I have to line up behind Janine. I think she has the right idea. When I was more available back in the fall, I noticed a similar thread to this… or maybe it was the same, I don't know. And sorry if I am kicking at the dead horse since this topic has quieted down, but I find this idea kind of curious.
Curious mainly because it's a game, and the avatars on the screen are only idealized representations of ourselves. I am not a sleek, 20-something, dark-haired beauty.
I'm sorry, Tight, I hope I didn't break your heart .
This doesn't mean I don't want to be, but I am in entering my 40's, married with a darling little one, and perhaps not as trim as I could be. Being promiscuous and sleeping with various men and shes is not something that's available to me, and won't be. I wouldn't do it even if I could. Does that mean I shouldn't fantasize about being a sleek professional that is able to woo men with a flick of her eyelashes – because that isn't really who I am IRL?
Maybe I can separate myself from the avatar because I am a writer, and what is often called a “gamer girl.” I play MMOs, and I role-play characters in those MMOs. The characters aren't me. I am not a dark elf necromancer that kills halflings for sport. When I personally walk down the street, I step around the ants on the sidewalk. But halflings are just so irritating!
Does this mean men shouldn't be allowed to see what it's like to be on the receiving end of sex? Or vice versa with women experiencing what it would be like to be on the giving end? It sounds like the idea is being made to seem the gender-benders are up to some insidious plot, like they are dirt bags for lying and cheating, when we ourselves stay behind computerized representations of our own idealized image.
I list myself as bi. I am not interested in women, but I will certainly group with them if a he or she is involved. It is a curious fantasy. And maybe I will try a scene with a girl. Am I bad for saying I am bi when I am really not IRL? Should we all, therefore, undergo a strict entry evaluation just to access AChat to ensure we are exactly what we project in the computer world? Up top it says “AChat: Virtual Sex and 3D Sex Game.” It says nothing about a real world dating site.
Yes, you can often tell if a guy is playing a girl. It is just the way some things are portrayed. I don't care. If I can connect with the female avatar, and the male on the other end, so be it. If a girl is playing a guy, oh well. If they connect with me, I will room with them. It doesn't bother me to think that a girl might be pleasuring herself on the other end. What pleasure I get is the interaction of my character with their character, not me with them. I am not going to date them. I am not going to have a relationship with them outside of AChat.
What strikes me as kind of ironic is that a great deal of hentai comics and animations are done by males. It is so plainly obvious. And yet men will happily masturbate to them, even though they were written, animated and drawn by men, for men. Yet there is no demand that they be done solely by women.
But really, if it is so worrisome, there are other options… like e Harmony, and other actual dating sites.
