Tom, what person wants their other lovers shown to others? This should be kept private period. Just like how messengers and other places allow you to keep friends private, this should also be private. Its not a matter of being ashamed to let some know that she's my lover but doesn't mean you can go around saying you have 6 different lovers and they clash because they didn't know. Maybe you would tell your spouse or lover that you have various lovers but I'm sure a good amount of us would definitely not do that. Not irl, not online, and certainly, not on AChat.
That shouldn't have left the board... Make lists private with the next update or at least the option ASAP.