WARNING – Phantom Spouse Imposter (P.S.I.)

[Brandybee]

This one is rather amusing but annoying if you are taken by surprise.

Some free user is taking it upon himself to making accounts using names very similar to spouses.

The targets are usually women and then he makes an account and impersonates the spouse. There may only be one letter or something different in the name. A quick glance and you may not notice immediately.

I’ve had two complaints so far but remember one of our members reporting something similar and the virtual punch on the nose was born.

This player has been roomed but it quickly becomes apparent and he is discovered. He then takes it upon himself to make other accounts, usually a freeuser woman and tells the target , that their spouse has roomed them etc.. and is quite graphic about the sexual antics they have got up too.

This can be upsetting and annoying to the target and can cause anger to the genuine spouse.

Please be aware and just put the silly little man on ignore.

Heres an example for the style he uses. jingerbird, one of his targets has kindly given permission for this to be published.

DIRKDARING1: Hi My wife 🙂
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: why are you not at work
DIRKDARING1: my new still
DIRKDARING1: style
DIRKDARING1: new style
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: hmmmm
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: erm…….
DIRKDARING1: İ love youu
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: i love you too…….
DIRKDARING1: ohhhhhh
DIRKDARING1: ?
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: you are not my Spouse
DIRKDARING1: ahahhhaha 🙂
DIRKDARING1: never mind
DIRKDARING1: jinger
DIRKDARING1: come on my room
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: get to fuck
DIRKDARING1: relax
DIRKDARING1: honey
DIRKDARING1: come on
DIRKDARING1: I fuck you
DIRKDARING1: I’m aykutt4 🙂
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: You are a prick
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: leave me alone
DIRKDARING1: your husband at work ?
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: fuck off prick, im warning you
DIRKDARING1: ı’m your husband
DIRKDARING1: ok ?
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: fuck off
DIRKDARING1: why ?
jingerbird to DIRKDARING1: you are a fucking wierdo
DIRKDARING1: honey
DIRKDARING1: ı want you
DIRKDARING1: really
DIRKDARING1: I love you

[Brandybee]

Heres a copy of the guy who approached Stone on  2 January  2014

Stones post.  Taken from the worst chat ups EVER  topic  https://funnyadultgamesplay.com/forum/index.php/topic,581.915.html 

Quote …

This chat up was a little … well make your own mind up, especially if you know Jayc and I .
I was in a couple of chats at the time and have edited those out and changed the guys name to persistant.  He was a freeuser.

Persistant: sex
Persistant: hi baby , iam JAYC but this is my new account
Persistant: are you busy ?
Stone : No you are  not
Persistant: i couldn't login to my account so i made this one
Persistant: i will invite you baby    He invited. I let it run out as I was in chat.
Persistant: its me baby ,,,
Persistant: are you ok ? ..
Persistant: what's wrong with you  ?..
Stone : you are not jayc, Its not funny
Persistant: what ??.. do you think that i'm jocking with you ? ..
Persistant: baby its me believe me
Stone : prove it
Persistant: are you busy with some 1 else ? ..
Stone : Just chatting.  I said prove it
Persistant: how you want me to prove it , ask me something
Stone : How long have we been together?
Persistant: 1 year
Stone : How did we meet?
Persistant: what now ? i just proved it baby you will ask me about everything in our relation now ?
Persistant: i will invite you and we continue talking there
Stone : your answer was wrong, I was giving you another chance Smiley
Persistant: i will invite you and we continue talking there
Stone : your answer was wrong, I was giving you another chance Smiley
He invited and I declined.
Persistant: my answer was right and i know it ,, stop testing me
Persistant: ready ?
He invited. I declined.
Stone : You are not Jayc and its not funny doing that
Persistant: you still don't believe me ?
Persistant: you say that because you are with some 1 else right ? ,
,Persistant: ok , our relation ends here
Stone to : Matters not, I only room with Jayc
Persistant: you willn't see Jayc anymore coz he will be with another girl
Stone : You know, you should be yourself and not pretend to be someone else, especially someone’s spouse.
Persistant: bye , and thanks for what you did for me :*
Stone : You are not Jayc. And I will tell him what you just did.
Persistant: i proved that i'm Jayc but you didn't believe
Stone : He's a Dom too. Tut Tut.      ( OK , so I told a white lie there )
Persistant: ok tell me i'm waiting for that ,,
Persistant: do you want to be sure that i'm Jayc ? you can be very sure now when you see me on skype
Stone : You are not Jayc. But at least you read my profile which makes a nice change.
Persistant: what change ? ,,, did you wrote on your profile that we have been together for 1 year ? ,,, stop pretending , i know what are you trying to do
Stone : We have  not been together for a year
Stone : How did we meet?
Persistant: lol , so if we have not been together for a year ( as you say ) why you ask me another question ? .. if you want to end our relation and want us to not talk anymore just say that
Stone I was giving you another chance
Stone : to dig yourself deeper into the hole lol
Persistant: well we met here
Persistant: lol
Persistant: what a stupid girl Cheesy  ,, go ahead but trust me you willn't stay with Jayc for a long time coz guys need many girls ,, and 1 girl is not enough  ,, espicially a girl like you
Stone : Baby, You havent had the pleasure of my room Smiley 
Persistant: so what's special in your room ? . lol
Stone : Ask Jayc  Smiley
Stone : And he will tell you  Stone Smiley
Persistant: no need coz there is nothing special , you are just like others Smiley
Persistant: and Jayc told me that Smiley
Stone : Now that is just nasty and spiteful isnt it?
Persistant: no
Persistant: wanna show me what is special in your room ?
Stone : I'm sorry but I only room with Jayc Smiley
Stone : but nice try Smiley  I'm sure you will enjoy your time here. Just be yourself.
Persistant: lol , i just wanted to be sure about what Jayc's words coz he told me that nothing special in your room and you don't make him feel plesure Smiley
Persistant: well ,, you will see that i was right , you willn't stay with Jayc for a long time Smiley
Stone : Define  a long time?
Persistant: Sorry, you are on my ignore list…

End quote.

[Lover]

Somebody is copying me. His name in game is LuvCodler, so almost the same as mine is (just one D is missing). In his profile, he has chosen the same options I have..even my age and country. The only different, he is free user. You recognize him, as he is wearing this really beautioful blue sweater lol…
Later he said his name would be Aykutt4. Afterwards Roxxy got a message from a girl, called Zehraaa, offering her hubby for a fuck, cause I would have fucked her.

If you ever get any message from LuvCodler, please tell me.

[jingerbird]

My spouse was also offered his wife (profile Kereem) in exchange for me. We believe it is the same guy.
He has created 4 different profiles to trick me up to now, all are free users but i was only fooled the first time. This guy is a complete jerk and can become quite nasty when he is challenged. I dont reply now, i just block the profile and wait for the next one to turn up.  I also got a message from Zehraaa telling me to make my spouse room with her because Aykutt4 wanted me in exchange.

[Justlna]

This Aykutt4 is quite a pest. I’ve just blacklisted him for stupidiy, but i didn’t know that he’s so… erm… inventive. So, i guess, he’s not stupid, just ignorant

😀

[FoxyRoxxy]

Aykutt4  is  annoying trying to make me think he was  my spouse after many times  I just blocked him and  but  all free users
in ignore  but the one that  came  to con me after him was  flameboy  from  club 3some    he believes his some kind of internet security

all lies  he will  get the chat log and  post it  at his blog  I say  he is biggest  pain in the  A**  so  he has a  few accounts

best you can do is ignore this fools

[FoxyRoxxy]

;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

what are you on Aykutt4

has apologized and left me alone .

Quote abusive idiot have you looked at all you do

;D ;D ;D

Cry wolf dose not help you no more .

I would say to you stop Harassing other and try to live a happy life not filled with so much anger 😮

And yes I am a Born again christian I dont hide it and I am prude of it do you know the meaning of what it means

this is what it means to me My faith is mine believe as I like and you have yours I don’t judge

yours you live as you wish

this song is for you Kirk Franklin – I Smile

Jesus Loves You Jesus Loves You

;D ;D ;D ;D Smile Smile Smile

[jingerbird]

The problem with Achat is that real feelings are involved in a virtual space. When people get hurt here, they lash out in many different ways with the intention of hurting another. This takes on many different forms and just because its outside of Achat, doesn't make it justified in any way, shape or form. Harassment is harassment. We all understand what it is like to feel pain, but it is how we deal with that pain that shows what kind of person that we are. Everyone is entitled to love and be loved as long as they are not hurting anyone else, just as we are all entitled to our beliefs and we should never be castigated for them.

[Brandybee]

@  ilovetorn

I see  from your post you are using aggressive and hostile language and that is not the tone we like to set in forum.

Words such as –  “Understand?”  “I know you like to hear yourself talk? “  “Capiche?” are just some of the examples put in text to deliberately belittle people and make yourself sound superior. 

Another is to quote “laws” in a manner that suggests the readers are uneducated. We have people from all walks of life here and to make such assumptions is putting yourself on a pedestal.

Quote your laws by all means but do so in an informative manner to teach, not to belittle or harass.
Everyone is the same here.

If you have a gripe or disagreement about a person’s viewpoint, then argue it in a reasoned manner and not directly at the person concerned.
Everyone has a right to their religious beliefs as you do about having an opposing view.
Therefore post in a separate topic and show your beliefs and arguments evidencing those beliefs for an open and interesting discussion.
To try and belittle and name a person here, will cause you to be moderated and won’t be tolerated.

If you start an account and give it away, then obviously people will think you are one and the same until informed differently and if their behaviour upsets people, you are bound to get blamed and treated with suspicion. 

Definition of harassment is always an interesting point –  in simple terms it is behaviour to annoy or trouble constantly a person.  I won’t bother quoting more. Interested people can look it up.

And let’s make something very clear, as you seem to constantly quote outside authorities, here, in chat and elsewhere. You are not Achat Security, something you have lead people to believe.

Harassment is annoying. Arguments will occur in communities. Certain usernames will come up again and again.

The authorities are not interested in these low level spats, even though they may technically be breaking the law. Otherwise they and the courts would be inundated with investigations and never go home. 

There is also the question if it’s in the public interest and money.  Their time and tax-payers money is better spent on the more serious cases, as it should be, most of which make the news. I’m sure you have all heard of such cases, sexual harassment, revenge porn, stalking and such like.

Anyway back to the point in question –

Some players here, even ensure they become victims by continuing the dispute when actually all they have to do, is say their piece, agree to disagree and use the ignore button.

To then make further accounts,  or not follow the above advice and to continue the abuse  is childish and that’s when the Moderators may become involved and the matter reported to them or directly to Achat  through “Support” who will investigate the matter.  This could ultimately turn into a warning or temporary or permanent ban to this game.

The time for when other authorities should be involved is if the perpetrator oversteps the mark.  When the perpetrator starts to harass that person by other means, stalking them and finding out personal details, publishing them and continuing to do so when constantly asked not to.

That is breaking the law and I would encourage anyone who is subject of such victimisation to report it to the appropriate authorities.

However, it should not even get to that point here. We strongly advise, never to give out personal details, emails or even communicate by other means unless you can easily switch it off without recourse.  And to keep passwords private at all times. To leave yourself open to become a victim like this is not good practice.

Messages in Achat or Forum is quite adequate.  If you do communicate outside of this then take the adequate precautions to protect yourself. Find out their blocking policies. It’s common sense.  Achat cannot help you if you are harassed outside of here.  If in doubt, don’t do it. 

You have mentioned certain players and again, although I do not condone such behaviour, this is a sex site and by definition will attract people who do not have the same subtleties as others.

Rude people can again be ignored by using that magic “Ignore” button.

You also have to be aware that people do role play and act out their fantasies here.  Whether you agree or not, these can be rape scenarios, sadist tendencies whether that is physical or emotional pain and abuse and even incest. Some play at being prostitutes and like this seedy side. 

There are numerous kinks and fetishes that others may find abhorrent. There are many examples how people get their sexual kicks. We do receive complaints about this but on many occasions tolerance is key here.

If you don’t like it, don’t take part and if they don’t understand no, use the ignore button.
It’s quite simple really and stops issues going out of control.

You seem to use my name  and misquote me quite regularly, so let’s make this very clear as you seem to fail to listen to me on numerous occasions.

I am not Achat Staff or an Administrator. I am a Moderator here. I am a player like yourself who pays their yearly fee and was asked by Achat to become a Moderator. Moderators do not receive any reward or special treatment for this position.

I, like my fellow Moderators, take every complaint received about players seriously. Some can be resolved by communication. Those that are not, I ask for the chat logs to be sent to me or directly to Achat for investigation. Sometimes that results in advice, sometimes a temporary or permanent ban here and the game. That is a decision for Achat.
The Moderators cannot ban nor have the facilities to do so. We can only report our findings to Achat. 

On the whole, that works well.

Frankly, if you are the subject of any smear campaigns, I would strongly suggest, it is something you have bought on yourself. 

You have got involved in disputes that are frankly none of your concern and made those disputes worst.
You have constantly gone against my advice.
You have continued disputes when they could easily be resolved with the ignore button.
You have several accounts where the disputes have continued.
You  opened an outside blog whereby no one has cause to redress your claims,  put a tracker on that and published information of the unsuspected users.
And jumped to wrong conclusions and published players profiles and their edited conversations.
I have even made one of your pages.

All of which  is  hostile, morally wrong and invades their privacy here.  A privacy that is reasonable to expect in their private conversations.

You can say as much as you want that you are legally entitled to do so, but your behaviour is frankly wrong, unprofessional and will upset people.

If you now find yourself in a position, that so many players are against you, look at your own hostile and aggressive behaviour. You have made yourself a victim and relish the fact you have.

I have even tried to resolve your issues and you have placed me on ignore. You don’t listen and are unwilling to listen. Problems cannot be solved without communication.

I have asked you to direct your investigators to me and Achat time and time again. I will quite willingly speak to them.
No one has.

This behaviour is not in keeping with a professional and is probably why people are doubtful of your claims to be internet security.

Now, instead of continuing these disputes, why don't you just enjoy your time here …

[Lover]

Nobody cares what you're writing. We have done for plenty of time and Brandy tried to help. It's a pity you're not smart enough to understand she's a mod and not admin, what you're always calling her. We can't ban members, we can't stop them and we don't have the power to prove if they're telling the truth or just ill idiots. All we can do is report them – and this we do whenever we are told about them.
But how can you know this? You're not listening to anybody and you don't read what other are writing.

You might think you're smart – maybe you have a level of intelligence but you're not using it. You're bathing in vanity, believing people are impressed by your words. I can tell you, they laugh about you. Go on wasting your time. Go on dreaming about being denouncer, judge and god. It's good when you believe in yourself – you're the only one.

You even are right in some points. Unfortunately you decided not to work together with us but to play bullheaded child. Brandy tried again and agin to talk to you, telling you how to handle it but you're not able to talk and discuss. You blame, you threat, then you ignore.

Grow, act as an adult and you're welcome. Or go on behaving like a baby who was taken his rattle, nobody will care for you. It's your choice.

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