Welcome Minca, and thank you for bringing this subject back to our attention.
It would be great of you could have a 'dressing room' accessible from both the character-menu as well as in the room. When you just logged in, you could have the time and PEACE to dress the way you want, instead of being fed to the wolves as soon as you log in.
And, sometimes during an intimate meeting, it would be greatto follow the mood and change in the midst of things.. And agreed Alstott, a woman undressing and changing her outfit when she is relaxed can be a very erotic thing to watch...