The rude, the crude and the downright nasty.

as a guy it is sometimes hard to imagine what women have to put up with when online. I have a few friends that have told me what the general first line is and it shocks me sometimes. Maybe I've been raised old-fashioned, but I have learned to talk to poeple in a polite, normal way. And I have learned it brings a lot more than being rude and putting women down.
I pitty the men that think this is a game where you pick up a whore and have your way with her. Just as much as men  there are women online that want to have fun, but with respect. Except for the occasional exception, I am sure that no man would accept being talked to as if they are for sale.
If you found eachother in a rp, or some other connection, if there is  a reason for it, by all means, say what you want. But rudeness is polluting the world and we should start seeing it.

Tight, I think that is a large part of the problems in the world, but I've ranted on this in many threads. People are left to see freedom as freedom from consequence. They can do what they want to whomever they want, and anyone that tries to hold them accountable is oppressing them. It's online, it's offline, it's every damn where.

I think that always a form of politeness is found amongst the people that survive a community. As it is with all laws, you have the 'freedom' to neglect them. As long as you can handle the consequences when caught. You can drive faster than the speed limit, it is an option. But don't be surprised to get a fine and accept it without complaining. In all types of groups, societies or communities. rules of how to deal with eachother emerge. Wether it is insitgated by nature or by agreeing on rules together, somehow it always happen.
If you look at what happened in the general chat ( a much discussed subject), there were a lot of complaints about abuse, using bad language and simply rude people. After a few days you could see a change start to happen as spammers and rude people got a piece of their own. Dissed by people who are serious about the game and want to have a good time. The community started forming rules on how to behave amongst eachother. Too bad it didn't get a chance to develop these rules further.
Still, it isn't easy to have a set of rules of how to communicate with eachother as long as there are no consequences to bare when neglecting these rules. It's even more difficult to hold someone responsible if there are no rules at all. For that matter, AChat leaves it up to the community to form their own rules. So appareantly it depends on how you handle rude people, fakes and spammers. I can't find a guideline from AChat on which I can base a request to ban someone for instyance. What is acceptable and what isn't? As long as noone (with the power to) sets the rules, there is not much you can do against fakes, spammers and rude people

For my part I get nervous when it comes to restricting freedoms. Free speech is only free speech if everyone can use and sometimes abuse it. To censor simply because of offensive behavior is a can of worms I don't think should be opened. Only if the person is truly menacing should it move beyond the societal policing level.

I was JUST on, literally just on and I had a guy say hi, ask how I was, and ask if I wanted to exchange pics. Now for those who haven't figured it out by now. I'm gay, as in sexually attracted to my own gender, as in down with licking the girl bits.  It's in my profile, both homo and that while I'll chat with anyone I room with women.

I've said it countless times before, but it always strikes me as a perfect example of people not reading profiles.

Janine, he just wanted to exchange pics; he didn't want to go into room  Ok, bad joke, sorry.

To your first question TanyaTanya, yes, we had published some names here. But I am with Janine – the best is to forget and don't think about these stupids people. Everytime you think of them, you feel bad – not necessary.
And usually we should not give them a stage – you know, some just feel great and think they are a superstar cause their name is known. Like “publicity in every case”.

What are they thinking? Probably not much (and I agree with Bear, they don't read the forum) and when I read “beach” perhaps they are not ablre to read. They like the “power” they feel when they shock the person on the other side. They are strong, cause they are anonymous. In real life they get weak knees if they have to order a bread. So think about some “nice” answers for those morons. Then use ignore-button, forget them and have fun with the many friendly people around.