True story. Guys act as Girls.

[Janine Dee]

Okay,first to moderator, this isn't really a “Erotic Story” kind of post it seems more a “Everything About Sex And Love”.

More to the point it's nothing new. It existed long before AChat started up,and will be happening long after the last of their servers goes offline.

The problem you are going to face Dion is that we have plenty of reasons to not voice/cam/pic. In the “Everything” board my friend ChristinaK has a thread on what happened to her when she had a guy who wore her down.

So you can either trust no one, and have few friends, or take people as they present themselves and go from there, because it isn't just gender, it's age, disability, or just a body that's less then the avatar ideal we get on here, or countless other things. People don't owe you the truth, and you are responsible if you seek it out.

This other person gave you limits and you pushed them till they blew up in your face.

I'm sorry, but in doing so you surrendered the victim card.

I'm sure you'll disagree, but please try to take from this that you are only entitled to what the other person chooses to give.

[bluedenim]

Something of the reverse happened to me when I first came to AChat….
I made friends with a SM, dark-skinned, same age as me and very pleasant. We played together and talked for weeks and “she” kept telling me how much she loved me until one day we exchanged e-mail addresses and HE sent me a picture of himself, a young boy and I mean younger than 18, from Europe, I'm not saying where.
He was devastated because I wouldn't send anything in return.
I was upset that a young boy had been on AChat anyway, but more that he felt such strong emotions that he had to send me the truth about himself. Obviously because he was, or certainly looked like he was, under-age, I couldn't play with him any more and it did make me aware of just what AChat is.

AChat is Pandora's box.

Either play it with what it says it is or
Open it at your peril.

[dion]

Yes you are right. As i told you i took my lesson.
But i was young and it was a big surprise for me. I mean young in a place like this. The virtual world.

If i post it in the wrong place then i m sorry for that.

[hentaiboy69]

Yep, Dion……really sorry for what happend to you!

Looking at what you had write, i can understand how you was “caught” by her during your virtual date. I don't have experienced something similar till now (mmmmh, better remember to all the new user of the forum i am a guy using a SM account) but can understand how you feel…..probably.

[Azrielle]

it did make me aware of just what AChat is.

AChat is Pandora's box.

Either play it with what it says it is or
Open it at your peril.

In total agreement with you there, Sis.

One of the reasons why I consider AChat a Game, and not an adult dating website. If you're really looking for romance, there are other more suitable places to find it. Its better to always keep things in perspective.

Mwah! Az.

[hentaiboy69]

Az, you are right……but, you know…..that don't mean it can't happend. Sure is everyone must pay great attention to how people we meet are, cause hiding the real self behind the screen is easy and hard to find out.

After this, i hope anyone is having good time here (less or more!)! 

[Lover]

Dion, i inderstand your wish to know more about the one you almost fall in love (especially as “she” seemed to feel the same). But all you do here you do on your own responsibility.
This is one reason I do my best to keep young people away from here – the pressure some “lovers” may give to them is so high and they are (usually) too unexperienced and too shy to disagree with special wishes.

When your lover doesn't accept your wish – you HAVE to accept this. This is one golden rule here i wanna give to anyone. And even if its just to protect yourself.

But I also hope you will find wonderful friends here and have much fun. I also respect you published your story – as a help for you but also for many others. Thanks for it.
Lover

[dion]

I know ..my thought was wrong. When (she) told me no, i had to accept it without asking for explainations.
But you know …how are these things. Dont tell me that noone else in here didnt have the curiosity to learn more details about his or her lover?
We all say ..oh come on its only a virtual sex game . But its also a trap.A trap for human feelings.
Many times i meet people in a chat who they feel sad or ungry cause somenone hurt their feelings.
Maybe we are only some sexy avatars in here but behind them there are feelings . Our feelings.
So its easy for someone to cross the limits without understand it. Especialy new members who dont know how this world works.
Now i know…. but i had to fall in the trap.
I decided to to write this story and crumple my image just to show you how easy it is to fall in trap (emotional trap) .
No mutter your age, no mutter your  personality. It can be happen to everyone.
So be carefull you all.
Dont let this game get into your lives.
Just have some fun ..and this is it.

[bluedenim]

Dion,
It did happen to me. I was emotionally attached.
After this I met and eventually “married” someone else with whom I formed a very strong attachment and although she has not been on AChat for several months now, I am still emotionally attached…….
It happens, we wouldn't be human if it didn't and I am not the one to say “Don't form attachments” I am the worst example, even tho I know I shouldn't.
x

[Lover]

I don't say that nobody (and me too) wants to know more about the people we really like. When I started here I thought “oh great.. a nice place to have sex without giving any personal infos. Talk – meet – have sex – go”.
Soon I learned more about myself – this is not the way i love to have sex. I like to talk about private infos, wanna know more about the person – not of everyone but sometimes i feel a stronger connection.
And with some i also use messenger to chat – its simply better to chat then here if you just wanna talk or if one of you cannot start achat.

I just say there is a reason why some dont wanna share pics, chat on messenger or use voice talk. No matter about the reason we have to accept it.
And if somebody does its a great sign of trust. Unfortunately here are assholes that misuse this trust. All honest people have to suffer…

[Janine Dee]

Okay, I first want to say that I'm not “sorry” I came on as strong as I did because the pushing for voice/cam/pics is a topic that does elicit a very passionate response from me. I do however hope no feelings were hurt by my words/tone.

The irony is that the no cam/voice/pic rule is how I keep this a “game”. While I can and do share some details I am 100% in control of them, and in being that in control of them I keep this place a refuge where I CAN share details and have people to talk to about them, but can also not mention certain problems and effectively “leave them at the door” for a time.

I myself actually wavered once on the Voice Contribution thread because I was considering sending my voice in, and while I said I didn't like how I sounded the better way to say it was I heard my own real life voice and thought. “Oh FUCK! Too real! Too real! Retreat! Retreat!”

I just stand by my earlier end of post where I said you have to take people as they present themselves and go from there. It's as real in real life as it is online. Anytime you grow close to someone if you are close to them for any length of time you will find out ugly truths.

Now in this case I won't argue the truth was pretty profound, but it still holds.

As far as the aftermath? All I can do is say my view on it. There are plenty of guys I would have sex with if I were sexually attracted to men, and I mean that I can have an emotional intimacy of a close friendship, but for the arousal of a sexual intimacy I need a woman. So if I were in the place of learning a female sex partner on AChat was a guy using a female avatar… the emotional closeness is there, the feminine arousal source was there, but after learning they were actually guys it's gone.

If you know who you are and are comfortable with that person the rest of the world flows around you.

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