are really new here and find me online and not busy i will giude you around ;D
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Lol Ninni, maybe we should wear a badge on our avatars saying, "welcoming party" :)
I'm just doing it for a newbie right now ;)
Take care and talk to you soon :)
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I must say I agree so much with the last posts above. I must admit I'm one of the "Hi. How are you?" guys, and to be perfectly honest I use it to see of there's anyone that's not way too busy on the other end. It's only when I get a reply to the initial greeting I even start trying. Even a simple "hi" is quite enough to let me come back with a more interesting thing to say or ask.
I perfectly understand both sides to this issue however and would really like to take the opportunity to raise the topic of different status (available, busy, afk) for our characters, this would reduce a lot of the spamming (from the people who respect them at least).
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A lot of good things have been said here already, so I won't repeat them all... The only thing I'd like to say to the girls - please, be creative with your profiles. If you put no info, no introduction line, and a completely generic avatar, there is really nothing to latch on, there is no interest on my side, and what else would you expect other than 'Hi, how are you doing?', which really doesn't stand out of the another million generic tells you are getting.
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Something that i really hate : you start talking with someone, sometimes with someone that contacted you in the first place, and suddenly you get now answers anymore and realize that the person you were talking to went into a room in the middle of the conversation, without even telling you... Kind of rude, isn't it ? >:(
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@Florent
this is the "what turns me on threat" not opposite ;D
I can understand you Florent, but there is something to say to you complaint.
First:
If you are in the middle of an really hot or interessting chat it is of course simple courtesy to tell a partner that you got in invitation you want to accept or you are going to invite somebody yourself. This is especially true if the one going to the room has started the chat.
I know this Problem myself.
But:
You have to make differences. If fe you started the chat and you did not more than a few exchanges of messages with your partner just doing some intro i think it is not nexessary to tell everybody that you are going to the room. This would be a lot of work and i for myself would rather stop to say hello to everybody who starts a chat with me that to feel the obligation to tell everybody what i am going to do. A chat some other started is in m opinion free of obligations as long as there is no real hot or interessting discussion.
And:
The time factor is important. In some cases it is nearly impossible to remember who started talking to you and what the chat window is too small und if you get messages from different partners very fast it is even difficult to scroll back as with every new message it scroll to the end of the messages again. So if its some time ago since the last message I think there too is no obligation to say bye, as this takes a lot of time and you often even dont know if the partner is still there.
And2:
There is the Problem of too much guys and too few (hetero or really bi) girls. I think many girls know this: You log in and quite a lot of men start chatting to you. I understand this and i always try to answer at least a "i am busy sorry" message but sometimes it is too much. You cant even read the messages properly not to speak of answering them. In this cases i too sometimes just escape to the room with robot or log out.
LOL In generel you are right Florent, it is a turn off when you chat and the partner just leaves. I just wanted to explain to you that it is sometimes not that easy to be courteous enough. I hope i didnt make you angry. ;)
And maybe the partner didnt realize she was rude. So why dont send her a message and explain it in a nice and friendly way?
Good luck in the future.
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:) no not everyone maybe on line but busy keep trying it`s great
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Hiya's...
A great turn on for me is chatting with a person who speaks a different language. English is what I speak, but it can be a lot of fun learning the words for doing things or certain body part, no matter what language is it. Being in AChat means that we all share in one thing.. Pleasure.
Using different languages is only an obstical, not a barrier.
Thanks for letting me share,
Pafe
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I like to learn (not only another language ;D ) and I love to speak english. This game and the forum are (unfortunately) the only way for me in the moment to do it.
Sometimes the barrier is that I can't be as detailled as I would like to be. Some terms are missing and for some words I don't know all the possible names... but I give my best and always am willing to learn ;)
Just two examples: In this forum we have "the tale of erotic fantasy thread". Neither I'm familiar with the background, nor with some terms. But I try to get the meaning, using translator, my brain and I also ask. So I have to get the meaning, write my story and translate it. ButI know, even few mistakes are not the problem cause my friends here also give their best to understand. Thanks for that!
The other example is in the game, no matter if "just" chat or in room. We just have the chance to write and read (including few emoticons) to express ourselves. The other chance we have in RL, emphasis, sounds, speed of voice, facial expressions and gestures, are completely missing. But I usually have fun with my partners, cause even if you don't understand everything you understand - if you want. So it's a big pleasure to see both have fun at least.
There is another interesting view: If two people talking, both are not english-native speakers (like Bonnie, Medjai, Tight and I and we speak in english, we understand. It's great to have this kind of understanding of two people, both using a (more or less) strange language.
You can say, it's just fun. But you also can say, AChat is also for international understanding. Not just in having fun, also in learning different cultures, different habites and peculiarities.
I'm happy to all of this and wanna use this way to say "Thank you to all of you"!
Lover
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Chatting dont everytime turn me on , but i like chat before go in room . after , i love spanking (me spanking others mmmmm) , this is the extacy , add to this licking breasts , kissing , dancing , and maybe i let you spank me ;D
yes i know , a friend told me not so long time that i'm crazy *look at hentai* , and its true ;D
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1) A nice profile, where a player has been inventive with his words - tagline and look, even free players should try and make the effort
2) An unusual chat up - not dirty on first contact - but suggestive and respectful or even just plain friendly which could lead to an interesting rp
3) Hate it when a conversation has started or in mid flow and suddenly the other person has roomed without telling you .. its just plain rude.
4) Like confidence and a little bit of arrogance, keeps the conversation fun and interesting
5) A sense of humour and play on words
6) Descriptive narrative - like rl rp dating :)
7) Begging, really hate begging in first contact chat ( Beggings ok, after a lot of teasing in the room lol .. or even better if my man goes caveman on me hehe)
8) VAVA VOOM - chemistry mmmmmmm
9) A refusal is a refusal - take it in good humour and move on ... its not personal - I could be busy or just not have the same tastes.
10) Hate a person being rude because I havent answered right away - I usually have a good reason and do try and answer as soon as
11) What actually turns me on ??? ... mmm thats the fun part finding out and vice versa hehe
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Oh Rukya. TY for your welcome on another post, I'm sorry I didn't acknowledge it earlier :)
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I like to hear what a woman enjoys both in and out of the bedroom. Obviously, ladies with similar interests intrigue me which makes a great RP jump start.
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1) A nice profile, where a player has been inventive with his words - tagline and look, even free players should try and make the effort
2) An unusual chat up - not dirty on first contact - but suggestive and respectful or even just plain friendly which could lead to an interesting rp
3) Hate it when a conversation has started or in mid flow and suddenly the other person has roomed without telling you .. its just plain rude.
4) Like confidence and a little bit of arrogance, keeps the conversation fun and interesting
5) A sense of humour and play on words
6) Descriptive narrative - like rl rp dating :)
7) Begging, really hate begging in first contact chat ( Beggings ok, after a lot of teasing in the room lol .. or even better if my man goes caveman on me hehe)
8) VAVA VOOM - chemistry mmmmmmm
9) A refusal is a refusal - take it in good humour and move on ... its not personal - I could be busy or just not have the same tastes.
10) Hate a person being rude because I havent answered right away - I usually have a good reason and do try and answer as soon as
11) What actually turns me on ??? ... mmm thats the fun part finding out and vice versa hehe
Marry me !!!! ;D
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@ Urban so right chat first and some flirting aceeptable > but to day on yahoo chat had arabic man lol all i did was ask about where he lives and now hounding me> scouts honour didnt do anything to him react that way ! gulp > wants to marry me to make me respectable and honest woman > i think i have a cyber stalker > shit inthat country id be so dragged in middle city and stoned to dearth ! hehehehee well my older sister did tell me stay away from those countries when i star traveling next year
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Hello kind peoples of the DreamWold's Forum.
I may be very much like many, and this is really pleasefull.
About chatting, I please a lot people who just don't think I am a bag of meat just waiting for them to be impaled without concerns.
Even with "Slaved' ( my ... well ... submissive personality I may say ) Inventive and honest chat may turn me on.
For I may be some kind of sex doll, I have not to complain that peoples just ask for me to lay down, I agree.
But that will not really fuel my lust. Even slaves have feelings ...
Rude chats, even insults may be kinky if told well ( for me ) and in the right moment and context.
With "Slavedmind" ( my second Avatar who she represent more my Girly side, the dream of I would be ... ) It is completly different
for I usualy switch to her when I can't handle no more the feelings I had with "Slaved" or when I want to had some spiritually rest.
I please a lot peoples who are kinds and gentles.
Chatting is almost my best pleasure with Slavedmind. And I had very nice chats with people that are innovatives.
Some peoples who have a fantasy ( I wait for a person who have a really nice Pirate fantasy and who assume it , to return ) may also catch me to their fantasy and that really please me. And that may lead us to nice Roleplay moments that eventualy may lead us to making love.
What make me feel really pleased is people, who had read my annoucement, and who respect it.
Nice chat may be ruined by a turn into "Real" stuff ( Asking for pictures, mails, skype ... ) That really kill the magic for me .
Like if I don't put some favorites about activities ... their is a reason ...
Well I know it may seem weird I may act so differently, and even feel differently with the two Avatars of mine. That is why I call them my "personality"
I think also that the Turn on is really a matter of mood. But who said that life and human contacts are simples ...
Please accept my best humbly regards
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Urban ... MWAHHHHH ;)
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@ Urban so right chat first and some flirting aceeptable > but to day on yahoo chat had arabic man lol all i did was ask about where he lives and now hounding me> scouts honour didnt do anything to him react that way ! gulp > wants to marry me to make me respectable and honest woman > i think i have a cyber stalker > shit inthat country id be so dragged in middle city and stoned to dearth ! hehehehee well my older sister did tell me stay away from those countries when i star traveling next year
Thats one of the main reasons why I only chat with a person I meet on achat in achat or the forums. Giving out your yahoo is just a little too personal to do even if its just a yahoo thats used specifically for achat. The reason why is because it always comes with expectations from the other person. (and I have had negative experiences from there in the past)
I think its because he has a different idea on what kind of relationship this is I dont doubt you were very clear on that Island but still some people need it drilled home to them. The whole "we are playing to have fun. do not take it overly serious" ... personally irl I tend to stay away from arabic people due to having an ex-bf-stalker that was arabic that forced me to change states to get away and put a AVO that i have to renew on him yearly. The secondary reason why I stay away from them before you think its racist is just because in some cases their attitude stinks and they can be very restrictive in their attitudes. (Something thats very much against my personality)
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Had to look up what an AVO really was, even though I kinda got what it was from the context. It's kinda sad that such measures are needed against some individuals, imo noone is going to get happy from it... but I guess it's an obsessive thing.
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@kittenlepurr lesson learned Thanks
@Adera hey girl long time no hear ! soon as I get some time psst whispers in ur ear maybe some time your on same time we have to pull a fast one on one of our mutual friends ..... grin
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Had to look up what an AVO really was, even though I kinda got what it was from the context. It's kinda sad that such measures are needed against some individuals, imo noone is going to get happy from it... but I guess it's an obsessive thing.
Sorry Adera, -cuddles- I should be clearer there but its good you were able to find it out. Its a cease and desist order it also doesn't allow the offending person within a certain distance of you for your protection. I agree I didn't want to put it out against him but trust me it was something I needed to do just for my own personal safety.
@kittenlepurr lesson learned Thanks
Very much so Islandsun it was not the best lesson to learn just really the only option.
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@Adera hey girl long time no hear ! soon as I get some time psst whispers in ur ear maybe some time your on same time we have to pull a fast one on one of our mutual friends ..... grin
Ehehe
Sorry Adera, -cuddles- I should be clearer there but its good you were able to find it out. Its a cease and desist order it also doesn't allow the offending person within a certain distance of you for your protection. I agree I didn't want to put it out against him but trust me it was something I needed to do just for my own personal safety.
Oh, I was a bit unclear in what I meant there. I meant that as I see it, he's the one with problems and because he can't let go he hurts you as well. What saddens me is that there are people like him that makes things like that necessary.
*Idly pets your head* ;)
I'm happy that you have the AVO up against him, at least with it you can go on with your life even if he can't.
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I agree I didn't want to put it out against him but trust me it was something I needed to do just for my own personal safety.
He has to take response about his behaviour. You just did what was necessray to protect yourself. Unfortunatley people like him don't learn... and don't understand so this is the only way to keep him away.
Don't think about him, live your life and find real nice people.
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@kittenlepurr > its called restrainning order here ! had same thing for 3 yrs age 15 ttill almost 18 > now i help w parents w daughters in same situation , but have to stop some times cuz flash backs, But has made me stronger !
scars barley visable out side but inside takes longer ! And was hard on my moma.
past been helping a father cuz his daughter in same way , he talks w me , and more concern teen > boy friends on the riase w violence
Hate this shit !
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@ Islandsun
I know you have it called a restraining order where you are but i thought I would call it what it was locally. I should have just used the restraining order term easier to understand.
Then you know where I was coming from Island its not a good experience for anyone. I think its great your trying to help people through the process I dont like to think about it or relive it so I try to stay away from it -because all it does is start tears-. We all cope in our own ways. I can safely talk about it but yeah.
Yes that is true they are .... but I believe its because people aren't taught how to give basic respect to others with the way everything is up and easy to get they believe relationships should be the same way. Which they aren't ever.
Honestly I hate it as much as you do.
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Kitten' ty for sharing this, I realize that it brings up painful and emotional issues affecting your life, but if it reminds others of the potential pitfalls of opening yourself to other forms of "play" here...holds their motivation from making an ill advised decision they are being pressured on, then your words and shared experiences on a serious topic are priceless and I hope well heeded.
Several months after I first joined I befriended a young woman, never romantically involved, we just chatted. Her openness,... sweet disposition and innocence enchanted many men...in fact she founded herself hounded by many to share much more than just time in a room. I constantly had to remind her,... true friends will not make conditional requirements to do more than what a partner feels comfortable with. That is the important part, no matter how close, expectations to push the limits are a red flag. She subsequently lost partners... but at that moment,... time here she needed a reminder that rushing into sharing is not necessarily the best decisions. When she buckled... gave in... she found herself pressured more and more... luckily she heeded my warnings...
In this day and age,... one should be aware that a technically proficient partner can glean quit a bit of information. Stalkers...female as well as male can find ways to intervene in your life in matters that can be disruptive and embarrassing. All I can offer,... and advise is that any decision to extend and incorporate other modes of interaction is that there is a risk...
Though personally I have found I enjoy incorporating vocal chat with room play...I do not predicate relationships on the necessity of using external sources.
The important part is being aware... making intelligent decisions, rather than rash ones of the heart.