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Well, I don't know what to call the post and I don't know where to post it but the sub-forum “Fantasies and Fetishes” seems an appropriate place.
I can't put it where I would like to because a moderator has made a statement and closed that thread giving no one a chance to respond to the statement.
Let's not lose sight of the fact that this is a fantasy, role playing game, just like any other. It is not a dating service. In some respects, I wish it was, lol.
We play to make the other person believe in us so that we can live out our sexual fantasies and, hopefully (well, critically for me), make them feel good too. Just as in Everquest, for example, where we have to assume that the person alongside us is a wizard and can help us resolve whatever situation we find ourselves in.
We are not playing under real names, we are not bound to provide true city/country, for example, not any detail has to be true ( except perhaps over 18) and we can say what we like in our profiles.
Many of us probably can't contort ourselves into the positions that we are able to play in the game.
The vast majority of us are unlikely to cum once a day let alone every few seconds.
The game is pure fantasy!!! As far as I am concerned, if anyone is at fault, it is those that cannot understand this.
I am not condoning what the person did in this instance, I think it was ott although some might consider it was the ultimate in role play.
And, I might add that, the last thing we want is tattle-tales, bullying and witch hunts. There have been enough people (if only one) that have been hurt by that and left the game because of it. A friend is currently being persecuted by some idiot male because she wouldn't room with him.
I play by the rules of the game, I'm not hurting anyone. I'll tell you what I want to tell you (believe it or not, I don't care) and I'll answer as honestly as possible, albeit at the same time protecting my true identity (I don't want weirdos coming round at all hours of the day and night). You don't know who I am and, if you want to make love to me, I don't care who you are, so long as you treat me nicely
Well, I always respect anyone's position, especially when it is eloquently expressed.
OK, Hukk, I apologise. I am someone who never reads the instructions until something fails to operate. So, when I said this was not a dating service, although I had in the back of my mind that somewhere there were comments that perhaps implied that it was, I ignored that and, lol, I knew that someone would probably pull me up on it.
However, I still don't understand why people consider this to be any different to any other game.
I know it sounds crude to suggest that we are all here to win but in a sense (in many senses) it is true.
We don't give ourselves away in poker, Monopoly, tennis, you name it.. and people are upset and cry when they lose and how do we, as the other player in the game, feel about that?
I have lost far more in my life through Everquest than anyone can imagine but I recognize that, despite its addictive quality, it is not responsible and neither were those persons involved.
As well, for example, if I feel hurt in some way in Achat, how do I know that I am feeling hurt for the right reason? It is a role playing game. Perhaps the offender was role playing. You have to assume they were as it is the nature of the game ( Lol, even the person who calls me a “bitch” may be a clergyman in real life and has never uttered the word in his life and just wanted to hear how it sounded). So then, if I role play that I am hurt, perhaps in order to gain sympathy or, alternatively, to chastise, and the original person takes offence at that, who is to blame? Them for their original comments or me? The answer is neither.
It all comes back to my point which not only summarizes Achat but life itself.. “You know no more about the other person than they do of you. You don't know how they see it, you only know how you see it.”
Oh and I'll reiterate my earlier comments…
“the last thing we want is tattle-tales, bullying and witch hunts.”
(although I guess you could role play those, lol) and
“if you want to make love to me, I don't care who you are, so long as you treat me nicely “OK, Hukk, I apologize. I am someone who never reads the instructions until something fails to operate. So, when I said this was not a dating service, although I had in the back of my mind that somewhere there were comments that perhaps implied that it was, I ignored that and, lol, I knew that someone would probably pull me up on it.
*wags finger* Shame on you Su'. :However, I still don't understand why people consider this to be any different to any other game.
Again, just to piggy back on what Zoe and Bear said earlier the issue is how some people paint a very simplistic image of achat; it's either this or that. Case closed. You're trying to present achat as simply a game (something that has been disproved from the link I provided earlier; it can serve as a dating service), when in fact it is not. The games you mentioned in comparison to achat are a poor example because as Bear said, it lacks the key component of sexual interaction that creates emotional ties between the players.
I don't know about you, but when I play a game like Call of Duty, I don't stop to have cyber with the person helping me in taking down a building full of terrorists. Each site or game -while having certain similarities- should be treated differently from one another, when trying to determine its structure. Achat is an odd hybrid of gaming and dating services that simply put, has no comparison because it is unique. Not recognizing the complexity achat displays, only serves to diminish that complexity and over simplifies the social structure of the site.
All this essentially means a member must be forward when interacting with other players here, as the format of the site promotes both creative role-play and serious relationships. Like Bear said:
……The first questions which any should be pushing on is a complete understanding on how their new partner perceives AChat. When those emotional tugs start on the heart. invest a little time in questions and discussions of Game versus social network. Are their motivations simply sexual? Where are their priorities?
Once that is clarified you are free to either continue your interaction with that player, or end the relationship (sexually perhaps but continue a social relationship).
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