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Discussions about sex => Everything about sex and love => Topic started by: Goldfinger on April 23, 2011, 11:38:08 AM
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I ask this on behalf of my Achat friend, who shall remain nameless, She is free, but thinking of becoming premium, but she get a lot of guys asking for MSN, film of them wanking and stuff like that. I am fairly new myself but i would never do that (maybe at some point if i really connect with someone).
Is this a common thing?
i told her to ignore them but I think she has been a bit put off, which would be a shame for her (and me!)
I suspect it's just desperate free guys.
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Is it common practice?... Well I would say there are many who do push the issue, premium members besides free. The other side of the coin there are many like you and myself who don't and we are not alone in that stance...
But such matter truly is not limited to this website.. and she needs to understand the power of the ignore button. Banner the issue,.. with a threat of ignore and just do it, focus on her circle of friends who enjoy her company and have fun.
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You have to do and feel whats right for you !
I have chosen a few of my friends to see my smile !
Nothing perverted I would never compromise < hope thats right word < myself.
I`m trying to uplaod some of my wood working to show some friends my creative work , that I`m proud of !
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The requests are relatively common, I get them too every time I log in. However, I choose to keep my private "analog" life separate from my private "digital" life here. Discretion can prevent a lot of ill will. Not everybody is open minded enough to accept here and there are different. If you give someone you barely know your info, you might end up with a stalker, which is never a good thing for relationships.
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The best partners are the ones that accepts you want to keep yourself anonymous here but I can understand if they ask once or twice but understands when you tell them no.
What I truly hate though is the ones that are so tactful they think asking for pics in the middle of things is a good idea... for me that really kills the mood.
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agree sweet adera. i allow it once, warn them tht if they should ask twice i will block them. private is private, fantasy is fantasy and if u r into pic sharing or cam sex i know i few places tht is better suited for it on the web. same thing with all other personal q´s i get like: r u a real she, how old r u, how do u look like, where do u live. well, where i live, or rather the timeline im on is rather important to know especially if u have friends on the other side of the globe ;) on the other hand there r a few trusted persons i dont mind sharing personal stuff with but they have long ago proven themselves to be worthy of my trust and can handle info with a great deal of integrity and discretion which i greatly appreciate.
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I refuse out right. Only after i have had played many times i will even consider it. But off the bat .. I always say no. Because ultimately there is a little doubt in knowing who you are talking to.
If they push the issue i simply ignore them.
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was very happy to see this here. had no idea so many asked for such things,
appreciate all the advice
thx guys :)
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Oh, and don't forget there are customer who trying to sell their pic for A$.......this is them choise, so i have nothing to say, but i nevver gonna ask them to send me one, that's for sure! ;D
anyway, your friend have to think seriously about it before giving them an answer: if she have a minimum doubt about it, better answer no and (allways!) she have to know reeeeally better the people who ask for this before sending photo, it's like u wanna go and meet them in real.....a blind date, at the end!
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I have friends that i trust and on messenger , and hotmail where i show my wood works and art ,and yes just my smiling face , wont do bad things > hey I do have some pride !
Tight is one of them !
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wood work....can i ask which tipe of work u do!?
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I make wooden benches , swing benches, 4to5 foot light houses , detailes bird house just about anything with wood !
And I paint as well , design T shirts , business cards , i do alot or art
;D
I have a wood shop most guys would die for !
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U are full of talent and really skilled whit hands.... ;D
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@hentailboy69 heheheeehe very skilled w my hands and other things too ! ;)
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I'm just now reading this post and I agree that you have to be careful. I have been approached to do cam several times on here. I had one guy seem real nice took me into a room, after 20 minutes he started harping to go on cam with him. I dont do that, finally I had to ignore him to get him to shut up.
I am so paranoid aboutit I put a piece of tape over my web cam, lol
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I think we've all been approached in a like manner.
Like Ramesses, I'll allow them to ask just once and explain to them that I will never, ever and that if they ask again they will go on my ignore list.
Some take the hint, some get ignored.
This is a fantasy site and not a dating agency, although there are some (very) strange people on here.
Each to their own, I'm not prepared to take the risk, "silence of the lambs" in the USA?
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......... although there are some (very) strange people on here.
yes, there are.......and i had meet one of this.......worst then a stalker!
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I personally dont see the fascination of a man stroking on a web cam. It leaves nothing to the imagination
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No, far better getting him to send you a photo eh!
:P :P
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watching a guy stroke on a webcam, can be very erotic...altho, i think he benefits from it more than the female does. still, if your close enuff to someone and that is something they are into. i find it very pleasing to compromise with my partner. no matter if its something i prefere n he doesnt or vice vera.. and then theres always the things you both care for. makes things a little spicier. as long as neither pushes to the point of crossing a line. communication takes care of that.
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I'll explain. I like Fantasy agree that it can be a very erotic experience between two lovers, however, I dont see the fascination of a person you just met wanting to show you everything on a cam. Once you get to know someone, well then it would be nice, not to a person you just met.
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No, far better getting him to send you a photo eh!
:P :P
Oh Blue, you know that was a device I used to a slave to show his obedience. :-\
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Oh I can vouch for your love of devices on your slaves NG!
So glad I'm your wife and not your slave sometimes, even if you find it hard to distinguish!
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Yes I agree pic`s w friends you`ve known along time and feel comfortable with !
quiet natural to want to see what they look like !
And I have one Friend , lets just say , whoa that man is gifted ! ;D
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@Sunny: Hm, I'm sure you don't talk about his face...
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@Lover heheheh ! mind you he`s Devilish handsome ! ;)
And his well lets just say asset >almost makes me want to lick the screen ! hehehehehehehehee ! ;)
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@sunny: Be careful not to hurt your nose :D
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@sunny: wonder if something is gonna spurt out by your screen....eh eh!
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@sunny: wonder if something is gonna spurt out by your screen....eh eh!
That would brake the wall between viartuality and reality so the guy must have super powers too ;D
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@medjai > He knows me as a white wicca !
And respects that !
I don`t exspect many to under stand . ;D
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I don't see anything wrong with being a wicca ;D
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@ medjai thks ;D
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nothing wrong at all for being wicca its differences that make us a richer community ;)
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Island, I being stupid, would like to ask a question: What is a wicca?
Thanks for your response
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@New gurl I don`t think your stupid ! Wicca > Witch < but my case is white wicca , Thats stands for all good , body , nature, mind body and soul , a whole being of a way of good , mother earth and everyone that crosses into my life !
PLZ have open mind before any thinks straight jacket !
Each their own ,who am I to judge , or to be judged
I believe were born to live , love and laugh > :D
hehehee yes there`s chants and spells ive been studying >My energy source is humour and happiness vibes ora around me !
And sorry anyone that know me im the baddest speller > I`ll let you know how lessons are going if you want !
I like it when people have open minds ,
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Thanks for the answer and NO i wont judge or put down what you beleive in. I just want to understand it Thats all.
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well, sunny, i don't see why we have to judge you........just pull you in a dark cellar! eh eh eh! joking apart.....everyone must be free to be or do what them want, but whitout hurting others feeling, this is the most important thing!
my bad, italian peoples (well, most of them!) still closed on several thing and don't accept something who is going out of the "normal" scheme. i think sometimes the churc have influenced too much the idea of the peoples here.......this can be not good, and i'm telling it like someone who usually go to churc every sunday till 3 or maybe 4 years ago. but honestly, now i don't feel so much it like so necessarry......i think it's a conseguenze of how things a going around me
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I have to admit we have lots of religious bigots in Italy and they're usually closed to things they don't know or don't understand and that's a real shame :-[
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I don't think it's an typically Italien problem. It's a people problem in general. But each of us can take part in working for more understanding and accepting.
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I would say it's common. I have had guys ask me if i wanted to see them wank. I give the Rock's eyebrow at the message and say "no thank you." Been getting asked this question for years. When we do a pic exchange, I learned let them send their first. 9 times outta 10 it's a penis. Probably not even theirs either. So in return I have a pic of my big toe I took and send them that in return. They can see how I color my big toe. Then they all pissy when they see that. I say to them "well since you won't show me your face, i dont have to show you mine either." When people ask me for exotic pics i say to them "no thank you, i dont need them on a porn site." They usually say something like "oh i never send them out." My reply is "yeah i heard that one before then why do i keep getting my pic returned to me in an email from a friend who sent it to them?"
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Oh Yellow, you actually send a real pic of your nude big toe? You're so cute ;)
Some guys believe they can impress a girl just with sending pics of bidg cocks, perhaps they try to fill the emtyness in heir heads?
Same to the girls in AChat, when their ava is just a big pussy. You need big genitals if you have small fantasy :D
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I solved the pic exchange problem by putting my face on my profile so if they wanna see my face is there for everyone to watch :P
As for erotic pics I just don't exchange them with just anyone, there's need to be a big amount of trust to share something like that with a person, at least that's how it works for me ;)
You have to understand that lots of guys watched way too much porn and still watching, so in they're deviated minds a big cock is all a girl needs to wanna have sex with them, so my advice is keep filtering untill you find a good guy you can trust ;)
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yes I go on yahoo chat line and every guy wants to show his dick > well in porn it`s all made up !
hehehehe like these guys could keep up that watch the porn > give your head a shake
And yes there is women out there that can take it 12 times > only met 1 guy that could do it
And besides if you need porn to want it or feel it thats a problem , in it`s self
on yahoo , hotmail my close friends just see my face and big smile !
hey I know I MY EX WHEN i WAS 15 TOOK PIC`S JUST HOPE ! not flowing out there
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hehe i dont count the number of times a guy contact me to show me his "material" in exchange of see mine ;D . Poor guys , they are really deceived when i tell them that i dont give my e-mail to everyone , and certainly not to see a "big cock" lol . They are really deceived too when i say that i dont share pics . My pussy is for my GF and nobody else ;D
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hehe i dont count the number of times a guy contact me to show me his "material" in exchange of see mine ;D . Poor guys , they are really deceived when i tell them that i dont give my e-mail to everyone , and certainly not to see a "big cock" lol . They are really deceived too when i say that i dont share pics . My pussy is for my GF and nobody else ;D
I think you mean more disconcerted rather then deceived. They may think that but they don't know what its like for a girl online where you have to constantly prove you are.
Some may feel deceived but you didn't lie on the fact that you don't share your email so why they would is just silly. Besides cock pictures are prevalent and there is no need to thing its unique to see one specific persons.
If they feel deceived that's their problem. Like you said Rukya your pussy is for your GF and noone else.
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MEA CULPA! when i started on here, i bought lots of pics, though i was never rude, nor "stalkish" about it. i probably spent 10,000-15,000 a's over a couple of months, til i realised how stupid i was being (Ithink that's one reason i'm listed high). most of the women i really liked sent em to me for free. i enjoy being able to visualise who i'm talking/playing with. it isn't necessary, but it's fun! ;D i know one woman who told me when guys ask for a nude/sexy pic of her, she sends them a jpg screenshot of her avatar! lmfao!!! she has a special email for achat. she figures the avatar is who they are talking to, so that's what they want! lol. i have deleted all but a very few pics of close friends.
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I had set up a mail for achat too and i use it to exchange some message whit two of my closed friends here. i think it's the right choise to do here for your privacy
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I use Yahoo chat line w some friends here i show them my wood work and art , my pic w a couple of them .