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Announcements => A-Team ask you => Topic started by: lickyman on January 01, 2018, 08:23:05 AM
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Its sad when you go in a room(city) and people( ritajean, cara, etc) try to control a room and chasing people( new members) out. And then assuming you they are there to start trouble . There's a line of people stopping you from going down the street and if you cross the line they give you trouble. I'm not Sezawolf's subboy I find it rude and inproper, I 'm a paid member of Achat like everyone else. It's not right for people and no one has the right to tell me what room i can or can not be in.
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Welcome and a happy New Year first of all.
Bullying is met always and everywhere. It seems to be a great game for some. Destructive, but anyway a game.
Most times bully's egos are so low that they need to boost it with bulling others in order to feel superior.
Uhhh, lame!
Taking this into consideration you may even argue, who is the victim or loser in this game actually. I'd say everyone involved.
However, namedropping does not help it anyway. Whether ist Jean or Jane or Bill or Bob does not matter. Unless you actually plan to report to an authority names shouldn't matter.
What matters is, that it is a game. And what makes a game work, no matty how shitty it is?
Players who act according to the game's rules, right?
So if you don't like the game, fuck it. Don't apply to their rules and give a shit.
If someone tries to spoil your mood and make you get upset, just don't. Don't get your mood spoiled, just ignore. Don't act the way, they want you to act. Like freaking out and complaining. This will soon let their interest drop down to zero. If someone is looking for a victim, don't become a victim.
Here are people around who like to have fun. Who understand that any relation or interaction between people is about to elevate. Yourself and others same time. To have fun. Not make fun of someone else but together with. Constructive, cheerful people who understand that making others feel better and giving them a good time elevates themself into having an awesome time too.
Find those persons and enjoy a good time and a good spirit. That's the best advice I can give.
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happy New Year to all,
Yes i understand Name calling is a childest way of upsetting people as my self. but name dropping i bear to differ on that for makes others aware of whom is doing the bulling. So your saying they are playing by the game rules huh?
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Sure they do. It's their bully game's rules though, not AChat's. Don't mix that one up.
What do you achieve with name dropping?
Anyone who is not dumber as cucumber will anyhow find out who is a bully and who not. Do you think you could prevent anything?
You give credit to a bully first of all.
I like to say, whenever you point your finger at someone, you point three at yourself.
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"I like to say, whenever you point your finger at someone, you point three at yourself!"
Yes that's all we can say bout "fucky" names.
Well lickyman, let's say your keyboard is haunted....
have fun in game anyway and good luck luckyman!
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This is still a thing tho.
Dont gonna say a name but i guess everyone knows anyway.
She acting like that place is hers and everytime someone is standing there and she dont like them she start telling him to go away that he is not wanted there like its here place.
ITS NOT. ITS A PUBLIC PLACE FOR A REASON.
And everytime if you start normal discussion she blocks you so you are the bad one and then she tell to others how you are the bad one and you are looking for troubles etc.
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Report this person to Support.
Keep chat logs for proof.
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I disagree with Pandora, name dropping is the ONLY thing you can do on a game like this. If you start screeching at me in meeting place you better believe I'm not leaving your name out of it when I tell everyone about how some bitch wouldn't stop using transphobic slurrs.
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To all the souls who feel they have been bullied...I feel for you....I try and bring love and harmony here..but there are those who think they own the world here...you have mentioned a few.......this is a forum for all....and we should treat each other kindly....no reason to be a bully....what....you feel proud you can be a bully in a virtual world......oh....hmm...thinking...you are more of a pussy to act this way! Anyone with bullying issues....bring them to me and I will try and talk to the person if you like. There is no need for this here....we are I hope...all adults!
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First take screenshots of the entire conversation and send them to support. After that, I think this is the perfect place to name names of a bully. Why not? Best be sure to have proof though. Screenshot the conversations and post them. Let the screenshots tell the story.
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It's a shame I have to post this, but I think it needs to be aired in public.
Several days ago I met a new member...5 minutes old, he told me. I offered to answer any questions he may have, linked him to the Advice for Newcomers in this forum and tried to generally be helpful. I just do it, and wish more would. I remember when I first joined...being ignored by people who think they're somehow superior because they've been here a while made the place even more daunting than being a "newbie". We were all noobs at one time. and should remember that. No one is better or more important than anyone else here.
I met the same guy earlier today in the public spaces and stopped to ask how he was getting on.
He told me he'd been bullied by several members, who's length of time here should mean they'd know better. Apparently he'd had an experience of a guy being rude, name calling/insults...and hit back, understandably perhaps.
What is annoying is that since then he's been abused by friends of the guy to the point where his enjoyment of Achat has faded considerably.
The people doing the bullying have been named previously in this thread, so I'll not do so again. Though I've no qualms whatever about doing so.
Apparently they told him that they "know people" and were going to get him banned.
I wonder what people it is they know? Or are they just full of shit and self-importance?
I'm tempted to opt for the latter.
I advised the guy, who is now in my Friend list, to just Iggy them all and stay away, though advice like that should never need to be given.
I'd like anyone reading this to spare a thought for new members and help out if and when possible, and if you see any bullying...post it here, name and shame.
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Ugh....I posted a reply and it did not show ....So here I go again. analetta THIS type of behavior infuriates me!! How DARE they treat people this way?!!
Trust me, I am sure they don't know anyone. If they are so worried about being banned they need to make threats then they do not know anyone except other bullies.
I remember my first day in a public room and it was intimidating even with V, a long term member, at my side. I knew he'd not let anyone disrespect me and it was still a bit intimidating. New people add life to the game. Meeting new people is why we are all here. The type of people you mention BORE me. Shame on them!!
Tell your friend that if he should see V or myself out and about to please say hello and introduce himself. We both have zero tolerance for disrespect and mean. We have no issue with standing at his side in front of these people.
If he does not know how to take screenshots he needs to learn AND not hesitate to submit a report. If it happens in front of us we will do the same.
WHY ARE THERE NO MODS?
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First take screenshots of the entire conversation and send them to support. After that, I think this is the perfect place to name names of a bully. Why not? Best be sure to have proof though. Screenshot the conversations and post them. Let the screenshots tell the story.
Take screenshots of ANY and ALL bullying/harassment and send to ACHAT Support.
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Tell Achat Support. It is right next to the "Shop" on the menu bar at the top of this page.
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I would like to suggest a process that when someone joins the forum for the first time they must read the rules section before they can see the rest of the forum options.
Many jump in, post what they want where they want with little consideration of forum etiquette. This IS a public forum with many different cultures and sexual preferences. To mock any of them as recently seen by one member is not respectful and must be considered.
So even though the rules posted at the top of the menu are old they are still very much the rules of the Forum.
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I couldn't agree more. Though why this and the previous post it's in response to is in a thread about bullying escapes me.
This is a Public forum where any member should be able to post freely without being restricted as long as they abide by the rules.
If a thread is in Public, then it's available for all to post in.
If the originator of the thread has a desire to restrict what is posted there then I suggest they either clearly state so in the introductory post or lock the thread after they post to prevent anything they don't want being posted.
It's akin to fucking in the public areas and someone posting a screenshot of it then complaining about the post. If it's meant to be private, take it to a room.
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I would like to suggest a process that when someone joins the forum for the first time they must read the rules section before they can see the rest of the forum options.
Many jump in, post what they want where they want with little consideration of forum etiquette. This IS a public forum with many different cultures and sexual preferences. To mock any of them as recently seen by one member is not respectful and must be considered.
So even though the rules posted at the top of the menu are old they are still very much the rules of the Forum.
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You can post this text in all topics Capri ? Thanks !
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I couldn't agree more. Though why this and the previous post it's in response to is in a thread about bullying escapes me.
This is a Public forum where any member should be able to post freely without being restricted as long as they abide by the rules.
If a thread is in Public, then it's available for all to post in.
If the originator of the thread has a desire to restrict what is posted there then I suggest they either clearly state so in the introductory post or lock the thread after they post to prevent anything they don't want being posted.
It's akin to fucking in the public areas and someone posting a screenshot of it then complaining about the post. If it's meant to be private, take it to a room.
I agree with the majority of what's said by Soniaslut but would also like to add a bit more.
A public post is just that public and because it is published, many people can see it, so we have a responsibility to behave in a respectful manner. After all the behaviour of members reflects on the reputation of this forum. Having manners, being kind and respectful costs nothing.
I have always found it here to be friendly and approachable and one of the best forums around because the community care for one another.
There is also Forum Etiquette which is the unspoken rules of obeying the theme of the topics and what the OP wants or intends.
When the Moderators ceased to exist, it became the OP's who looked after their own topics. They can even lock them to keep them private.
If public and open, the topics are still maintained and the same etiquette followed and if asked, posts removed without malice or ill will.
A new topic can always be opened if need be.
I also used to take many screenshots in the past in public of game play but before I published any in forum, I asked all concerned for consent.
Most agreed but occasionally I would have a refusal, then their names were removed. Its all about respect and being courteous.
Both are good practice and helps to make our forum maintain its friendliness.
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I would like to suggest a process that when someone joins the forum for the first time they must read the rules section before they can see the rest of the forum options.
Many jump in, post what they want where they want with little consideration of forum etiquette. This IS a public forum with many different cultures and sexual preferences. To mock any of them as recently seen by one member is not respectful and must be considered.
So even though the rules posted at the top of the menu are old they are still very much the rules of the Forum.
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You can post this text in all topics Capri ? Thanks !
Do you want me to Corina? I have no issue doing so. In fact I don't have an issue reporting it to Support either. It is quite applicable here in the topic about Bullying but we all know how you feel about rules and respecting topics. Perhaps you should open up a few topics of your own Corina instead of making it your goal to harass and bully in everyone elses topics.
ACHAT ADMINS Please note.
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I could not agree more. Normally I shrug it off, because who cares what some self-righteous members think? Honestly i come in the forum rarely, post on very few threads, mainly because I think the forum is a tad archaic and cumbersome. But it gets annoying and boring that some people have nothing better to do with their lives then constantly harass people who for some particular reason are not to their liking.
Face it, we are all perverts and kinksters here. That's why we are here in the first place. I find it pathetic that some people think they have the moral high ground to judge others. Newsflash, you don't.....
These people also disrespect the first rule of kink: Don't judge.
Maybe my kink, my attitude, my look do not appeal to you....tough shit. I think in the short time I have been here, i have gathered up enough friends, lovers and slaves to know I am doing something right. Maybe not right for you, but then again, chances are I'm not interested in you either.
I do hate reporting and I think banning is a bit heavy handed. And It's going to take a lot more to run me off here. However, some people are not as resilient. I would hate to see them get chased off by a few malcontents who have nothing better to do with their life then to troll people, constantly incessantly. So maybe it will take a ban or two to make this a safe non-judgmental place. It's a shame, but I'm beginning to come to that conclusion. At the end of the day, one must do what they think is right for the community.
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https://tnlafamiglia.blogspot.com/2013/10/does-ignorance-breed-bullying.html
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It's easy. Anyone can report abuse, harassment and bullying. This was confirmation from AChat of my complaint yesterday. The fate of those who were there is in Achat's capable hands now.
I encourage all to take the steps needed to rid our community of those who harass you.
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@ Above Link.
"They are bullies and they do not even realize it. Therefore, it is up to others in society to realize it, and protect themselves from them before it is too late, and another life is lost due to their bullyish ignorance."
So you support the victim turning into the bully? And exactly how does this help anyone? It resolves nothing. Just results in more drama.
Better to stay out of each others way, ignore each other, don't purposely antagonize, and remain with your friends and cohorts and enjoy the game.
If you antagonize then you cannot cry victim when you get the response you knew would result.
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Everybody knows a "Nellie".
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