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Discussions about sex => Everything about sex and love => Topic started by: evilbaby on May 24, 2014, 06:24:49 PM
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Today, I tried something else than ignoring cold invites. I accept them, and when I came their room I asked why they did it (I even mentioned no cold inv. on my profile).I wrote down answers:
->It is easy,
->My English is not good,
->I like you,
->I am new here,
->I wrote hi 500 times but only 2 answered
->I wanted to try my luck
-Lefts room when I ask.
I may continue doing it, but if you have done it before or interested please tell :D
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The is rather interesting evilbaby. Thanks for posting that. Looks like a few of the answers you got were pretty honest. If they don't speak English I am sure it is hard for them. And I can see the point about saying "Hi" so many times and never getting anything back. Good look inside things. Again nice work evilbaby.
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Well, I am often busy talking to someone when the invite comes in so they get ignored.
Sometimes, if I like the look of their profile, I will msg them saying something like "I don't like cold invites but if you want to message me..."
And, then again, if I am not really busy and I like the look of their profile, I accept. I think there have only been a couple of cases where I didn't particularly like the way the conversation went and so I then left.
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You even can do a list with most mentioned "excuses" lol
Atm my fav is I like you as reasong for a cold invite :D
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A lot are new And I feel they don't understand who to use it
but then there are the ones that been here a long time and
will try to get new girls/guys easy to get one to play with
them not knowing the game
you have control to let them in or ignore them
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If you get too many click "busy for free users"
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Why do people invite without talking first?
I think its the the the low intelligence how to approach a relationships
I been observing people's behavior as how they communicate with the opposite sex
a lot need to really go to the Ask Granny advice column
I think this topic will help a lot ...On how to pick up others ...How to
talk to others and score ...not just invite and say babe want a big ****
http://www.funnyadultgamesplay.com/forum/index.php/topic,3537.0.html
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Would be nice if people would actually think a bit further than that, doing things like this is just an animalistic and egocentric need to orgasm in my opinion. But well I feel like this is a common theme in many places, like on dating sites where one gets peppered with "whant to fuck?" and lots of dick pics. xD
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I have never send a cold invite in all the time i have be in this game and it was 2 year before i was prem
what i would do with cold invite is go to room and wait till they say hi then i go AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA and then leave
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I guess not everyone is here to start a virtual relationship or like mentioned English is not their strong suit so they are very limited in who they can play with so many people not accepting colds. For those who just mainly want to have physical interaction the best bet is to use the blind date feature, that's what I use most of the time since I rarely get a response when messaging people no matter how I do it and I actually started to click with someone I met with "blind date".
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I guess not everyone is here to start a virtual relationship or like mentioned English is not their strong suit so they are very limited in who they can play with so many people not accepting colds. For those who just mainly want to have physical interaction the best bet is to use the blind date feature, that's what I use most of the time since I rarely get a response when messaging people no matter how I do it and I actually started to click with someone I met with "blind date".
Great :)
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I guess not everyone is here to start a virtual relationship or like mentioned English is not their strong suit so they are very limited in who they can play with so many people not accepting colds. For those who just mainly want to have physical interaction the best bet is to use the blind date feature, that's what I use most of the time since I rarely get a response when messaging people no matter how I do it and I actually started to click with someone I met with "blind date".
Well done Chitown175 Don't really though of that!
Great respond..........
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A lot that send cold invite English is there strong suit,
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I think is some instances its lack of social skills and immaturity. In this age of Texting, snap chat etc. people are missing out on the fine art of being able to hold a conversation.
The men and women who resort to cold invites are missing what i think is one of the best parts of the game.
To Quote the late Lemmy of Motorhead
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I'll admit it... when I first started I sent cold invites and it was for these reasons:
1) I was ignorant. I thought that was how it worked. I was the proverbial kid in the candy store.
2) While I was still a free user, hardly anyone would acknowledge my existance, let alone chat with me. So my reckoning on sending a cold invite was this: I was already alone, the only thing that would change would be her accepting the invite. In other words, I had nothing to lose.
My awakening came when I sent a cold invite to Ms. Pafe. She and her partner in crime, Lady Satoire, let me know in no uncertain terms that cold invites were not welcome. I was very fortunate that she is a beautiful person with a great sense of humor, who wanted nothing more than to make AChat a better site for herself and everyone else. She took the time to educate me. We became and still are very close friends, even though she has wandered to another site to look for boudoir shoes.
And Jayc is right... the thrill of the hunt is where its at.
P.S. She got her boudoir shoes...
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I also Cold invited when I first started here. Only once though. And that was because an Ex friend knew the person I colded.
I think it's hard to be new here. I didn't know the etiquette of this place, Now I do. By talking to people.....
If people just cold invite, like all the time, I think they don't have no social skills or just damn too shy. To be honest with all of you that read this, my social skills were not what they should have been. Maybe it was because of my shyness, who knows. This place has bought me out a bit, although I still find it hard to start a conversation with some people.
I am glad that I found this place when I did though. With the Meeting Places being very popular and friends meeting there and chatting, I bet it has got to be so much harder to make friends here than any time before. We all must have noticed that when someone new approaches us in the Meeting Places that conversation is very, very hard sometimes.
I feel sorry for some of the more genuine people who start here who want to make friends when most of us are in groups. Must be daunting for some to even approach us then.
As for the chase is better than the catch. Mmm Perhaps. I like to think if you are caught that's when the seriously fun bit starts. ;)
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One problem is the way AChat is describing itself on their website:
Downlaod the game, choose your gender, create an avi, invite people to have fun
That's what I did on my first day too - I invited girls to have fun. I didn't even know about "cold invites". My luck was, that some started talking to me and that I like to talk too :D
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One problem is the way AChat is describing itself on their website:
Downlaod the game, choose your gender, create an avi, invite people to have fun
That's what I did on my first day too - I invited girls to have fun. I didn't even know about "cold invites". My luck was, that some started talking to me and that I like to talk too :D
That may be the root of the "cold invite" that many people here dislike, people who do cold invites sign up because the game advertised people doing just that. I dunno, maybe the best solution is to have cold and no cold sections just like how restaurants had smoking and no smoking sections back in the day to appease everyone. I always try to see things from both sides and offer solutions that appeals to both parties.
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Maybe a button, similar like busy-state: Accepting cold invites/not accepting
If you accept, it means cold invites can be sent and you can agree or disagree. If you don't accept, they can't be sent to you
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Hi,
The "Blind Date" too is a "how to cold invite" ! ::)
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Maybe a button, similar like busy-state: Accepting cold invites/not accepting
If you accept, it means cold invites can be sent and you can agree or disagree. If you don't accept, they can't be sent to you
That may be the best solution, if the person does not accept then they won't be bothered by them.
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People do crazy things, Cold invites are just one of those. Yes, Blind date might be the same, but with Cold invite, they have more control of whom they want fuck and whom not (at least, that's my guess, actually haven't tried Blind date, so don't know, how that works).
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I seriously doubt I ever "colded" someone at all. The reason is, that I look to the profile first. And if I find something interesting and appealing to me, I also have already a starting point to extend from "Hi".
I suppose mainly they click along the list and follow whomever jumps in first. How often I put a cold down and how often I found the profile with a yellow dot already as soon as I check who sucked this time.
Very rarely I am able to shoot back something like: "Really? You can't do better than that?"
Only once I got a response and it was a nice chat with a Newbie afterwards. One who probably will not cold again.
For my understanding it is a utter lack of respect. If you want to club someone down and drag her home to your cave, why not stick to robot girl? Obviously you're anyway not interested in any word I could say so you would not notice any difference.
Nah sorry, I don't get further into it as to put a cold down. Who is not able to attract my attention would perform anyway too lousy between the sheets. I bet on that.
The best way to get this out of the world would be to ignore them all. This would force a different strategy upon them. But apparently it still seems to pay off. This also tells me something :)
My2cents
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I couldn't write it better (and I haven't) and I agree with every word. Although I don't ignore them as of putting them on my iggy list, I just plainly ignore them, let the countdown drop to zero and that's it. They mostly never try it again anyway. Well mostly. Or am I just lucky enough to meet those, that have enough in their brains, to understand, that I'm not interested in them. Who knows.