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Discussions about AChat => Polls => Topic started by: RickTQ on May 10, 2017, 06:08:09 PM

Title: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: RickTQ on May 10, 2017, 06:08:09 PM: Hello Users i have heard that not every She male likes the name that they are called on the game
so here is a poll of names that might work be sure u think about the choice you make before u make ur vote thank you for your attention if you read this :)
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: BrandyM on May 10, 2017, 06:17:19 PM: Trans Woman or T-Girl please. Shemale and Tranny are derogatory and offensive. I hate those words.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: zuzannah on May 11, 2017, 05:45:25 AM: Hi.

Why do we need a label.

Just call us Girl, or Gurl.

Isn't that what all of them aspire to. To be one ? The one's I've chatted to here always prefer to be called girl.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: RickTQ on May 11, 2017, 08:29:25 AM: Hey Zuzannah the Poll is more about what the Name in your profile is suppose to be
and to put that name as Girl or Gurl will be a bit confusing for other players if you know what i mean and of course if you just talk to a T-Girl why not just call her Girl if that's what she likes why would u be rude and not call her that but i think that opinion is different for every one else just like this topic is over the name that's why i didn't make it a discussion but a poll but pls vote and if you do thank you of participating :)
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: Seiki on May 11, 2017, 09:13:09 AM: It really can depend on the gurl, but as a trans woman myself, I prefer t-girl.
As mentioned, "shemale/she-male and tranny" can be derogatory.

Some gurls like those terms as part of a sexual thing, so you will get different answers.
For the gurls who like to perpetuate the uniqueness of being trans, t-girl is a good fit, I think.

Finally, there are gurls who don't want to be trans, and aspire to just be recognized as women.
Each has a valid perspective.

This type of open discussion is a welcome change to other communities.
Thank you for taking the time to solicit our feedback. :)
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: RickTQ on May 11, 2017, 12:43:38 PM: Hey Seiki
your welcome for bringing the subject up I heard some T-Girl's didn't like the name so that's why I taught it would of been a good subject to bring up and who knows maybe we can change something if the poll is getting the attention that it needs maybe the game developers change the name in ur Profiles to something that everyone is happy with thx for your vote btw :)
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: zuzannah on May 11, 2017, 03:02:11 PM: OK Rick.

I didn't know that.

I guess out of all them then. T - Girl.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: WilliamXS on June 05, 2017, 02:02:35 AM: I voted ...But I missed 'Ladyboy' on the list.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: Laura_AFS on June 10, 2017, 03:24:39 PM: (http://s2.quickmeme.com/img/25/2588e03f345ea2ffed3392ab0145c60434af000390e8976265cdd8b70418e3c5.jpg)

Quote from: GsCougar on June 10, 2017, 01:01:29 PM

Best way would be IF some REAL NICE SHEMALES would have taken voice and discuss that theme with you.

Question: Why don't you live your own advice? Anatasia IS a shemale, just in case you didn't notice her (s)...

I can understand how she feels...a poll for everyone what shemales should be called...eh...wtf? Why does this need to be discussed at all, what's the thread openers intention? I know a few shemales in game, not a single one ever complained.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: Laura_AFS on June 10, 2017, 05:04:56 PM: Quote from: GsCougar on June 10, 2017, 04:39:25 PM

Cant you have just a normal friendly discussion about a theme ?
AND if that THEME not suits you just LEAVE IT ALONE !!!

I probably missed the part where you were declared a moderator in here. If Ana or anyone else (especially shemales like her) have something to say, how is this your concern, as long as this is not one of your thousand topics and you are not addressed by her or others?

Freedom of speech. Ever heard of that?
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: jayc on June 10, 2017, 05:50:11 PM: Lets get back on topic here .
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: Brandybee on June 11, 2017, 04:38:38 AM: Quote from: RickTQ on May 10, 2017, 06:08:09 PM
Hello Users i have heard that not every She male likes the name that they are called on the game
so here is a poll of names that might work be sure u think about the choice you make before u make ur vote thank you for your attention if you read this :)

T Gurl or T Girl seems to be the popular choice. I voted for that.
I never really thought of Tranny or shemale as derogatory before so I am glad that RickTQ has opened up the discussion.
The University of Achat Life is educating us all.
I hope other T Gurl's join in the debate, I'd be interested in their point of view too.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: BrandyM on July 05, 2017, 02:45:17 AM: As a Transgender woman I can tell you it is a slur against those who are transgender and fighting for our identity. It makes many of us feel we are less than or makes us feel humiliated. It is often used this way towards us. It is difficult enough to find peace with a body that you are born into that does not fit how you feel and the struggles that go with that, without adding insult to injury by implying maleness or being male in any way is who we are by calling us a "Shemale". It is no different than calling someone the N word or the F word if they are homosexual. It's derogatory.

I came here to be able to be who I am without that awkward moment I and those like me have to experience in real life when we have to say "You need to know I am transgendered". It is nice that people see the tag (s) and know that up front and there is less angst and awkwardness involved. It is refreshing. I simply wish that (s) be replaced with (t) or (tg) instead and not feel I am being objectified as some sort of "offbrand" male. I do not identify as male, whatsoever.

Many transgender people regard the term shemale as offensive, arguing that it mocks or shows a lack of respect towards transgender individuals. I can tell you this is exactly how I feel as well. The term emphasizes the natal sex of a person and neglects their gender identity. Using the term shemale for a transsexual woman often implies that she is working in the sex trade. The phrase is commonly used in pornography. The word Shemale is degrading and has been borrowed from the porn industry.

I was born male but am I not a female in heart? I do not wish to express myself as male in any way. Transgendered woman or T Girl is more accurate and honest and far less offensive.

What the term shemale says is your not really a woman. In fact not only are you not a woman but you are a sexual object. A play thing.

It is both DE-humanising & denying a persons real identity.

It's a derogatory term to denote a sexual plaything, a "unicorn" if you wish. It is most often used to denote the type of porn star who is male but has undergone surgery to appear female while retaining male genitalia. Transgendered women feel that they were born in the wrong physical body and would like to bring their mental image and their physical image into sync.

If you've never heard it used in a way to indicate hostility, great. But some of us have and I have. A lot. I don't like how it makes me feel. That said, she-male tends to have pornography connotations the way I've heard the word. I can't think of a single time I've heard that word used that it wasn't referring to something pornographic. To make the point, we don't call women "Shefemales" or men "Hemales" or female to male transgenders "Hefemales" The word is ludicrous and insults us because we identify as female, not male!

This all being said, if you call me that word, i will simply request you not use that word, please. I do not like it and i will educate you so you don't do it again. If you insist on using it afterwards, then you are being mean and spiteful to those of us who don't like it.

"Shemale" has some pretty obvious cisgendered connotations. Many in the transgender community feel it presents the implication that they're some kind of off-brand male. Porn is where you encounter the word, this should be your first clue that it is possibly offensive to those of us struggling with our bodies and gender identity.

I'm not porn negative, but using words that have a primarily pornographic connotation to describe people outside of porn is not the way most people prefer to be addressed.I am human and I have feelings and i feel it is dehumanizing. If you think it is ok to call us "Shemales" I suggest you ask yourselves if you were a woman, would you wish to be called a "Cumslut" instead of a woman or a "Big Black Cock" if you're a male, because those words are pornographic words and i'm sure you wouldn't want to be be gender identified with them. I don't think you use these terms to describe these people much outside of a sexual context. I doubt you'd be super thrilled if people referred to your young daughter as a "lolita".

Sexualizing people's identities without their consent is at the very least rude. Using a highly sexualized term for a group with a history of being fetishized and marginalized can be seen as undermining efforts to be seen as more than someone's sexual fetish.

With that said, I get why we need to be seperated from those playing women with a vagina and those of us who are becoming the women we identify as whom have a penis. Because of a need and the game mecnhanics required, we have tags like (w) and (s) so people don't get a shock when the clothes come off.I do not think it is too much to ask for that (s) to become a (t) or (tg) for those of us who do not want to be degraded with pornographic words. Even if it is a "sex game". I think i have clearly explained why the word shouldn't be used and why it is hurtful. Thank you for reading and your time.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: Brandybee on July 05, 2017, 03:09:34 AM: Well said and explained BrandyM.

If we can get more people involved in the debate and voting, I will certainly put forward a case for Shemale to be changed to the most popular name and the S changed to T or Tg.

Please vote and please express your views.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: Davina4 on December 17, 2017, 04:23:16 PM: Hi. and firstly thank you for getting this topic raised, as for those who are transgendering or have transgendered, it is important. Transgender is not a description of a sex, or a sexuality but what someone is and how they think and see themselves, that is important to understand. Shemale and Ladyboy are names brought to us by the pornographic industry to describe certain sexual fetishes or wants, not what someone is. Therefore TG. is the most correct and acceptable offer on your list, and is how we are referred to in society and legally. LGBT is a perfect example, it is not LGBS or LGBL. So I certainly vote for a change and vote for TG - Trans girl or gurl. The name of this game is Achat, the clue is in the name, its why I joined. Chat, Date and Sex site. It would be great if our title represented that and out feelings.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: PaulinaHard on December 18, 2017, 06:52:39 AM: >:(Well, who knows me here, knows that I simply HATE >:( those labels. How would you prefer to be treated? As a girl or as a label? I dont mind if its confusing for other users. In real life is confusing too and that is the point, people see me as a girl! If you want to know more about me need to know me! I dont need a label, nor in real life, nor here! I agree totally with Brandy but in this lack of options ok, the less worse I think its tgirl, although I would prefer it to be merely Girl. This even would put rude and prejudiced people in a more real situation.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: Venus_15 on December 18, 2017, 08:35:00 AM: No label for me!
Just flowers i love!
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: GutZ on December 19, 2017, 05:32:28 PM: I support everything Davina says.

I voted T-girl.
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: Kaitlyn1989 on December 19, 2017, 11:24:45 PM: Hi All *hugs* I am female so I will refrain from voting, BUT.....I will share my thoughts, :o as usual.

In a WORLD that likes to assign labels and place us neatly in drawers; whether it’s by our “gender”, “race”, “sexuality” or “spirituality”. Where axiology imprisoned in duality is doomed to incessant comparison. I subscribe to being “UNIQUE”, to being ME. No label required, not even a mirror… I don’t need to reflect very long to know the person inside. I just need to have the courage and perseverance to be true to myself and follow my path…. allowing others to do the same. There is no right or wrong, just a matter of "fit".

Like many of YOU in this world, I am attracted to the PERSON. Their thoughts, feelings, words and actions… not their equipment, politics or religion. One of the qualities I cherish most in here is we are nothing more than our words and actions. Over time……. that is what defines us, reveals our persona, our spirit, NOT the differences in our flesh or culture.

I don’t need to agree with everyone’s beliefs or their wants n desires to find some common ground and get along. We are ALL different in some way, no matter how subtle, creating countless flavors and possibilities….. what could possibly be wrong with that? Can you imagine the alternative?

I can no better see through a label than I can through flesh to reveal what truly matters….. the SPIRIT that dwells within. After all, that is where the real connection is made.

Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. I am happy to see new faces in the forum. ;D
Title: Re: BEST NAME FOR SHEMALES ???
Post by: Sandytrans on October 02, 2018, 05:39:48 PM: Well luv all of those names mean different things. So it's like saying which fish do you like best. Hamburger, Chicken strips, Pizza rolls, Bread Sticks?

I prefer girl and if thats confusing gurl. Sweetie, Love, Darling, Honey, Dear all work too. Now let's use it in a sentence...

"See that Dear over there, She is such a sweetie."

:)