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And Christina sweetie with the large mental block you seem to have you may not ever be able to relax enough to enjoy it.

I'm glad you brought up the numbing agents Adrea. I personally think they are one of the worse things that's ever happened to anal sex, with the worse probably being the excessive use of it in porn nowadays or the insane idea some girls have that as long as they don't have vaginal penetration they are still virgins.

What I am getting at is that the anal cavity was NOT designed for penetration, and those who treat it like just another hole in the body WILL do damage.

well the chick had long finger nails, so yeah

@Christina

I just want people to know that its not the same for everyone. I anyone's curious about it they shouldn't be scared away, but they should be informed.

@Janine

I really don't understand why its so damn important to remain a virgin for some that they think anal sex is the solution. Sure there are some cultures in which the bride has to be a virgin when marrying and that she has to bleed the first time which doesn't even happen to some females. Too bad the cultural or social pressure on females has such an impact on how females decide to use their own bodies.

Still, do it the right way and there will be no risks of damage. You'll have other risks like diseases which can be taken to a minimum but anal sex can be done without getting damaged. About people loosing control over their bowels from anal sex when its done the right way, that's just a myth, if anything you'll get better control. Thinking that anal sex is bound to result in damage in some way is wrong, but if your afraid of it then you shouldn't do it of course.

The problem I'm finding with your wording Adera is that word "right" the muscles of the sphincter aren't designed for penetration. So it CAN be done safely, but the person should always respect their body. The problem is anal by it's very nature is considered extreme, and a sad number of idiots want to take it even further with bigger objects and harder penetration.

I'm not speaking to/about those who engage in sane, safe anal play. I'm talking to the idiots and those who are in danger of imitating those idiots.

 

  I didn`t mean to put a dark mood on this topic !  Just thought  , better understanding , more education  was needed ,  for those  who use this pose here ! But have`nt   done in real  yet !  

Been quiet, but the reality of anal sex is pretty much going to be individual preference. If you have a partner willing to take his time,...be sensuous ,...respectful of the physical constraints,..you'll find a different experience. First experience...well size matters...u don't start trying this act with as Janine put it once..."stuffing like a clown car"...with some guy and his big cock.

If you are petite sunny,..your preference is for the big guys,...not something you'll probably enjoy. The Physical dispensaries probably will never make it an enjoyable act.  One of the advantages smaller endowed guys have, is the lack of "trauma"  to the cavity, any curiosity you hold to this should be directed towards smaller endowed partners.

Janine brings the dark reality to this,..but it can be a sensual ,...erotic...it's your partner who is going to make the magic for you in this.

@Janine:

I thought I had explained the "right" way in earlier posts?

So what if its not designed for it? If it feels good you'll just have to find a safe way to do it. Practice and skill is what I'm using, it works very well for me and I have no problems at all from having had anal sex.

I agree with you that if you take things to the extreme the risks of damage are far higher. If we're only considering the extremes of things nothing is safe, its just sad that anal sex has to be compared to that all the time.


Anyway I'm sorry if I'm getting a bit heated in the discussions but I feel like I'm the only one who likes it and who has had a good experience with it here. Problem is that there are so many myths about anal sex and I really don't like people thinking those are true. There are probably a few that have had problems from regular anal sex from various reasons, they might have a weaker sphincter or something its just that those cases will be heard from a lot more than those who doesn't have any problems.

I know many who do like it,..in one case, a preference with her closest companions, which she does not give freely to everyone.

It is just in the case of this thread we are dealing with a couple of experiences which have been negative. All I can add is well,..consider the size of play,..the sensuality,...communicate these issues to your partner and perhaps they can lead you through an experience which is quite different than discomfort and pain.

I agree with Adera, it can be pleasurable and it can be without pain. I have experimented on my own and found it likeable, pleasurable, adding to the most intense orgasms i have had on my own. But take it slow, and practice before allowing someone else to do it and definitly not without concent!

@ ChristinaK next time, ask a guy to jam a dildo, this size of his cock, up his anus and let him tell you how it feels. I am sure that would heighten the understanding for your displeasure...

they only have novelty dildos big enough for me

@ Adera  I didn`t mean for this to turn in a nagavtive  topic ! Remeber my friend I told you he was gay ? Well him and his partner , they  are the world to me ! The true  feelings they show towards each other !  They feel comfortable to hug and kiss in front of me !  Gay , S traight does`nt matter ! In my mind  , when your  w some one you really like ! ok here goes ! Making love is fine art  > it`s in the wanting to give  PURE PLEASURE  ! ..........................................................    hugs to you !

I also didn't want to take this topic to a bad place. For me it factors into the Domme part of my personality. I have literally given safety presentations. So I think in this case we were both coming at it from those perspectives, both valid, just diametrically opposed.

So while you were worried about people getting turned away I was worried about people getting too enthusiastic.

There is some foreplay as you can lick and finger the ass in several poses. But more foreplay is something I always support!

Of course you can surprise someone with this action. But IMHO only if you know he/him and you have been together before. Usually a slow preparing is a" must have" and also needed for a great mood.
So it would be great to be able to change speed and "stop action inside".

Anal sex can be a great pleasure if both are enjoying it. That means you must ask before you're doing it. If you don't do it it's a kind of rape. Achat for me is having fun together.

If it were with the right person and they took their time.  I might change my thinking someday.   Right now I just get very nervous when confronted with the possibility of being penetrated there. I'm not trying to be resistant to new things.