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Title: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Fantastical on January 14, 2013, 05:57:53 PM
I dont quite understand why women refuse to reply on this game. I know they aren't afk because 2 mins later there yellow. Or i just seen them get on. Im tired of hearing "oh we have tomany people in chat" If you cant take 2 secounds to reply with a "hi busy" Hi not interested" "hi your to young" or whatever then you need to learn to multi task. It isnt hard ive had my page filled up with chat but i still take the time to reply to people im not interested in letting them know. It really irks me sometimes. /end rant lol feel better now
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: A123lolo on January 14, 2013, 06:12:08 PM
This is a good question.
I ask myself the same question.

Perhaps because she is not interested and she don't want to pass any time to answer.
Perhaps because she has lot of friend and she has no time to answer.
Perhaps because she is impolite.

or perhaps I don't understand women  ;)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Adera on January 14, 2013, 06:15:53 PM
I dont quite understand why women refuse to reply on this game. I know they aren't afk because 2 mins later there yellow. Or i just seen them get on. Im tired of hearing "oh we have tomany people in chat" If you cant take 2 secounds to reply with a "hi busy" Hi not interested" "hi your to young" or whatever then you need to learn to multi task. It isnt hard ive had my page filled up with chat but i still take the time to reply to people im not interested in letting them know. It really irks me sometimes. /end rant lol feel better now

I don't know how others handles it but yes... sometimes I wont bother replying if the person seems boring or uninteresting. There are also some times when I am in fact too caught up chatting to take notice of each and everyone greeting me.

Btw, are there many girls that are actually telling you that you're too young for them? I hope you wont get upset by me saying this... but I don't think you're too young. ::) :P
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Fantastical on January 14, 2013, 06:26:47 PM
Ive been told by several older ladies that im to young. Im 27 not a child nor am i looking for some kind of mother fetish. I just prefer the older more experienced women because the play is deeper and more passonate. I know alot of guys on here give younger guys a bad name... But ive seen plenty of 50+ men who act like there 12 lol. But on to the topic... I find it really rude that you cant atleast tell me your not interested... Instead of makeing me feel dumb or like im ugly or something lol...



P.S Adera i dont mind lol i actually tried talking to you once :p
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Cheya on January 14, 2013, 07:07:59 PM
Hello Fantastical


You might be right to a certain degree but you always have to consider the other side, first of all it can really happen that we are away from our keyboard or getting flooded with messages, i consider myself pretty experienced in multitasking but if i get about 10 people spamming me with messages it can be a litte much and on sidenote, they way of approaching has an impact as well. If some people are spamming me with messages or having a rude choice of words i do tend to ignore them as well because it annoys me.

About the age question, from my general experiences here i can tell that older persons are usually a little more polite but there are always exceptions of course. If you are as mature and polite as i expect you to be you will find someone eventually ;).
People can just have a bad day as well! as adera and a123lolo pointed out, there are so many facts than can come into play....  dont let yourself be discouraged that easily and keep trying! :-*

kisses
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Brandybee on January 14, 2013, 07:58:50 PM
Hiya,

From a personal point of view I do and try and answer most who message me, however sometimes I am AFK or on Forum, sometimes I am answering someones question and by the time I have returned to the message, that person has logged off or roomed or already put me on ignore.. 

Sometimes I am in conversation and actually lose their message in my chat thinking its the person I am talking too or miss it completely.

Sometimes , as a role player, I am deep in descriptive play and like a phone suddenly ringing,  I am too busy to answer and am not willing to ruin the moment   ;D

There's several reasons why I may not answer, so please do not jump to the conclusion that I am ignoring you,  there's usually a perfectly good reason  :o

If I can answer, I do.  If I cant I dont.. Please do not take it personal ... I dont... I just presume the person I have messaged is busy :)

Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Kingdustin on January 14, 2013, 08:00:06 PM
your not the only one  Fantastical,I find very frustrating as well and leave littles desire to play the game. best keep at it, there are quite a lot of people playing.. alway be respectable to those you chat with as well. you know the basic of being a gentlemen. right

I also agree with Cheya, you can never really know what could be happening on the other side.  

edit
well said brandy that about sum it up. lol
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Fantastical on January 14, 2013, 08:17:32 PM
i understand all that. But how can they be in deep roleplay or deep chat whn they just log on? It is very frustraiteing and annoying makes me wanna yell lol. But i was ranting earlier cuz 9/9 people i greeted ignored me... and greeted them multiple times
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Masaru88 on January 14, 2013, 11:21:53 PM
I understand where the women are coming from they get flooded from everyone. I am sure they have a hard time to answer everyone even just to turn that person down. Would make it easy if achat had a tab function for everyone chat you have outside of a room. Again there are many reasons why the women can't answer back just don't take it personal is all.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Adera on January 15, 2013, 02:38:34 AM
Some will of course feel as if they aren't getting any time to breath if people starts to flood them as soon as they log on, sometimes I've felt as if I'm getting camped on AChat by someone and that's a bit disturbing.

Most often however I tend to look up the first people that approach me to see who they might be... if not only out of curiosity. :P

I don't think you should greet people multiple times, that will most likely be taken the wrong way, I think the best idea is to simply forget those that doesn't answer for a while.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: bluedenim on January 15, 2013, 02:44:23 PM
I haven't played for a while, but I don't suppose anything has changed.

Sometimes I can get 10 people I've never spoken to messaging me at once.

I'm sorry, I try. I don't mean to give offense to anyone.. I talk to frees whenever I can and at least give people the time of day, but I can't type that fast even if I'm not in conversation with 1 or 3 people already.

I'm sure I am not a unique case.

Please. you can always try again later. Unless I tell you to go away, in which case I will almost certainly "ignore" you, then I'm not refusing to reply, I'm just not capable.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Covems on January 15, 2013, 03:10:31 PM

There's many reasons for not getting a reply.  Too many to actually list.  I just don't take it personally...

From my point of view, I look at it like fishing.  I cast my "line" out there and see if I get a bite.  Some days, they're just not biting.  Other days I get some bites. 

Try this line... it's worked for me numerous times:  "Fancy a chat?  Just a chat?"  There are times, believe it or not when all I really want to do is just chat.  Sometimes also, that's all the other person is looking for, too.

The key is to not give up... remember, the only thing that changes is when she does reply.  You weren't chatting with her before you sent your introduction and if you don't get a reply, nothing has changed.  The change happens when you get a reply and get to chat... or more.

Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Concerto on January 16, 2013, 01:51:57 AM
The thread could probably be called "Why does anyone refuse to reply?" or, perhaps more appropriately, as "refuse" is such a strong word, "Why do people not reply?". Perhaps, even, as Covems alluded to, it is more what you are saying to invoke a response that is wrong.

Anyway, with me, it is certainly more what you say that will determine whether you get a response or not than anything else.

Having said that, there are problems with the use of the dialogue box anyway. If I am talking to aaaa and bbbb pops up on the screen, I have to go to a drop-down list, scroll down it possibly, select bbbb type in the response and then do the same process again just to resume talking to aaaa (and the number of times that I have failed to do that and sent a message intended for aaaa to bbbb instead is countless). It would be nice if we could just left-click on the name in the log box itself to talk and right-click  on it to bring up the profile (as an addition to the drop-down box).

I would just add that, if you are deep in conversation with a friend or group of friends and a stranger comes past and says "Hi!", are you really going to stop your conversation to respond? Well, actually, with me, it does depend on what they look like ;)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hentaiboy69 on January 16, 2013, 03:17:14 AM
Oh, please....don't talk about the chat system! i don't know how many time i had send a message to the wrong user! My luck was i had never had send a message to Bee when i'm planning the realization of the Tight's chair with him online....feeeew! the surprise was save, at last!
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Patricia1975 on January 16, 2013, 03:38:54 AM
I ll give you a reason to not reply !!

Yesterday night i was in Achat , and a premium guy, that i never saw or talked before, his first sentence to me was:

I want you to such my cock, please !!


I love Sex.... But What the Hell, does he talk to a woman in real life like that, first time he opens is mouth?!?

PLEASE GOD HELP ME !!    ;D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lord_Orion on January 16, 2013, 04:27:55 AM
I can understand most of the reasons listed above by the ladies.

Still, it sounds frustrating when 90% of the contacts I send (engaging myself to never type conventional "hi" but opening with some personal references to the lady's line where available) don't get any repy.
And, agreed, it happens no matter if the lady has just logged in or if she's on line since some time.
Talking about the chat system, I'ld suggest AChat to provide an "AFK" button, with some personal message to set in order to let the caller know when the called is away.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hentaiboy69 on January 16, 2013, 04:43:27 AM
About the "AFK" button. we hade ask for something similar in past and now we have the "ZZZ" button, but honestly i don't use it if i go afk cause there is no difference with in room state. JHope the "ZZZ" button will be fixed this year (keep dreaming, HB!)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Marilyn on January 16, 2013, 08:45:02 AM
I ll give you a reason to not reply !!

Yesterday night i was in Achat , and a premium guy, that i never saw or talked before, his first sentence to me was:

I want you to such my cock, please !!


I love Sex.... But What the Hell, does he talk to a woman in real life like that, first time he opens is mouth?!?

PLEASE GOD HELP ME !!    ;D

You're right, Patricia!
Many men approach women saying that. But Fantastical isn't like those - I know him for a long time.

@Fantastical
As you might know, we have perhaps 10 men to 1 woman, probably more. Sometimes is hard when you have your window being flooded with messages. I think that the main reason is that one; not your fault.  ;)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on January 16, 2013, 10:01:52 AM
One point is, even if you and some of us just want to chat and say this, many men just want sex, no matter what they say first.

Most girls are flooded with messages and also having several chats. It's hard to notice new chatter or they are thinking about their answers.
And some girls also are just stupid. Sometimes I get a "hi" and looking at their profile I read "I don't answer to just hi"

Covems compare with fishing is great. Just don't give up and you will get a big fish (wonderful person) to talk to, perhaps have fun. As long as you start a chat, you can get no answer or "sorry busy". But if you don't chat you already have a "no".

Just a hint. Don't send more or many talks to the same girl. This will only stop her at all, most of don't want it. Sometimes I have sent two different messages, first a short note about their profil, few seconds later another message, regarding the first one. This increases your chance to be noticed. If the person didn't answer afterwards, I stopped.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Cheya on January 16, 2013, 10:02:54 AM
I ll give you a reason to not reply !!

Yesterday night i was in Achat , and a premium guy, that i never saw or talked before, his first sentence to me was:

I want you to such my cock, please !!


I love Sex.... But What the Hell, does he talk to a woman in real life like that, first time he opens is mouth?!?

PLEASE GOD HELP ME !!    ;D

Oh i could give you a long list of similar approaches, i'd love to chat there and i can tell you i got tons of laughable approaches, it starts with "daddy wants you" or "i have a big black cock ... suck it" and the classy "sex now" just not wasting any letters there and continues with the likes of "i'm a virgin, please teach me"
No wonder we cant answer if we're lying down on the floor laughing  ;D ;D ;D.

We should make an addiontal topic and rate the worst pick ups, i'm sure that would be alot of fun  :D.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lydiarose on January 16, 2013, 10:21:42 AM
hey  I will not answer to guys who say Hi bb or Im horny, I love your ass and there are lots more one, Like today i had 5 guys chatting  to me by the time i got round to answer 3 of them they where in a room. so to all the guys who want to chat to me just say hello lydia   
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Patricia1975 on January 16, 2013, 10:37:09 AM
I ll give you a reason to not reply !!

Yesterday night i was in Achat , and a premium guy, that i never saw or talked before, his first sentence to me was:

I want you to such my cock, please !!


I love Sex.... But What the Hell, does he talk to a woman in real life like that, first time he opens is mouth?!?

PLEASE GOD HELP ME !!    ;D

You're right, Patricia!
Many men approach women saying that. But Fantastical isn't like those - I know him for a long time.

@Fantastical
As you might know, we have perhaps 10 men to 1 woman, probably more. Sometimes is hard when you have your window being flooded with messages. I think that the main reason is that one; not your fault.  ;)

I never said names,i dont remember the man´s name that spoked to  me like that.  Whos fantastical ?????? never heard that name
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hentaiboy69 on January 16, 2013, 10:45:01 AM
Oh pati..... :o

Fantastical is the one who had start this topic! marilyn means she know him and she know he isn't like the one you are talking about!
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Patricia1975 on January 16, 2013, 12:25:03 PM
Now i got it !!   ;D

Sorry  ;)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on January 16, 2013, 05:20:22 PM
Quote
We should make an addiontal topic and rate the worst pick ups, i'm sure that would be alot of fun  Cheesy

We have a topic, just without rating.

Off-topic/Quizz, Fav TV.../The Worst Pick Up Lines EVER
We should make an addiontal topic and rate the worst pick ups, i'm sure that would be alot of fun  Cheesy

Think I'll move it soon ti this category.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Kingdustin on January 16, 2013, 09:14:30 PM
Above all never take it personally if they don't reply.

reading all the post the ladies written, its all true. I get ear full of it when my Sister chats with me lol

 some of those line just make you stop and think did he really just say that?. I real like to know what there expecting when they say crap like that.      I cant imagine it ever working for them.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: zoerink on January 20, 2013, 10:33:24 AM
I dont know why sometimes women refuse to answer, but i think is not a good way to judge persons if they reply or not... im with lydiarose in her opinion, sometimes people (no just guys) is very rude, or do things in a way that i dont like it, so i decide to decline to answer persons who just tell you  "hi bb im horney" or "hello wanna fuck".

Some people like to talk, and know persons, not just play with avatars.

Nice thing in achat is that all ways to have fun have others who look for a same way.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: mercer78 on January 21, 2013, 04:10:26 PM
Bottom line here is there are a lot more men than women on achat so men are going to find it a lot harder to find willing partners be it for chat or just room especially newbies I know I have.  To be honest it's only the friends I've made that have kept me from quitting all together.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: kittenlepurr on January 21, 2013, 06:17:20 PM
I can say some reasons why I don't reply to someone.

1. I am in the middle of a conversation and your message gets lost.
2. What people send  may not even be remotely interesting. eg "I wanna cum will you help me?"
3. I could actually be afk. (despite what you think its still possible that they could be afk even joining  2 minutes later a room afk at your message time)
4. Bad experience with the person in the past. (so I don't want to repeat)
5. You cold invited before talking.
6. They only chat with people that they know. (Friends/Lovers/Spouse or people from the Forums)
7. You didn't read their orientation and thus they ignore you because your the wrong type.
8. You insulted them in the first message.

The explanations go on and on but this are some of the reasons why. All I can recommend is talking to someone like a person and not be disenheartened by the "rejection" of a non-reply.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: zoerink on January 21, 2013, 07:17:20 PM
I can say some reasons why I don't reply to someone.

1. I am in the middle of a conversation and your message gets lost.
2. What people send  may not even be remotely interesting. eg "I wanna cum will you help me?"
3. I could actually be afk. (despite what you think its still possible that they could be afk even joining  2 minutes later a room afk at your message time)
4. Bad experience with the person in the past. (so I don't want to repeat)
5. You cold invited before talking.
6. They only chat with people that they know. (Friends/Lovers/Spouse or people from the Forums)
7. You didn't read their orientation and thus they ignore you because your the wrong type.
8. You insulted them in the first message.

The explanations go on and on but this are some of the reasons why. All I can recommend is talking to someone like a person and not be disenheartened by the "rejection" of a non-reply.


I JUST CLAP MY HANDS FOR YOUR EXPLANATION... :)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lord_Orion on January 21, 2013, 09:07:15 PM
My appreciation for any explanations I've got to read above.

While I accept them in the whole, I only suggest that ladies (excluding those who kindly replied to the topic, showing some sensibility to the issue) would consider even a polite "Sorry busy" as often as they can, expecially when the approach shows an originality's effort in order to catch their attention.

It would help to incentivate our attitude for smart chats .
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Concerto on January 22, 2013, 01:57:27 AM
@kittenlepurr...
I think that summed it up ;)

@lord_orion... as I stated earlier, apart from the design of the box being awkward for switching between conversations, whenever you message anyone you should be aware that, effectively, you may well be interrupting someone else's conversation(s).
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: kittenlepurr on January 22, 2013, 04:15:03 AM
My appreciation for any explanations I've got to read above.

While I accept them in the whole, I only suggest that ladies (excluding those who kindly replied to the topic, showing some sensibility to the issue) would consider even a polite "Sorry busy" as often as they can, expecially when the approach shows an originality's effort in order to catch their attention.

It would help to incentivate our attitude for smart chats .

See I have done the "sorry busy" and people seem that it is an invitation to find out what I am busy doing (and they are not friends that are asking). Its easier not to respond especially when your in the middle of typing a long sentence to someone and really the other person is not terribly interesting. Its different when people are polite when they try to get my attention I am more then willing to respond then. However,  I am sure alot of others on here get messages that seem, weird, insulting or a little inconsiderate.

Some originality in parts is well and fine but I bet with some messages people are copying and pasting to get peoples attention especially when its some kind of roleplaying. No gauge on someone and you send an rp idea? not exactly a good icebreaker.
I would suggest that people look at both the
"What Turns you off in Chatting?"  http://www.funnyadultgamesplay.com/forum/index.php/topic,1711.0.html
"What Turns You on as far as Chatting?" http://www.funnyadultgamesplay.com/forum/index.php/topic,217.0.html

We actually do discuss ideas on approaches if I remember correctly in those topics.

Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: jessiku on January 22, 2013, 08:55:31 AM
I try my best to reply to any1 ho talks to me but if i tll them there busy or once i say hi they just invite me and continue too invite me and it does get annoying. The reason some females dont reply is possibly the same thing or they just arent interested or cant be bothered but i do know i try my best 2 reply to any1 who messages me.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Rukya on January 22, 2013, 11:58:13 AM
 The only to who i never anwser are the ones who start their "conversation" by something like "do you want suck my cock" or "hi , i want you bitch" . The others i say at least hello
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: jessiku on January 23, 2013, 03:42:34 PM
Yes it is so displeasing when they start a conversation like that rukya and it feels degrading as well when they say it
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Rukya on January 23, 2013, 03:51:43 PM
 Tonight , a woman introduced herself by "Let me lick your wet pussy" . This proof that , 3 options :

1 - women are harsh too

2 - its a man hiding behind a woman avatar

3 - i can made a computer become wet just when this is my profile on the screen , or how could she know my pussy is wet just by seeing my profile  ;D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: G1adys on January 24, 2013, 01:11:22 AM
Good day/night to the forum. I cannot tell for others, but i can tell why i do not reply sometimes (if that would count, as i'm transgender). Usually, i try to say at least, that i'm busy chatting with others, but i have some limits in my ability to answer. I can have a number of incoming chats and a few coldinvitations as well, so i have to decline the colds, than probably blacklist their senders (if they do not understand and keep invite me), answer to a friend i'm talking to, and i'm not quite a fast typist. So, sometimes i won't reply just because i have only two hands and one head :)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Fantastical on January 26, 2013, 06:58:03 AM
I appriciate all your replies. But i do not greet someone in a rude way nor do i invite after someone says hi. I do enjoy a chat to get a feel for the person before i even ask for a dance or room and even then i do dance and talk. Sometimes thats all i do im not particulerly a sex crazied maniac. But your all stereotypeing us men to be some sex craized maniac. When we arent all that way best way to find out is to just take a chance ^^ if they are rude ignore them. If not then wouldnt you be glad you replyed and had a good conversation?
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: kittenlepurr on January 26, 2013, 10:02:13 AM
I appriciate all your replies. But i do not greet someone in a rude way nor do i invite after someone says hi. I do enjoy a chat to get a feel for the person before i even ask for a dance or room and even then i do dance and talk. Sometimes thats all i do im not particulerly a sex crazied maniac. But your all stereotypeing us men to be some sex craized maniac. When we arent all that way best way to find out is to just take a chance ^^ if they are rude ignore them. If not then wouldnt you be glad you replyed and had a good conversation?

No we are not but we are judging those that we encounter on Achat as such and in many cases out in the real world too. Its based on experience ... besides scientifically you men do think of sex more often  (its hardwired into you)).  So making then leap based on body language or first correspondence is perfectly valid especially when your interrupting me. Which is usually the case on Achat and sometimes the case in real life.

Here is an example of the majority ruining it for a minority.  True some people will take the chance but not all of us I am retisant to actually respond to people that I don't know either from the forums or originally talking.

Our experiences almost always dictate future reactions the vast majority of the messages I have been getting have been the other type. (Even from Premium members)

Overall I do agree to you point that it might be a good idea to reply. However, honestly why should we? especially if we either don't want to or we are simply only interested in talking to the people we know.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: mercer78 on January 26, 2013, 02:18:28 PM
This is a problem that will never be resolved as kittenlepurr says a lot of ladies tendency is down to previous bad experience(s) which is understandable. Unfortunately this causes somewhat of a vicious circle because when nice guys join up and keep getting ignored they get disillusioned and quit.  This in part is what keeps the nice guys in the minority and d bags in the majority.  Sorry if this seems a bit negative but I always call it like I see it.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on January 27, 2013, 05:24:18 AM
Mercer, it's not negative it's the simple truth. I can understand and accept the girls view - they are flooded with messages and cold invites.
We also have to think about the chat partner - imagine, you're talking to a friend and she always has to stop talking because she is answering all the incoming talks. How do you feel?

I'm sire nice guys will understand when they discover the male asshole problem...lol. They have to stay brave and go on talking, then they will meet many nice people. They also should join our forum ;)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hentaiboy69 on January 27, 2013, 10:59:21 AM
We also have to think about the chat partner - imagine, you're talking to a friend and she always has to stop talking because she is answering all the incoming talks. How do you feel?

Lover,  i agree with you on it.....girls and shemales are submerged by message and cold invite (maaan, i had stop count the cold i receive!) and this universally true but at the same time i hate when i'm chatting with someone and suddenly find out she is "busy" in room without any advertice! Men must try to be more open minded in certain stuff, but pleaseeee! some girls need to learn manners too!
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Adera on January 28, 2013, 02:46:43 AM
Yes, men tend to have a higher libido than women, testosterone is a cause of that. That's not necessarily a bad thing but reign yourselves in and try to get us on the same level before actually asking about rooming.

If you put some effort into wooing and exciting us we might even ask you to take us into a room. :P

Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Rukya on January 28, 2013, 03:59:49 AM
 Hmmm i'm not sure of the définition of "wooing"
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Adera on January 28, 2013, 04:22:35 AM
It's to make someone like you, or to seduce someone in a romantic way.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Covems on January 28, 2013, 05:44:12 AM

For me... just speaking for myself... I just keep casting my lines out there hoping for a bite.  I enjoy a good conversation, no matter if it's in the room or out of the room.  I can understand why I'm not getting a reply... there's 1,000 reasons... 1,001 if she's just plain not interested.

As I stated earlier, sometimes that's all I want to do is have a converstion with an adult, in an adult manner, and if the other person wants to banter, I'm all for that... because those are the most fun.

Satoire calles it "word fencing", which I think is an apt term for it.  We parry and thrust each other with our words, and if more grows out of it, then that's great.  If it doesn't... that's okay too.

I also get "sex" messages or "let's fuck"... followed by an invite... and believe it or not, they're not enticing to me... and.. "Surprise!" ...sometimes I don't reply to them, and just let the timer expire.  Oh sure... there's been times when I'm feeling adventurous and accept one, but usually they're just fishing for gifts.

One last thing... sometimes when I am wanting a conversation, but can't find one... I message Robot Girl.  She ALWAYS replies, sure she's quirky... hard to understand sometimes... but always sends something back.  If you  use your imagination, and get out of your safety zone, the conversation can be whatever you want it to be.

Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Brandybee on January 28, 2013, 09:18:50 AM
Wooing,   courtship ...  I must use those words more often,   thanks for reminding me Adera   ;D

Covems -  we call it Word Tennis where I am from ... its  fun .


You are both right,  anyone can room and click on the poses .. the art of the game is to stimulate the mind  as well as the body,  with words as well as visuals..
Once that art is mastered, the full potential of the game is realised.   And my goodness it makes for great rooms  :P

In the meantime, its fun to practice to reach that level.   :P
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: malicious101 on January 28, 2013, 01:24:37 PM
Depends on the personality of the women

In most cases, you could be too young , they might not have liked your nickname, or you were too polite, it turned the sexual tension off.
In my case, some women get intiminated by my nickname because its Malicious, even tho Im the nicest guy in the world(outside the bedroom),
in other cases, women diddnt talk to me because I was too young, on the other hand girls my age wont talk to me sometimes because they want an older guy, lol , its weird. So older women want older men, girls your age want older men, youre screwed, haha :D

In many cases I also started a conversation but their interest in me started to fade after I was being polite , those, dont worry about too much, you want psychologically healthy women anyways , lol :) Some women are just very dull, dont worry about those either. There are many members on achat, I guess the coolest ones hang out here in the forum :)

Dont forget, there are a lot of men out there  posing as women on achat, their intention is to have " lesbian sex" with a woman, so they only talk to women despite their sexual orientation being bisexual.

If I were you the first thing I would do is to make your profile look interesting as possible, including an avatar, and to tease as much as possible when talking to someone , lol :D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on January 28, 2013, 03:40:58 PM
@ malicious:
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There are many members on achat, I guess the coolest ones hang out here in the forum Smiley
So true :D

Finally there are many possible reasons why women feruse to reply - but it doesn't make a difference when you don't get an answer. You just don't get an answer ;)
All you can do is go on, never give up and change your welcome message. There are many nice women in AChat and you will meet them. Perhaps your chances are better when talking to girls of forum, they already know you and if they like your style here they might answer easier - if you don't ask for sex at once :D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: G1adys on January 28, 2013, 11:11:15 PM
Depends on the personality of the women

In most cases, you could be too young , they might not have liked your nickname, or you were too polite, it turned the sexual tension off.
Well, that's close to the truth. At least, sometimes names are just stupid or insulting. As for age, i'm careful when i see '18' in age field, it makes me think that player could be actually younger (And most of them probably really are younger, guessing by the way they behave). But I do not understand how anyone could be too polite. I've never seen that. Many are too rude, that's true. Sometimes they are even such rude, that I won't answer them anything but 'welcome to my blacklist'. Too polite? Never seen that :D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: bluedenim on January 29, 2013, 01:22:26 AM
Hi Malicious!
Well we did speak in the game... just proved what I said previously, I only logged in to change my outfit and I got 4 cold invites and 6 people all talking to me at once...I hope I was polite enough to everyone, lol
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Adera on January 29, 2013, 02:25:40 AM
I've come across a few that are too polite, and yes, acting that way makes you look meek and boring too me. A guy that appears as a push over might find mistresses that will enjoy playing with him but not girls that like more assertive guys.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Concerto on January 29, 2013, 03:25:33 AM
Lol, Adera :) How astute :)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: mercer78 on January 29, 2013, 12:54:42 PM
So you associate manners with weakness Adera? If this is so and is a commonly held belief on here then I think my days here are numbered
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Cheya on January 29, 2013, 01:37:15 PM
So you associate manners with weakness Adera? If this is so and is a commonly held belief on here then I think my days here are numbered

That is a little overdoing it, many  woman like men who are a little adventurous and brave, a good mix of both manners and a slight cheekyness can get you very far i'd say ... at least it works very good on me mwahaha  :D  :D  :D. We want to be conquered or at least given a reason to hunt as well, if they are too polite and shy without beeing able to tickle womans interest they might appear a little boring and we lose interest. It depends on the character and tastes as well of course :). Don't let yourself get discouraged and let the lion out every once in a while  ;D!!!
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on January 29, 2013, 01:47:08 PM
Mercer, no reason to leave... her wording was on "too" polite. I'm sure, and I know her, she isn't against manners, just doesn't love to be begged. I'm sure you both like being polite, that's far from being against manners :)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: mercer78 on January 29, 2013, 02:03:12 PM
My apologies I think I've taken things a bit too personally, this thread reminds me of the one I made about nice guys a while back.  The point I was trying to make is that just because someone is shy and polite doesn't make them weak a sub uninteresting or even bad in bed if you're talking about life in general. 
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on January 29, 2013, 03:18:48 PM
You're absolutely right mercer. As I said, you both were talking about different things. It's a strong attitude to aplogize  :)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: mercer78 on January 29, 2013, 03:48:42 PM
You're absolutely right mercer. As I said, you both were talking about different things. It's a strong attitude to aplogize  :)

Thanks in that case I would have to ask what is "too polite"?  When I message someone new I normally open with hello there or good evening then make a comment about there profile if relevant.   
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on January 29, 2013, 05:23:16 PM
In fact I just can talk about myself... but I say that everything that sounds obedient, just asking serious questions, never making a little joke or sounding like there is not little self-confident is too polite for many.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Brandybee on January 29, 2013, 05:27:46 PM
Dont take it personal  is the best advice I can give,   I think what the ladies are talking about is the  " chemistry "  I love polite guys  but I like that little bit of arrogance too ...  its a fine balance though.

Too arrogant and its off putting & becomes an interesting game of wills, too polite and its the difference between being friends and rooming.

Find the right ingredient mix  , a  confident guy , a bit masterful who knows what he wants and how to get it  .. its  an interesting and intriguing dance right to the room :)

Its  just chemistry and finding those ticks in the box  :)    
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: malicious101 on January 29, 2013, 05:38:54 PM
Politeness is good in social situations but in a sexual game you have to let the Lion out once in a while like Cheya said. If you tell the women you care about her, make sure you spank her afterwards.  

Hello Lady how are you? :)  Lady : Im good, thanks , you sound like a nice guy!    I am a nice guy *spank

We live in a world where women are treated as second class citizens my friend, because of that, unconciously women get turned on by men who are more dominant, more powerful rather than nice and polite because it completes their lack of power for being treated as second class citizens  , Scandinavian countries and some parts of western Europe are a mild exception. I for example have noticed that women approach me more when I act confident and cocky and they reject me more when Im polite and nice unles they are in their 40 s or something :)


And there are women out there who always like rude men, they have had family issues growing up and stuff like that, dont worry about those, they always want an asshole, never politeness and those women do exist on achat as well, I met a few myself.


I mostly like talking to European women on achat , especially those from Western and Northern Europe where women are treated more equally with men, despite some lack of some womens rights there, in countries where women are treated more equally with men, women are more able to go for nice and polite guys and in those kinds of countries guys are more polite too, not because of their race, but because of the culture they grew up in. They are not asked to go hunt for animals and bring them home , they are asked to do the same chores their mothers do, like washing the dishes or vacuuming the house.




Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: G1adys on January 30, 2013, 02:23:35 AM
That's usual gender stereotypes. I can tell you, most people cannot think freely, they only have stereotypes. And if you do not think or behave stereotypically, you will have problems with those who do.

As for me, i prefer to think independantly. I do not think that 'a man' should be agressive. If someone approaches me with dominant behavior, i warn him first, that he's one step from my blacklist. For most 'real men' that's enough to fall back and leave me in peace. And well, if someone do not understand, i blacklist them.

Yes, I'm picky and prefer quality over quantity. And I know what I want. It's my body and soul, and nobody else have the right to decide for me what and how to do something :D

I'm neither a prey to hunt for, nor a trophy to win. I'm a human and a person just like any other :D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Rukya on January 30, 2013, 03:04:49 AM
WARNING !! STEREOTYPE APPROACHING !!

 woaw you seem little agressive . Are you on your bad days ?  ;D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: G1adys on January 30, 2013, 03:16:36 AM
No, absolutely not :D

I just use to fend off the agression with counteragression :D

Although, I won't say that for all women. I'm not actually 'a woman', I'm transgender, so I can tell only for myself :D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Adera on January 30, 2013, 03:59:23 AM
Manners can be a very different thing to politeness.

Most men that approach me here in an overly polite way are submissives, they do it because they can put themselves in a submissive position by being very polite to me.

There are also those that use politeness to put themselves in an dominant position, like acting like a classic gentleman... a bit off putting and patronizing.

I feel that politeness can easily become a power play and a way to distance people from one and another instead of actually talking to one another on the same level.

I'm not interested in submissives nor those that patronize me, I want men that I can actually talk to in a casual manner and get a feel for, if I can't do that I wont develop an interest in them.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: mercer78 on January 30, 2013, 05:05:42 AM
Thanks for all the input I appreciate it.  I am not an over confident ladies man never have been, and probably never will be and I'm ok with that.  You can call me stubborn if you want but I'm not going change my approach or who I am, just to satisfy someone else's preconception of what a man should be.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on January 30, 2013, 05:47:37 AM
@ Mercer
Quote
You can call me stubborn if you want but I'm not going change my approach or who I am, just to satisfy someone else's preconception of what a man should be.
As long as no one is an completely asshole he does not have to change his attitude. People are different, that's ok - some like apples, some like oranges. Nothing is good and bad, it just IS. You will find girls loving your attitude and you will fit together.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: mercer78 on January 30, 2013, 07:33:13 AM
@ Mercer
Quote
You can call me stubborn if you want but I'm not going change my approach or who I am, just to satisfy someone else's preconception of what a man should be.
As long as no one is an completely asshole he does not have to change his attitude. People are different, that's ok - some like apples, some like oranges. Nothing is good and bad, it just IS. You will find girls loving your attitude and you will fit together.

Thanks so much for the support I appreciate it.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Covems on January 30, 2013, 07:50:03 AM

I just try and be me.  My Mama raised me to be polite to others and to have good manners, but that doesn't mean I'm a doormat.  As Popeye always says;  "I am what I am, and that's all that I am." 

My Mama also says:  "If it's meant to be... it will be." 

 
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: jrewing1 on February 05, 2013, 11:22:02 PM
in Germany, we have a proverb who wants to fuck must  be friendly
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: mercer78 on February 06, 2013, 05:16:33 AM
I think the biggest problem from not getting replies is boredom imagine you're sat in front of your computer you've paid good money for your subscription poses etc, and you just end up clicking through search after search.  There must be a point where ask yourself is this all a waste of time and money?
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hentaiboy69 on February 06, 2013, 05:37:26 AM
This is another point, mercer! Of course, at a certain point you are going to think about the money you spent for something you like in a situation where you are not having fun!

And here it comes you profile......it's good you try to promote the forum (i had just take a look at it), but maybe adding something more who can make you more interessing can help!
Ok, using a shemale avatar, it's more easy to get laid  ::) but i can swear you i had caught some attention with what i had write on it, even from girls and some crossdresser (yep! incredible, i know it!). pint on something who can caught many attention for some times, then you can have more chance, specially if you start to be involved in threesome too! threesome, at the begin, are a good way to meet more people and then, it's possible they are more open to meet you in a private date!
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: G1adys on February 06, 2013, 08:53:18 AM
Is it really a problem for a subscriber to find a partner? Hm, well. It might be. I'm not sure about that. I know this is common problem for free users, because almost no one wants to talk to them. But than, in Achat men population is much bigger than women one. So, a man should probably be more inventive in his ways. A woman here has the luxury to chose from number of men, so it's up to them to make themselves desireble for her.

It's not about the money. You spend it to buy a subscription, not to buy women ;) On the other hand, there're many women who promice to fulfill every wish for a gift. Maybe they are the solution? :D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hentaiboy69 on February 06, 2013, 09:47:20 AM
G1adys, we are talking about real money spent to pay the AChat fee, not the A$! Wasting the A$, hnestly, it's a bit frustrating whe you find out what you bought isn't good as you expected, but spending your real money and not being able to enjoy the product you buy, well.......that's not funny, specially in this time of financiary crisis!


now that you mention the one who ask for A$ to room......when i join AChat there was the idea of creating a group of working girls and boys started by Keiko, if i remember it well: did you want to suggest something like that!?  :o
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: G1adys on February 06, 2013, 10:21:31 AM
I can only repeat, you buy the subscription, not other people. It's a product you buy, not other people! :D See it like a club. You pay to be allowed to enter it, but inside it's up to you and your communication skills :D

As for achat money, when someone is buying a subscription for a month or more, achat money is given. I say that if it's all about the money, than one can always find willing partners for some achats. Players list is always full of 'men only for gift' and 'I'll be yours for a gift' :D

Sometimes I receive coldinvitation from premium users. Or rude invitations. Or just plain stupid ones. So what? He bought the subscription, but he didn't buy me! I do not feel guilty when I do not respond or even blacklist stupid or rude subscribers :D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hentaiboy69 on February 06, 2013, 11:08:30 AM
I can only repeat, you buy the subscription, not other people. It's a product you buy, not other people! :D See it like a club. You pay to be allowed to enter it, but inside it's up to you and your communication skills :D

As for achat money, when someone is buying a subscription for a month or more, achat money is given. I say that if it's all about the money, than one can always find willing partners for some achats. Players list is always full of 'men only for gift' and 'I'll be yours for a gift' :D

Sometimes I receive coldinvitation from premium users. Or rude invitations. Or just plain stupid ones. So what? He bought the subscription, but he didn't buy me! I do not feel guilty when I do not respond or even blacklist stupid or rude subscribers :D

G1adys, i agree with you: you buy the product not the other users! And it's up to us to look interessing at others eyes.....we can't pretend to get laid (rude speaking, i know!) everytime we want! But you can't deny it's frustrating when you do your best and no one will pay attention to you.....and this is what usually happen to free male in AChat. Of course, finding a partner here isn't easy as it is in real life.....it's all up to you, sometime need times and a nice chat to start, but if you only find closed doors, you can be interessing and more, but if no one give you a chance.....
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: G1adys on February 06, 2013, 12:18:54 PM
As far as I can tell, being free male user is bad, but not the worst. Being a free shemale is worser, because shemales do not have any free poses while men (and women) have two :D

When I talk to free males, I always suggest them to buy a subscription, because the game is made that way. I explain them that most women with blue star are not premium themselves, and that's why they want premium partners. But let's face the truth - it's a free-to-play videogame, so if one do not want to pay, he/she should be happy with what he/she has. Speaking of money, 10 usd per month is not much, and it won't kill anyone who can download the game client. At least, one can buy 1-month subscription and see if he/she would like the full game or not.

As I've told already, I do not judge people by their subscription status, but that's me. Most of women do, and I won't blame them for doing so. In everyday life there're more women than men, in Achat it's just the opposite. So if a woman do not respond, maybe it's a sign that a man should rethink his way of approach? :D

If we are online, that does not matter we will go to room with anyone who wrote 'hi babe' :D As for me 'babe' is an insult, so someone who call me that way may be happy if he'll get 'welcome to my blacklist' as reply :D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hentaiboy69 on February 06, 2013, 12:35:33 PM
As far as I can tell, being free male user is bad, but not the worst. Being a free shemale is worser, because shemales do not have any free poses while men (and women) have two :D

it is......and it's one of the thing the dev-team have to work on! why giving another gap to shemale!? like if the lack of poses wan't enough.....


When I talk to free males, I always suggest them to buy a subscription, because the game is made that way. I explain them that most women with blue star are not premium themselves, and that's why they want premium partners. But let's face the truth - it's a free-to-play videogame, so if one do not want to pay, he/she should be happy with what he/she has. Speaking of money, 10 usd per month is not much, and it won't kill anyone who can download the game client. At least, one can buy 1-month subscription and see if he/she would like the full game or not.

yes, you can suggest it to them, but i had meet a male users from a est european country who want to subscrive but can't cause his credit card is not good for CCBill payment......now, he only can ask for another credit card, but....maaaan, that's umbelieveble!


anyway, basically i agree with you on all you had said, but we never have to forget there are some good exception!
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: G1adys on February 06, 2013, 02:36:32 PM
Ah, the 'eastern europe'! I live in Russia, and my credit card isn't good for payment as well (actually, it is not even a credit card, it's just a card). I tell you what, I never pay with card in the net. There're many other variants, like 'visa virtual' or national e-money services. I do not believe these countries do not have such things if they have the net. When I used to buy my subscription, I used LiqPay for that, and it did the trick just fine. So, I do not believe these boys, it seems to me that they just do not want to pay. Here in Russia it's usual trend among mmo-games auditory. Not that they don't have money, usually they do have. They can tell you how they got drunk and so on... they just do not want to pay for their own enjoyment, so I see they get what they deserve to :D

And they always can make a female avatar and play as such, if they think it's easier :D

But you are right, there're some exceptions. I know one such exception, and even used my female alternative avatar to play with him, because he really could not afford the subscription and my own one had expired (Achat team, hear us please, give us transgenders two free poses as well!) :D

Upd. There's an example of classic ignorant behavior:
I have the line 'I'm a lady, not a babe, so learn to behave' written right over my portrait in my ingame profile, it's hard not to notice it but...
[a male player] - u come baby?
[me] - can you read?
[he] - yes or no?
[me] - welcome to my blacklist, learn to read next time

So, does he think that if he bought the subscription, I would be happy to go with him? :D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on February 08, 2013, 07:26:54 AM
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Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: trissotin on April 01, 2013, 02:28:33 AM
Hello alls,

I think one the problems is that there is a lot of impolite guys !... A lot of "Cold Invite" specialists...
A girlfriend from Achat told me that girls are submerged of messages and invitations !
So they don't respond... because they can't !
The first days I was here, I was an excited Newbie, I just wanted to get a girl in my room, I quickly understood that it wasn't the good way, and overall it wasn't really me !!!!...
Now I try to be polite and kind...
I have a lot of "no reponse" I don't insist, I try later...

So !! To be  patient with women !!! The lonely way ! :)

Trissotin
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: A123lolo on April 01, 2013, 02:52:35 AM
I'm same position of you, Trissotin.
Some guys forget politeness when they connect in AChat.

We can excuse some impetuous new members.
But this comportement is detrimental for all men.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: trissotin on April 01, 2013, 03:15:48 AM
You're right A123lolo !...  It's up to us to be more and more open to the girls wishes and desires...
We are both Newbies here...

All we have to do, is to let the time goes on... An we will see  ;)

Trissotin
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: trissotin on April 01, 2013, 03:20:39 AM
Here is an interresting topic from Kadanu :

http://www.funnyadultgamesplay.com/forum/index.php/topic,1584.0.html

For all the Newbies like me !!! :)

Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Covems on April 04, 2013, 05:44:30 AM

The number one reason... and I mean NUMBER One... why women (or anyone else for that matter) don't reply:

They don't want to.

Once you figure that out... you've got it made    ;D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Nat33 on April 04, 2013, 06:08:20 AM
You are right Covems  :)
The second reason for me is that I can't respond to everyone when there are more than 10 users in the chat and talking with someone !
It's impossible for me, I don't know who I'm talking.
I have friends "free user" and sometimes I'm going in room for... discuss, sometimes 8)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: florise on September 20, 2013, 10:32:23 AM
For me I follow 1 chat in English or 2 in French.

It's difficult more

sorry
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: ItsAmy123 on October 11, 2013, 08:57:31 PM

I'm going to have to agree with Florise.  :)

Speaking from my perspective or point of view, I don't think a lot of emphasis is usually put on a player or member's status. At the end of the day, it doesn't truly matter if the guy or girl is/are premium. What would really work for you, as a guy, would be your ability to carry on a conversation smoothly. It is important to note though, if you do want things to go further, you have to ensure atleast one of you has poses and, to be honest, mostly guys ensure to meet that requirement on here. But coming back to the point, it can be quite difficult or just plain annoying to follow multiple chats. So if a girl doesn't respond, it doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't want to associate with you because of your status, it can simply just be because she's already in  conversation with a friend, lover or spouse.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Concerto on October 12, 2013, 06:07:02 AM
10 guidelines to get Susan's attention (or not), not necessarily in this order.

1) Don't talk dirty. At least not right away. I don't respond to crudities (apart from the edible kind), well, not until at least one orifice has been penetrated (yours or mine, it doesn't matter).

2) Introduce yourself. You're who from where? I don't care how fake it is (well, not too obvious, I don't think Brad Pitt plays Achat). I might look dipsy but I have travelled and I might know that McDonalds on the corner of 9th and Maine.

3) Say something flattering. e.g. "Oh, I like your hair"; "I love how you do your makeup" (oh shit, I've now given away my pickup lines). There is nothing better to get my conceited attention.

4) Apologize for interrupting. A simple "Sorry, you must be busy but.." is all it takes. Invariably, you are interrupting something, even if it's just me sitting there masturbating (and, don't you dare interrupt that).

5) Don't mention your dick size. First of all, I know you're lying. Secondly, I know you're lying. Third, mine will always be smaller and it hurts my feelings.

6) You're not my boyfriend/girlfriend, yet. I detest "darling", "babe", etc. and any reference to pleasuring parts of my anatomy. I get the idea of the game and, for me, sex with strangers can be better than with friends.

7) Don't mention threesomes, yet. I'm thinking of revising that, in light of the recent MMS pose. However, I don't want to stand on the sidelines wanking while you get it off with your boyfriend.

8 ) Don't pretend it's not a chat up. "Oh I'm new here, can you help me with...". Hahahaha, I've heard them all. Although, if you look cute enough, you can try.

9) Don't comment on why I didn't respond to your first message 3 seconds earlier. You're obviously not that busy, if you can reel off several messages in quick succession but a) it pushes more important messages off the screen and b) viz. number 4, above.

10) If I say "no", I really do mean it. Don't ask "why not?" That is one step closer to an ignore. However, if you follow the other guidelines, it might not mean "no".

It is very fluid, lol, it changes all the time and I've got a few more but that will do, for now.

Just to add... I'm more interested in the person than gender, member status  or  ability to speak English or ability to talk intelligently, although the last will get you more brownie points.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: ItsAmy123 on October 12, 2013, 10:46:30 AM

I think certain forum readers are already starting to follow your advice Concerto  ;D

This guy approached me today saying:

1st Message: hi amy :) hope I'm not gonna disturb :)
*Before I could reply*
2nd Message: btw... I do like your clothes and your character type

Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Concerto on October 12, 2013, 10:51:52 AM
Politeness is like an STD ;) It's catching.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on October 12, 2013, 10:52:28 AM
Though he didn't read careful... he didn't wait for an answer (rule 9)  ;)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Nat33 on October 12, 2013, 11:07:46 AM
A lot don't read, before on my game page I put this:
I don't need GIFTS, I need COCKS...
But the girls asked me to go in room!
So I concluded that girls don't read  ::)
Now I put this:
No answers: Busy or not interrested ...
But people still insist, so I conclude that men and women don't read :(

After a year of successful use of this game, I think it's easier in life than here, I know it's strange but it's like that  :)

Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: zoerink on October 12, 2013, 11:09:45 AM
A lot don't read, before on my game page I put this:
I don't need GIFTS, I need COCKS...
But the girls asked me to go in room!
So I concluded that girls don't read  ::)
Now I put this:
No answers: Busy or not interrested ...
But people still insist, so I conclude that men and women don't read :(

After a year of successful use of this game, I think it's easier in life than here, I know it's strange but it's like that  :)



LOL.... Absolutely agree with you Nat... :)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Rukya on October 13, 2013, 08:16:44 AM
 You have one here that read profiles  ;D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Nat33 on October 13, 2013, 09:24:27 AM
You have one here that read profiles  ;D

Damn...!  ;D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: old_goat on October 13, 2013, 07:50:49 PM
You have one here that read profiles  ;D

You have two here that read the profile.
 :)     ;D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Nat33 on October 17, 2013, 02:59:16 PM
Dont forget ladies and gentlemen that you are not alone in the world  :'(
Here I just disconnect me because it's really not possible.
Too many people and when I answer: " no, thank you I'm speaking to a friend" they cry! pffffff
That's why you have not answers too.

And I don't want new friends, if I want one... I ask.
They annoyed me well tonight  :-[
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Rukya on October 18, 2013, 05:32:19 PM
 awwwwe ... you need a hug :)

<<< hugs nat
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: zoerink on October 18, 2013, 05:52:37 PM
Dont forget ladies and gentlemen that you are not alone in the world  :'(
Here I just disconnect me because it's really not possible.
Too many people and when I answer: " no, thank you I'm speaking to a friend" they cry! pffffff
That's why you have not answers too.

And I don't want new friends, if I want one... I ask.
They annoyed me well tonight  :-[

I am with Rukya... i send you a hug, dont want to give you because maybe you kill me!!! :P

Kisses to all, and one big for you :)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: professora2 on October 26, 2013, 11:11:32 AM
I think it is normal to answer to all who take the time to chat with me! 
But sometimes it is almost impossible to answer to all at the same time..

I mostly excuse myself for that. I try to be polite always.

Kiss..
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hukk on November 18, 2013, 02:28:22 PM
10 guidelines to get Susan's attention (or not), not necessarily in this order.

1) Don't talk dirty. At least not right away. I don't respond to crudities (apart from the edible kind), well, not until at least one orifice has been penetrated (yours or mine, it doesn't matter).

2) Introduce yourself. You're who from where? I don't care how fake it is (well, not too obvious, I don't think Brad Pitt plays Achat). I might look dipsy but I have travelled and I might know that McDonalds on the corner of 9th and Maine.

3) Say something flattering. e.g. "Oh, I like your hair"; "I love how you do your makeup" (oh shit, I've now given away my pickup lines). There is nothing better to get my conceited attention.

5) Don't mention your dick size. First of all, I know you're lying. Secondly, I know you're lying. Third, mine will always be smaller and it hurts my feelings.

6) You're not my boyfriend/girlfriend, yet. I detest "darling", "babe", etc. and any reference to pleasuring parts of my anatomy. I get the idea of the game and, for me, sex with strangers can be better than with friends.


So saying "Hey toots, you have a nice pair of cannons on you..wanna f*ck? I have a 9 inch penis btw." is a no no? Well, the explains a lot of replies.

Also, with regards to rule 2 and fake pics...I was starting to grow suspicious after seeing Selena Gomez, Katie Perry, and Miley Cyrus occupy achat. I just figured they had a lot of time on their hands (pun intended).
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: lolitazara on December 08, 2013, 03:31:10 PM
Have to agree that the first words need to be at least polite.  Especially if you are not someone I've spoken too before.  If you just go 'want to fuck' or something like that then you will be ignored and not answered. (Unless that's all I want to do that day  ;D )
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: lucian87 on January 05, 2014, 10:28:30 PM
Is it just me or is it just that people in this community are too stuck-up? I got curious about 6 hours ago and signed up, got premium and all that and tried chatting people up. Out of 10 people I messaged, only 2 bothered to respond. Even though I'm a legitimate newbie and have no idea what the heck is going on, most of the people who even responded to me laughed at me and sneered, "Nice try," before ignoring me. :/
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: bluedenim on January 06, 2014, 01:00:29 AM

Hi Lucian. Don't know what your problem is, and rather than expose you to ridicule why don't you pm me with your opening line and I'll maybe give you a few pointers?
I know that I get people trying to chat me up in the game all the time and while I do try and talk to everyone, sometimes it just isn't possible.
I don't understand why people find it necessary to be rude tho..... so like I said, show me what you're saying & I promise not to sneer.
x
blu

Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Concerto on January 06, 2014, 03:24:32 AM
Lol, I had to check to see it wasn't me as I have been known to say "Nice try!". It wasn't :)

Actually, I have always used it as a compliment. To me, it would mean "I liked what you said and that you went to the trouble of saying it and perhaps, if I wasn't so busy, I might be tempted. Nice try!" but that is a lot to type when I am busy so you only get the two words.

Lol, Lucian, don't be too concerned. They don't respond to me, often, and I have been playing the game for a year and a half now and thought I was well known and liked. Lol, perhaps not :) However, having played it this long I can understand all the reasons for someone not responding and just take it as normal.

Of course, so much depends on what you actually say. Cheer up. Just think, if you went up to every woman in the street and started to chat them up, how many would answer you (at least pleasantly) let alone continue.

It's good that you got premium. Not so big a concern to me but to many it is.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: lucian87 on January 06, 2014, 08:34:59 AM
I've been trying for the past couple hours with breaks in between without any success, and I'm thinking of quitting already. There ought to be some system that penalizes people for ignoring messages (-A$10) unless they're legitimately busy. Trying to keep an open mind about AChat here, but it's difficult to remain interested at this point.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: zoerink on January 06, 2014, 08:40:46 AM
I've been trying for the past couple hours with breaks in between without any success, and I'm thinking of quitting already. There ought to be some system that penalizes people for ignoring messages (-A$10) unless they're legitimately busy. Trying to keep an open mind about AChat here, but it's difficult to remain interested at this point.

Well Lucian, i am agree with you that is not so good when people dont answer messages, but think that this would be penalized i think is out of order.

As you, as me, as everyone, all people have the right and the freedom to talk with people they want, when they want. I use to answer everyone with a "hello, i am busy, sorry", and thats all... but not everyone have to do what i do, because everyone is free, as i have freedom to dont talk never with people who never answer in chat.

Welcome to forum!!!.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hukk on January 06, 2014, 08:42:02 AM
*warps arms around Lucian*

Ah, my new friend...looks like you discovered that the achat seas are not so kind to new swimmers.

Alright, lemme give you some Pro Hukk Tips. These are guaranteed to get you doing the 'no pants dance' in no time.

Step 1) Include babe in every pm you make. Including Babe is essential. It says to them "This guy is a douche...but he carries himself with such confidence that he must be good in the sack. I'll sleep with him."

Step 2) Opening line should have some sort of compliment aimed at her anatomy. Because, you need to stick out somehow right? Nice boobs, and nice ass works fine, but try if you can to write a poem before hand describing her buttocks before you message her.

I.E ~ "Roses are red. Violets are blue. You have a nice ass. Sleep with me."

Step 3) Sing her a song about how awesome you are and why she should room with you. This should only be used if the above methods didn't work. Be warned this last option works so well, that you'll soon find yourself swamped by invites after word of your master seduction spreads across achat like wild fire.

Your welcome.

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Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: jondas on January 06, 2014, 08:46:38 AM
I suggest that Hukk performs a stand-up show occasionally in the AB&G, he really does make one laugh
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: zoerink on January 06, 2014, 08:48:25 AM
I suggest that Hukk performs a stand-up show occasionally in the AB&G, he really does make one laugh

LOL!!!

I vote for it too Jondas
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: lucian87 on January 06, 2014, 08:56:50 AM
Well Lucian, i am agree with you that is not so good when people dont answer messages, but think that this would be penalized i think is out of order.

Why not? It would be in AChat's interest in retaining new customers like myself. I for one am a proponent of social engineering through these means.

I frankly don't mind it if people have the common courtesy of telling me that they're a) not interested or b) already busy speaking with someone else. But a lot of people in this community don't.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: lucian87 on January 06, 2014, 09:02:10 AM
*warps arms around Lucian*

Ah, my new friend...looks like you discovered that the achat seas are not so kind to new swimmers.

Alright, lemme give you some Pro Hukk Tips. These are guaranteed to get you doing the 'no pants dance' in no time.

Step 1) Include babe in every pm you make. Including Babe is essential. It says to them "This guy is a douche...but he carries himself with such confidence that he must be good in the sack. I'll sleep with him."

Interesting. I'll try that once I've cooled off and stopped having the desire to shoot half of AChat's women in the face with my Remington.

Quote
Step 2) Opening line should have some sort of compliment aimed at her anatomy. Because, you need to stick out somehow right? Nice boobs, and nice ass works fine, but try if you can to write a poem before hand describing her buttocks before you message her.

I.E ~ "Roses are red. Violets are blue. You have a nice ass. Sleep with me."

As a veteran of Second Life, the options in AChat are appallingly limited. It also appears that lots of women don't put in a smidgin of effort into making their avatars look like they weren't run over by an 18-wheeler truck and put back together by a child with cerebral palsy using super-glue. It's a bit difficult to compliment on anything in their anatomy that stands out when limited effort has been put in by the women.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on January 06, 2014, 09:27:25 AM
Welcome lucian,
with every word you're complaining and latently aggressive. Perhaps the girls smell and feel this attitude?
The body and clothing options are not perfect, so its hard to individualize your avi. Some put more effort in it, some less. Those you dont
 like you dont have to talk to.
Sometimes it might be hard to get least an asnwer. I agree, in your point of view it should be normal to say "sorry busy" or "hi, maybe next time". For me its too. But i also got the "pleasure" to read some chatlogs of girls and also used an female forum-avi to help another member. I can tell you, ive been bombed with messages and cold invites and many gilrs get even more of them as i did. Its not possible to answer each message when you get 15, 20, 30 messages in less than a minute.

Think about your first words, make yourself interesting, be nice and patient. Think about your attitude - dont get angry if you dont get an answer immediately. I also am sure, if you stay here in forum, you may find many nice girls to talk to.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lydiarose on January 06, 2014, 09:52:03 AM
what i have see a lot of lately with some guy is to send a message and when i go to answer them they have logout..
so Lucian after you have shot half the women on here can i have a lend of your Remington so i can shoot half the Achat Guys 
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: zoerink on January 06, 2014, 10:02:07 AM
what i have see a lot of lately with some guy is to send a message and when i go to answer them they have logout..
so Lucian after you have shot half the women on here can i have a lend of your Remington so i can shoot half the Achat Guys 

My love...  :o make love, and not the war  ::)

Kisses my sweet Lydia :)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: bluedenim on January 06, 2014, 10:48:30 AM

You guys crack me up............

HUKK, with those lines you'd would be on my ignore list so fast you wouldn't have finished typing! I sooooooooo hope you were being ironic!

What's that film with Pamela Anderson in? "Don't call me BABE!"
lolz!
Why don't you be old-fashioned and try
"What's a sweet girl like you doing on a site like this? You must have men lining up to date you!"
Would work for me! Corn is good, ok!
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: lucian87 on January 06, 2014, 11:39:51 AM
what i have see a lot of lately with some guy is to send a message and when i go to answer them they have logout..
so Lucian after you have shot half the women on here can i have a lend of your Remington so i can shoot half the Achat Guys 

I'll gladly lend it to you.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Brandybee on January 06, 2014, 03:56:29 PM
Is it just me or is it just that people in this community are too stuck-up? I got curious about 6 hours ago and signed up, got premium and all that and tried chatting people up. Out of 10 people I messaged, only 2 bothered to respond. Even though I'm a legitimate newbie and have no idea what the heck is going on, most of the people who even responded to me laughed at me and sneered, "Nice try," before ignoring me. :/
I've been trying for the past couple hours with breaks in between without any success, and I'm thinking of quitting already. There ought to be some system that penalizes people for ignoring messages (-A$10) unless they're legitimately busy. Trying to keep an open mind about AChat here, but it's difficult to remain interested at this point.

Hi lucian87, 

Strong words for someone who’s only tried out the game for 6 hours and then a further 2.

I tried it out for 10 weeks before I joined up and it took me 4 weeks to figure out how to get the Santa hat off and the glasses LMAO.  And let me tell you, I met my fair share of Cookie Monsters.
3 1/2 years later, I still do.  Go check out some of the Worst chat Ups Topic to see what some have to put up with.

There are several reasons why people don’t respond. Don’t take it personal. They could be in several conversations at once.  There are more guys here than girls so there is competition out there whether you like it or not.  Check out the guys profiles and make sure yours is up there to catch attention.

Some may even be away from keyboard,  at work  :o,   or here in forum.

Some may not like your approach. So try something different. A romantic type message can work or at least be an ice breaker. Don’t expect to room. Some like to chat first to see if there is any chemistry and some are in long term Achat relationships and choose to room with their spouse or special lover only. Some may play but give priority to their special lover first if they are on line at the same time or it may even be an arranged date. 

There are people from all over the world here. Some don’t speak good English, some not at all. People’s humour is different and “Nice Try” may seem offensive to you but to the other person, it may have been an opener to start a conversation, you could try answering …

 “I thought so too, took me an age to think of it. I’m new, any pointers to improve it?” and if they answer, the start is a good one.

If not leave it awhile and try elsewhere. They may be in chat.

Then after a reasonable time. “I take it you are busy, thank you for replying. Have fun and a great evening”

The thing is, don’t presume, they are ignoring you, presume they are busy.  A bad attitude won’t make you attractive to girls on here. Most are here to enjoy themselves and someone who moans can soon be replaced with a more pleasant conversation.

You can’t fine someone for not talking to you, it’s a bit like stamping your foot in a tantrum. Best thing to do is try, try, and try again. Don’t give up but be pleasant and don’t judge people.

This game is what you make it.  Give it a chance.

You did the right thing joining the forum village. The residents here are the best in the world and are not stuck up at all. That is quite a sweeping statement you made there and you could offend people.  You could even get a virtual punch in the nose.   ;D ;D ;D

Try introducing yourself in the below topic. You will no doubt meet more of us and may make new friends.
 
Forum Homepage / Organisations & Events / Introduce yourself
http://www.funnyadultgamesplay.com/forum/index.php/board,22.0.html

Good Luck and I hope your efforts are rewarded in kind.


oh yeah,


As a veteran of Second Life, the options in AChat are appallingly limited. It also appears that lots of women don't put in a smidgin of effort into making their avatars look like they weren't run over by an 18-wheeler truck and put back together by a child with cerebral palsy using super-glue. It's a bit difficult to compliment on anything in their anatomy that stands out when limited effort has been put in by the women.


That's rude,  When in Rome ... and all that.  You are getting a virtual punch in the nose.

 ;D ;D ;D ;D



Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: hukk on January 06, 2014, 04:58:56 PM
@ Blue

Oh Blue. lol, yea I was just joking. By now you should know most of what I say shouldn't be taken seriously. I'm just a silly dummy.  ::)

Though, you'd be surprised by how successful I can be, by just being silly. I have actually recited a poem similar to what I typed earlier and have been successful. It's like what BB says. For some, that sort of humor can be gold..while at times it can be a cold lump of shit. Just gotta know how to read em'.

My trademark ice breaker though? This:

@----'--,----'--,---'--     A rose for the princess    *winks*  ;-D
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: bluedenim on January 07, 2014, 12:32:58 AM

Hukk,

Roses would work for me. Romantic does it every time, I'm just soppy really. :)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Nexe on January 10, 2014, 07:03:39 AM
To any new man who might read that topic:

First, you should know that here in Achat we, women, are minority among users. Men are more numerous. That means, a woman you're trying to talk to is probably already busy chatting with someone else. So, if she doesn't reply, do not take offence. She is not an octopus and and cannot answer to all chats at once. And, sometimes she can be afk as well. So, learn to be patient.

Second, be unique. Or try to be, at least. When i used to play Achat, i could get exactly the same 'Hi, how are you' ten times in a row. So do you really think a woman will want to answer this ten times in a row to ten different users? So, learn to be creative.

Third, human brain is wonderful masterpiece of evolution/creation (whatever the concept you do believe in), use it! Seriousely, guys, be smart. While it isn't really nesessary to be a rocket scientist, it is nesessary to be smart in usual everyday manner. I, for example, have absolutely no interest in reading about the size of your pennis. First, because that size does not matter to me at all, and second, because Achat is a videogame and in this game all and every male model have exactly the same size of his pennis. And again, Achat is a videogame with chat, so the only way to impress a woman here is to chat to her! So, learn to be smart.

Fourth, do not look at a woman as at underhuman being. We aren't 'bitches', 'whores', 'chicks', or whatever. Well, some of us are, but those usually write that in their player profile. If you do not read on woman's profile that she likes to be called that way, than take the aforementioned advice and be smart, do not address to her with such foul words. In any case, good manners won't hurt anyone. And yes, calling an unknown lady 'a babe' is vulgar and not nice at all. So, learn to be polite.

And the final advice, we do not always want to reveal everything about ourselves, think of that and respect that. If a lady had wrote that she won't use skype and won't send any photos, do not aks her for that! If a lady had put '99' as her age, than she probably do not want to tell her exact age. And yes, it is impolite to ask a lady about her age. It is still impolite even in the net. Also, if she put the country name in her profile, do not ask her where's she from. When i had 'Russia' in my profile, i still received questions which country i'm from. Yes, that's silly. And that also shows that you do not bother to read about person who you want to play with. So, learn to read player's profiles!
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Brandybee on January 10, 2014, 05:03:59 PM
Well said Nexe,  and welcome to Forum,

Please introduce yourself to the rest of our residents.

Forum Homepage / Organisations & Events / Introduce yourself
http://www.funnyadultgamesplay.com/forum/index.php/board,22.0.html   
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: TG_Chaser on February 10, 2014, 06:07:50 PM
and change out of the blue sweater+bald head
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Concerto on February 11, 2014, 12:15:19 AM
Blue sweater and bald head? That's ok. I've started telling people that they had better put some clothes on, if they want to get somewhere.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: TG_Chaser on February 11, 2014, 08:49:54 AM
I dunno... personally I get a lot of the girls with the free hair, face, green or white top and jeans.... I've taken to not replying to them a lot of the time because I give them the benefit of a doubt and they're like "wanna fuck?".... girls have to be creative too..
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on February 11, 2014, 10:27:25 AM
I usually dont blame them, if you start AChat you might think everybody is here just to have sex. If they are nice least i answer... but those who are new and at once asking for money... i love playing with their minds. And i agree Chaser, many of them are guys
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Misdevious on December 11, 2014, 07:43:10 AM
Bumping an old topic, but this is something that's been on my mind recently.

I've tried, genuinely, to respond to everyone.  Of course, there are a few that message me that go instantly on ignore, those are usually ones that want to rape me or something else extremely taboo.  But, I find that too many men can't seem to accept a polite refusal.  A polite refusal is just me being respectful, it's not me wanting to be convinced to room with you.   So, I've given up.  Sorry to the ones that might actually be nice and interesting (show it in your approach to me and odds are that I'll respond.)  But I'm tired already of men who expect me to service every cock on achat.  Add that to the amount of messages I get, honestly, I just get overwhelmed, especially when I have to explain why I'm not interested in someone, just accept no for no!

Plus I have a few other things that have already been mentioned.

I may be AFK
I may be about to jump in a room.
I may be super busy.

Then a few specific to me:
I like to be very descriptive, language barriers can be frustrating.
I like to have partners that are 28+
The way you dress may turn me off.  Blue sweaters are ugly.  As is latex, g-strings, nudity.
Certain hairstyles too, achat is visual and if your avatar isn't attractive, then no, just no.
You have mentioned being owned or loving someone else on your profile.  Potential drama and it makes me feel like I'm involved in cheating, which is something that revolts me rather than turns me on.
Your profile mentions incest.  I'm not your mother, nor do I want to be your daughter.
Your profile is blank.  At least make some effort!
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: PlumPrincess on December 13, 2014, 02:49:23 PM
<Applauses Misdevious>

I'd like to add one thing, which is that sometimes the chat interface is frustratingly difficult to use, resulting in me sometimes not noticing that someone has messaged me, sometimes in mistells on my part.

So if I don't respond, maybe it's because i've given up scrolling up and down in the window, clicking, clicking, clicking, trying to find a relevant message from someone. Maybe it's because I just didn't see the message. Maybe it's because I'm just overwhelmed with four or five people trying to talk to me at once.

My apologies to anyone I've possibly offended because of this.
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: FoxyRoxxy on December 13, 2014, 10:46:48 PM
Very  few times  Do I answer . 
I feel there are to many fools  all they seek is sex  with out a  hello
its mostly hey what to *&^%$ or want to S*&^% my  not all are in to just sex .whambam

I  like to chat and now and then there are nice guys that are gentleman  I find that is  rare that there are  guys that do enjoy
chatting only ...

I would not reply to any one  that  comes on with a cheesy come on ..

I like to be respected   and looked as a person  not just a  fun toy ,  some my call me a cold B but its ok ,I know who I am and I feel good .
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: icebox on December 13, 2014, 11:06:18 PM
..i know i get attacked when i say that now,it sounds here as would be only the men on achat disrespectful...
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Lover on December 14, 2014, 11:00:43 AM
No you don't, of course also some girls are disrespectful. Just this topic is about why women refuse to reply :)
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: FoxyRoxxy on December 14, 2014, 12:40:46 PM
There is   lot of disrespect on both men women  dont matter  who it is there  just  some that are so rude  and think
its ok to just   to start off  with a cheesy  come on .
It is very  simple  if people get to say hello and and be polite
and see if the other person is interested . I like to think of suggestions salutations  to deal with problems like this

to me one would be if  Achat team would just make public rooms where avatar's  would meet, club  and socializing
to make it easy for others to talk  I think this has been suggested  in the past many time

Achat you like suggestions on how to improve the game  , this is one of them  .......FoxyRoxxy
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Calid32 on December 23, 2014, 02:56:42 AM
There are many posts in this thread that I agree with and sympathize with.  Both men and women are often frustrated with the socializing that occurs in this game.  The profiles don't offer us much space to stand out and be distinct, other than in our clothing.  So it is often difficult for a guy to know what to say to a woman to distinguish himself as 'conversation' worthy since he doesn't know much about her to begin with other than her avatar's outfit.  Overall, the only thing any of us can do, is remain polite, patient, and try to use complete sentences.  Much like socializing at a bar or any other venue, no one is guaranteed to meet someone with whom they will click. Still, we all keep trying for various reasons.  Either we are seeking fantasies to be explored, or conversations and connections because we are lonely.  I think part of being 'distinct' when being brave and approaching a woman is having the integrity to not flip out when she doesn't respond, as well as not feel crushed.  Some people on here have been very nice.  Others don't seem to have the ability to carry a conversation, let alone be very descriptive in their actions once in a room.  But I am confidant that there are more gems here than coals, and sooner or later everyone will find someone to enjoy shining with in a room. 
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: Kaitlyn72 on March 19, 2015, 12:23:53 PM
Not to necro post but I think this post strikes at the heart of probably the only frustrating part of AChat. The out of room chatting. A few things I have noticed and their hiccups.

1. The green light doesn't change when the person you are viewing enters a room. You have to leave their profile and come back to refresh it. Nothing like sending a message and no response only to have your next message get hit with a busy msg. Ah oops yellow light. damn the timing.

2. AFKs. When you set your status to busy for all due to AFK you dont get any messages sent while you are AFK. Grrr. I love my friends and always reply SO How do I know they are patiently waiting my return from RL? I dont set the busy status so I can read their pokes and respond. This of course may lead to a frustrated few who weren't around for my brb msg.

3. Stars on non premium profiles..ok this just gives me a headache. All my friends are premium. (Sorry freebies I like the baby batter payoff) I set to busy for free users and oooops One of my friends was blocked because her sub expired. Grrrr.

All in all I can say this about the pokes and heys. When I log in and I get a 'hey' I pull up your profile so I know who I am talking to. I just think it polite. If I am inundated with conversations and your single syllable greeting comes over I may not take the time to properly greet you. If your opening line is lewd or your profile pic is your package then I hit ignore. Different strokes for different folks. 
Title: Re: Why women refuse to reply.
Post by: AusWoody on March 19, 2015, 04:52:41 PM

G'Day,
well here is my 2 cents on this topic

I suppose i am somewhere between a newbie  and a oldbie  having been here about a year,  but from my point of view it comes down to this.

there are as many reasons  that people dont answer many of which have been covered  already  by others already, but to me it is  fairly simple.

Everyone here  has a perfect body, pretty face, nice clothes and my pet peeve BBC please  every male avatar has a big cock, unlike breasts  which come in various sizes (sorry free users but if dont think highly enough of the game  to invest a dollar a week to play then it tells people  just how real you are and being real means a lot  to us)  so basicly  everyone is the same, so you need to find something to distinguish yourself  from the masses of people here.

What differentiates you?

it comes down to your personality (and character but that wont become apparent till long after your  made a connection) so you need to approach people  in a manner that lets them know your  different  unique  from the  millions  of  “hey sexy  wanna fuck.”

or even worse  is the  cold invite, who are you  to just invite someone you havent had the decency to even say G'day to, I not some  standing cock waiting for a pussy, im a human being, with a  brain and  feelings  and lets be honest sex here is  mainly in the brain with an avatar  and  poses  to aid in creating your fantasies.

Oh and pose clickers  please go find  a free porn site  watch a 5 minute  vid  and  then get on with your  life, dont  come on here  and  frustrate the rest of us  who actually work at creating a pleasant environment  where we can mutually fulfil our sexual fantasies.

WOW  I just had a thought  how good would it be if you could rate your  partners,
a 5 star rating on several areas like  personality creativity politeness respect selfishness foreplay  after play ect im sure  you could  add a few  more  suitable  areas (I be interested in hearing your thoughts on this ?)

I could go on for  hours  but  start being a real person and I sure you will find that your connection rate  will improve  and you actually start to make real friends  not just a cunt to stick your dick in.

Go live learn and  enjoy your life  be it virtual or real