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scream back at them they will leave you alone
we all know who this 2 are no names need to be said
all I can say are ASSHOLES AND WILL NEVER CHANGE !
You can all seat talk and talk and keep talking candy coat all and keep talking about others the point here is
that achat needs to really change a lot and keep us more safe give us more options to block ignore protected
ourselfs from the ignorance of others they need to add a whispering bottone or make private rooms where others can go hang with
there groupstheir is not game that do's not have this Drama this jerks its a universal cyber epidemic
that can not be stoped …..
to me what needs to be done is keep suggesting to Achat to change or give more protection more more options more in their developing things
and to stop all this you no one will thats the
reality of itI want to know why do you not keep asking Achat to give you more gorup rooms for your groups friends
to me that makes more reason then starting to ban jerks from being Jerks ( their is a lot I do not like on here they may feel same about me
I do not care but I do not want no one ban from playing just bec I do not like them ..only with a good reason like stealing hacking and to me i am still woundering why they are on here ….but for being a jerk ?? ))
that cant change and cant keep them off the gameb but you can ask achat to change some the game to give you
tools to ignoring the jerks I want more suggestions for the game and less complaining
sorry about the bad grammers I am very upset
mmm, Yummy, I think I will grab one of those Tacos before I bore all that care to read my opine on this subject.
Well, you know I was bound to show up and open my BIG mouth …. eventually. :
. I have been itching to say something for over a week and here I am. I am a relative newbie compared to many in this world, having only been here a bit over a year. I don't spend much time in game play anymore and even when I was online more often I never lived in this world like some. I still have to work for a living and my time is precious. But I am observant, I see the deception not only in Meeting Places but also here in our forum. Spread through posts, chat logs and screen shots. Some of this deception is subtle and carefully planned but most have the subtly of Donald Trump, easily recognized if you care to SEE. This forum has become a sanctuary for me, a FUN place. Of course I realize it serves a purpose, a platform for discussions such as these. But I do not appreciate those that exploit this forum to promote their agenda. After all we are ALL supposed to be adults here…. YES? Hard to know sometimes with all the theatrics. Why these personal disputes can't be resolved through PM's and maturity puzzles me.
First, I would like to preface this post by making it clear this is MY opinion. No more enlightened, better, or accurate than any other. *whispers* That is why they are called opinions … you do know every opinion comes with a brown little button hole where bodily waste is excreted. Yes, I am talking bout ASSHOLES…… EVERY opinion comes from one, including mine, I am NO different.
Second, I make a distinction between Bullying and Abuse. I am commenting on “cyber” bullying, not RL abuse. They are NOT the same.
Third, without the ability to really know who is who in a world such as ours, especially with all the multi avatar charades being played, we all have to assume responsibility for ourselves and well being. It takes a lot of time and dialog to get a sense of someone. Although this is no different in our RL it is made more complicated in a virtual world. But that does not mean you are helpless.Just as the SUN determines Day n Night, it is YOU and ME who determine Bully's n Victims. Different sides of the same coin, one can not exist without the other. I see so much wasted energy on this topic. So much sadness, anger n frustration. Looking for some Silver Bullet that will make it all go away. Asking Achat support for this cure-all is futile, They simply are not motivated nor do they really possess the ability to provide this sanctuary for us all. It is not possible because it is not practical.
YES… as Foxy mentioned Achat could create and infinite number of smaller “group” rooms allowing families and/or friends to mingle in privacy away from others. This works as long as you DON'T want to meet NEW people, which I happen to be a BIG Fan. It's kinda like just listening to your playlist all the time. Sure the music is good. You like it and are comfy with it but you will never be introduced to new artists, new sounds, new flavors n ideas. It is the same with people.
YES, we are all armed with the “IGGY” feature allowing us to deafen the sounds of someone who might offend us. But that feature suffers from its own limitations and just empowers the antagonist.
My ADVISE ….. just ignore them without the IGGY feature. Before you throw a million excuses my way why this doesn't work for you. Let me assure you it works extremely well for me. I currently have NO ONE imprisoned in my “Iggy” jail. I have no need. I don't get bullied because I do not make myself a target. I do not play their game, I do not become the victim.
Sure I greet everyone with a smile and a hi …. at first. No different than many others here. I also do my best to be polite and understanding. We are a diverse community here, multi-lingual, multi-cultural, many have very challenging RL issues. Be brave enough and have compassion to be patient and understanding before passing judgement. You would want the same consideration if the circumstances were reversed.
If however an individual persists in being unreasonable and annoying. And will not heed my initial polite request or my subsequent firm request, then I inform them that I really have nothing to say and am not interested in their conversation. At that point I just ignore them. It really is not that difficult especially in our virtual world. Sure they will persist … BUT they will only persist as long as they believe they are an annoyance or achieving some other deception. Bully's NEED Victims. Take that away from them and they become powerless in our world.
Does this method require some Time, Patience and Resolve? YES, but …. once this type of player knows you don't play their game they don't bother you for long. They move on looking for the drama queens that thrive on being the victim. YES, we have some here that want to be a victim. WHY, I could not begin to explain. There are many other ways to get attention, lots more fun too.
Most Bully's are infected with low self esteem and insecurity. Compelled to put others down to feel better bout themselves. I feel sadness for these people, they have been hurt in the past and have not found a way to recover. Lost in the pain which turns to anger and hatred. These are not happy people. That makes me sad.
You don't need Achat's help to solve this problem, God gave each of us the power to defeat bully's. It is called personal respect and a love of yourself. Have the courage to stand up for yourself, the discipline to follow through and the resolve to be patient. Not only will you never be the Victim of a cyber Bully, you will also grow your self esteem. And others will notice, empowerment is contagious.
Now for my disclaimer …. I have been talking about the standard Bully here in Achat, but there is an another, altogether different type of Bully that exists in our world too. This type of Bully acts with thought and cunning not the emotional outbursts associated with a regular Bully. These sociopaths always have an agenda and are capable of disguising their subterfuge in a beautiful gift wrapped package. These are the most dangerous of all, they gain your confidence, your trust, your feelings only to manipulate, exploit and eventually tear you down. There is no easy solution for this rare breed, but here is my opine on these assholes….. A true friend will never build you up only to later tear you down. True friends elevate you. Why? Because their happiness is hinged to yours. Any so called friend that engages in this behavior was never your friend to begin with.
One more disclaimer with exceptions …. NEVER give out personal information to anyone until you have achieved a relationship that goes well beyond the realm of this world.OK, that is my opinion. Thanks for reading. Sorry for rambling, that's just ME.
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