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[sexilicious]

i understand bear but if the dom had all the control for the options in a pose and the sub had all the reaction options i would never use the options. for me just faces and that isn’t what i want to choose. plus another point is that if the sub had some of these kinds of options the dom could always give that command of using it saying something like “get ready for the whip on __” and that would give the sub the need to obey and if not

;D punishment is always around too lol

[Janine Dee]

I was mentioned so I figure I am obligated to appear. 😉

Bear is right. I didn’t bother commenting because it was one of those half-formed suggestions that would have needed fleshing out, but you can’t call it a D/S pose because the sub hasn’t relinquished control.

Because while blu is right about the sub’s power, in the space of a session it’s a all or nothing affair, otherwise we can’t function and it’s unfair to expect us to.

Set your limits, keep the ability to safe word out if something happens, but if you aren’t willing to trust us for the length of the session then what’s the point?

[medjai]

I think the point is giving the sub some options to interract with and maybe give the dom some suggestions too on how she/he likes to be dommed. Just from the gaming aspect not having interractions could be very exciting for some but boring for others, noone says the sub HAS to use those options but giving them out could bring more interest in this kind of things.

I agree that in a dom/sub session the sub should trust the dom completley otherwise there's no point in being dommed like that but if you think about it from the gaming experience not been able to do anything could make amateurs loose interest.

[Bear]

TALKING achieves that, if you are playing click and watch I can understand that comment. Amateurs will probably lose interest, that style of play is NOT for everyone… but if offered shouldn't be distorted for that reason. Keep it pure or don't refer to it as D/s  pose. I personally would exit the room if my subject had an option and executed it…

Those that understand and appreciate the complexity of the play will understand an important point that a good DOM/DOMME is a teacher,….and will help their subjects leading them into the immersion of the encounter.

Conversation of a sub should be reactionary,… emotional… how it feels, how it affects them… that is the immersion into the role…. losing oneself to the interplay of anthers whim. Does the restraint excite or terrify… does a particular touch drive one to the edge or cringe… movements are subtle… in the VR world, a submissive who can unveil this in descriptive play is a goldmine to be treasured.

[medjai]

I completley agree bear, don't get me wrong I get how a dom/sub session works, I was only trying to support this idea in a way that would put dev-team in the prospective. Coz let's face it facial options are oftenly unused and imo pretty stupid, maybe we could give the sub some other options to meke it more real like shakind head, or rolling eyes but with a bit of movemnts of the head or the body, openig mouth and sceam or things like that. It would give subs some ways to express their feelings especially if there's a language barrier. I know talking and chatting is essential but adding some visual aspect to it I think it would make it better.

[bluedenim]

@ Bear.

Please Sir, I was only joking…………….

You are as always completely correct and some of your reply to me was very incisive after recent forays into suib-service by your truly. So much so that it sounded like you had been eavesdropping on me

:-* :-*

[Bear]

Well the lack of actions was central why I chose the spreader bar as an option for bondage… that form of restraint gave some leverage of options… however I can easily see your point in regards to the click and watch crowd…. and as I said… before… the idea has merit for the general play

I'd refer you ta a discussion posted under the “punished girl” thread in Woman and Men…the issue of the lack of options was taken into consideration.

[Rukya]

A submissive should not have such control…
just saying…

However for those who enjoy spankings and such the idea has merit.

in a game , its the sub who have true power

;D . I mean , for exemple , if i’m in room with hmmm blue (pure hazard

;D ) and give her a spank , if she dont réact , where is the pleasure . The only true power the Dom have in a game like achat or others , is chantage

;D . like : Oh you dont want play , ok , so i stop to come ;D.

[bluedenim]

A submissive should not have such control…
just saying…

However for those who enjoy spankings and such the idea has merit.

in a game , its the sub who have true power

;D . I mean , for exemple , if i’m in room with hmmm blue (pure hazard

;D ) and give her a spank ,

Oh Rukya, how I wish it were so! :-*

[Bear]

Rukya there is a difference between power and control… please look at Janine's statement.

I have not said anything about where the power lay,… my comments went to the control matter,… that is the element that the submissive surrenders. In the VR community a submissive's power remains, she may either accept what is being done or exit.

Janine has said it all, quite clearly. Once a submissive yields control it is “all or nothing, otherwise we can't function”…

[phunker]

More S&M ?

Pls help get more S&M LOVE PHUNKER 🙂

[ssgt]

Never been my thing

[Rukya]

hmmm i'm not really for , few reasons for this :

1- We lesbians dont have one yet

2 – The actual poses who are made looks not in the “S&M spirit” . By exemple , a woman chained to a cross who can decide when her partner can lick her or caress her .

3 – The “rape” style for some of them

[Kingdustin]

It would be nice to get little more BDSM pose, I'm not to into s&m but i do enjoy light B.D with little spice of s&m. but all in all it depends on my partner if she love BDS&M hard core style I'm will try it out. she like a softer version that great too. im very open I like doing what my partner likes doing to a point. so i say yes more pose cant hurt.

[Bear]

BDSM play here will never be programed in the spirit, the approach here is defintely on the vanilla side.

The developers here need to discard the concept of “equality” in the poses and program these with the intent the pose is to deliver.  I should not have to ask for the pose vjoice I want to perform… I shoild be able to direct the play myself. After all that is what my partner is consenting to when we enter into the pose. Undouvredly the sub' is  immersion into the role is not benefiting from have options. They could keep them.. but at least update the poses with the dominate having all actions to choose from. That is a doable fix to the matter.

You ask for more.. but offer no suggestions. What do you want? Give us some specifics, including the actions you want added.

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