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  • #24223
    medjai
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      I just finished reading all your posts and I have to say I learned a lot so thanks everyone for sharing youe knowledge and experiece  ;D

      #24224
      Janine Dee
      Participant

        Even more then seeing all the new activity I feel very good that people have been learning here.

        #24226
        Janine Dee
        Participant

          Collars and Collaring.

          I already touched on the topic a bit earlier when talking about training and how collars are often used. With a sub it can be used as a signal that play is starting, but it can also be a signifier that a submissive is pledged to a specific Dominant.

          In command parlance “Collared” means just that, being pledged to a specific Dom.

          So while there can be and are play collars when talking about them words like “play” should be added, and in text I like to use the capital C to help add the additional meaning, but the one thing I really felt the need to convey is that when talking about collars one should realize they can have a wide degree of meaning, and people should make sure they are on the same page when they finally get brought out.

          #24227
          Adera
          Participant

            I'd like to go to a BDSM party someday in a collar with a leash that a mistress can lead me with. I think a collar would be the most fun in a public event like that where people just mingled, I could wear some really crazy clothes and it would be accepted much easier. I could also take on a role which would let me act in a outrageously provocative way while things would still be the mistresses call.

            #24228
            deelishuz1
            Participant

              I noticed that too Janine, the only time you can be handcuffed is kneeling. Then the guy can't even fuck you.  The only toys available are dildos and whips, bummer

              #24225
              Janine Dee
              Participant

                In that circumstance Adera you would want to make sure you've discussed matters with Mistress VERY thoroughly. It's probably not too shocking to know that embarrassing your top jumps past “Duh” to “WTH were you thinking?”

                Edited to add.

                Because personal styles can vary widely. The woman who taught me taught her subs  they weren't to make a peep during play, but MANY tops like their subs vocal. So personal baring in public is another area to be sure you thoroughly discuss.

                #24229
                Adera
                Participant

                  Yes, there's quite a lot that would have to be concluded beforehand and if she's unsure about something I think it's better if she let that go rather than try and see. I wouldn't for instance want her to let everyone come too close to me.

                  #24230
                  Janine Dee
                  Participant

                    That is a definite concern. While it is considered bad form to get too close to a collared sub different Dominant's have different views of “close”, early on I skittered along a line because I talked to a collared sub, and I felt bad because I worried I could have gotten her in trouble with her Dom, but that's why the Dom explains their wishes to their sub.

                    The more restrictive the Dom's wishes, the closer they need to stick to the sub to help make sure they are followed. Only a jackass would rattle off a list of rules, and then wander off to expect the sub to handle it all alone. Since there is always room for misunderstandings like that one I had.

                    And as always there will also be the idiots who can't be bothered to think things through or respect others boundaries who still insist on laying claim to the title of Dom.

                    #24231
                    Adera
                    Participant

                      If someone would like to get close they'd have to go by the mistress first imo. I think it's up to the dom to decide those things after considering the person and the subs preferences.

                      I wouldn't like to be left alone by a mistress since I was thinking I would be somewhat bound as well.

                      I'd like it if my mistress could stand up for us even if that means she would has to get really bitchy with someone.

                      #24232
                      Bear
                      Participant

                        A bump to a worthy topic…. I have had several question me of D/s play over the past few days and have referenced this thread for them.

                        Sinnnn originally posted a Masters Creed… I had seen that several years ago… and remembered there was a corresponding Submissive Creed with it… Adding it for food for thought:

                        A Submissives Creed:

                        I will Not Try To Manipulate my Dominant.
                        I Will NOT Push.
                        I Realize That my Actions And Behavior Reflect Upon
                        His/Her Skills As A Teacher And A Dominant.
                        I Will Not Intentionally Embarrass my Dominant.
                        I Wear The Honor Of Being His/Her submissive
                        I Take Pride In Who And What I Am And Will Never
                        Portray myself In A Negative Way.

                        I Will Keep An Open Mind And Try New Things In An
                        Attempt To Expand my Limits.
                        I Will Continue To Grow as a submissive
                        and as a human being.
                        I Will Not Allow myself To Be Harmed Or Abused.
                        By Giving my “Gift Of submission” Only To Those
                        That Can Responsibly Accept It.
                        I Know That submissive Does Not Equal “Doormat”.

                        I Will Continue To Educate myself Because A submissives
                        Safety Is Always A Concern.
                        I Will Be Respectful To my Fellow submissives.
                        I Will Help Those New To The Lifestyle Start Out
                        On The Correct Path.
                        I Will Be Responsive To my Dominant.
                        I will Communicate With Complete Honesty…
                        My needs, Desires, Limits and Experience.
                        “I Will Not Hide what my Mind And Body Are Feeling”
                        I Will Not Expect my Dominant To Know my Thoughts Or
                        Feelings Which I Do Not Share.

                        I Will Gracefully Accept In The Responsibility Of
                        A Scene Or Relationship Gone Bad.
                        I Will Not Place Total Blame On my Dominant If It Is
                        Not Warranted Nor Will I Trash His Character”
                        In Front Of Others Just Because I Am Angry Or Jealous.
                        I Realize That Things May Not Work Out As Planned
                        And Shall Strive To Put It Behind me And Move On.
                        I Will Be Respectful To My Dominant Even In Disagreements.
                        I Realize my Dominant Has my Best Interests At Heart
                        And
                        Shall Guide me With The Best Of All Of Her/His Knowledge.

                        #24233
                        bluedenim
                        Participant

                          Omigosh!

                          I shall print off & read.

                          Does this make me a bad sub?

                          I do try to behave in a way that would make my Mistress proud of me…….. Bear I need you to talk to me, maybe on a pm…. I suddenly feel unworthy.

                          #24234
                          Bear
                          Participant

                            lol.. sorry I forgot my powers here…. I intentionally added my comment by mistake to yours as a modify… rather than relpy…

                            as to your fears…..by no means… at least my own experience is, you would make her proud…
                            If you need a refresher course I shall offer my services…

                            #24235
                            bluedenim
                            Participant

                              Bear,

                              Anytime you can spare me the time, you know I would be very grateful.

                              xx

                              #24236
                              Janine Dee
                              Participant

                                Thank you for adding this Bear. For things to work well they have to be worked on from both (all?) sides. Of course that's as true with vanilla relationships, but when you add in the elements we put in with BDSM it becomes all the more vital.

                                #24237
                                bluedenim
                                Participant

                                  Well bumped Janine, with all the current interest in BDSM, your dungeon should be very busy.

                                  xx

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