- This topic has 86 replies, 14 voices, and was last updated 13 years, 11 months ago by .
-
Janine I love the way you explain these things,
You say it with such clarity,…Like your boots I have my black silken lounge pants,…wish they would give us that, frustrating to stand there in black slacks, but the image is close enough. That alone is enough to trigger the change in my personality,
Carmel I totally agree that tolerance of the divergent play must be made,…that said,..this concept of blanket “ownership” …the Dom could have just as easily directed all his girls to put bobbler on ignore….the issue would have been solved. Those true to this spirit would have followed order,..the others,…well guess what,..obviously disputing that claim themselves.
oh NO not the collar > I can`t breath choke choke no master please I`ll behave !!!! hahahahhaa sorry had to do it ! Freedoms just another word Me and bobby Mc kee
K, been little off my game but just read this.
I will admit to being “owned” but not here. I have never wanted nor cared to be “owned” by anyone. But their are differences in “owning”. Before the guy I meet, I kept running into ppl who want to “own” me. Control my every action, tell me who I can talk to, can't talk to, like I was to be their lil doll(fuck that shit).
One I found myself feeling cherished, special that something in me submitted. (Pissed me off too). He is a Dom and the “owning” part is more of a game than anything, he did not force me. He asked and I choice to. He sets me NO limits whatsoever, I can do whatever I want, go wherever I want. Its like I am a flower and can't help but turn to the sun. Its a relationship, on trust and respect. When we are in a room, I am his, out of the room and we are like best buds. The rare times that I do sign on and he is there, he does not order me round at all. He offers, after I greet him, to tp me where he is at and we talk with the friends he have round him. (Now I am waiting for one special lady to “own” the hell out of me one day
:-* :-* :-* but I always end up loosing control where she is concerned )Now the “owing” here are for little boys who want to play in the big boys games but can't. This “owing” makes them look like they are the shit when they are shit. Some guys think the more girls you have, makes you more of a man. “Owing” gives you power. They abuse, then cherish.
@Lover
Ignore them sweety. They don't own this game, so they can't dictate how it is to be played. Next time ask them if they are the creators and if not then go uck off cause your going to play it your way(and however you and your partner decides to play it).
(lil devils advocate here)
In a way relationships are a way of owning someone, if you think about it. Marriage is samething. That person is yours, and yours alone. Yes you share with friends(if your not that obsessive). But if that person should slepp with another, you would flip out. Is that not a form of owning, that that persons gentiles s yours and yours alone. Or how bout their love, you want to be the only one in their heart. You don't want them to love another and leave you, right? “Owning” its all in how you look at it. :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* And when you get all passionate and out of control I don't want to stop you. :-* :-* :-*
The key to it, or any other kind of relationship is the communication. Whatever levels you set between you as long as they are set by the two of you.
There ARE submissives who WANT to have the Dominant set all the levels, they call themselves (By CHOICE.) slaves. They are fairly rare, more often it's just a submissive who thinks the term sounds hot and leaps before they look, BUT there are those who make that choice. Sometimes just with a woeful lack of information.
What should be restated however is that unless were talking human trafficking there is still that element of choice, no matter how well or poorly contemplated.
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
Optimizing new Forum... Try it, and report bugs to support.