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Respect is something everyone can demand and has to give too!
We all are here to have fun. Everyone on his own style and as he/she wishes, as long as you don't attack, offend or judge other. And of course, as long as you don't act against TOS.Respect is a word which is spoken easy. But having respect for other sometimes can be very hard. Maybe because we don't like what they are doing or how they are doing something. Maybe we don't like the words they use. Sometimes just because we don't understand the meaning of their words – what did the writer (the sender of the message) want to say?
Then it's on us to check our reaction. If we are upset, we better wait to answer. Maybe ask first – what do you mean? Do I understand you right?
We can agree with someone's opinion. Respect is easy then. Or we can disagree with someone's opinion. This is the point when respect begins. Respecting other relations means, not trying to go between them. For this, first you have to know they are in a relation. Either from opening your eyes or becausethey tell you. If you, knowing they are spoused or exclusive, try to seduce them, it's on them to tell you “Stop”. So long, so good. Nothing bad has happened. If you still continue, you lose respect. Simple but true.Respect also ends, when it comes to personal attacks or offending. This, and just this, we mods never will accept or tolerate. Not because we don't like it, but it's bad for a good atmosphere in forum. Tell me I'm wrong, but I believe we mods (and almost everybody else too) always respected oher's opinion. We never judged or harmd other lifestyles. As long as I'm mod here, this also never will happen.
We also make sure, we respect you as person, even when we have to edit or remove a post. This is just for the common sense and doesn't mean you're a bad person. We just refer to one single action you're doing. In this moment we judge the behave, never the person. This is respect too.
Tolerance is another term in this context. Being more tolerant is the ONLY way to get all these different people under one hat. Everybody, including me, has to learn to be tolerant. Step back, think about, say “not what i like, but it doesn't affect me”. Smile – done.
Intolerance is not just the opposite of tolerance. It's saying “I am right and you are wrong. You, as person, are wrong. You are bad, because you're not living the way I do.” Here, in this forum, there is no place for this attitude. You can stay and learn to be tolerant or you can go.I always will stand for free speech. For respect. For tolerance. Join me. Let's make it a place for a strong community. Let's make it a place for a big family, where not everyone has to agree with everything, not everyone has to be friend with everyone. But is respecting everyone.
To learn, to grow – and to HAVE FUN
Well said Lover, and I can appreciate your views as well as your words of wisdom. What I do not understand is how analyzing occurs. No one truly knows how he or she will or would react or behave in an unsavory situation until thrust into one for themselves. So to try and speak about others choice on how that unsavory situation is or was dealt with; and making comments on how you yourself would have done this or that or not this or not that isn't a statement that should be made; unless one has gone through it themselves…not watched someone else but themselves gone through. To call this person or any other person who has gone through the unsavory situation names is also not fitting in the positive message you have just sent out, Lover. I fail to see how doing so could ever bring upon the peace and positive atmosphere that is meant to be. It comes more across as fuel to the fire…wishing to fan the fumes if you will and all other who chimed in as well. I am not here to excuse my behavior not at all nor do I feel any wrong other than I should not have made it public. I feel very vindicated in my feelings and will continue to do so. I do not see where making posts and trying to analyze me or my feelings is helpful either, if you wish to know something anything for that matter about me; I have no qualms in helping you understand. But do not think or assume that you know anything about me simply by that posts or others misinformation about me. I am the ONLY one here that knows me best. So with that being said I hope we all can go back to having fun and busting many nuts! Have a good evening
LeighDeeXXXI was analyzed before the topic came up and it did so out of my reaction to something unsavory.
Not once did I say no one should be allowed to post their opinions, clearly it was never said not by me.
The topic started off as respect and some how was flipped to relationships; with a chart to try and explain ones views, about what they felt goes on here; and the time they have been a member. So it does seem a bit coincidental that all of this “relationship” topics came about the same time I openly and publically posted my views and feelings. As I have mentioned in my upper post…I regret not handling it in a private manner and the fact that I was called names that I too regret but will and have gotten over it. And with that being said I wish everyone a blessed day and bust many nuts!Respect is something everyone can demand and has to give too!
We all are here to have fun. Everyone on his own style and as he/she wishes, as long as you don't attack, offend or judge other. And of course, as long as you don't act against TOS.Respect is a word which is spoken easy. But having respect for other sometimes can be very hard. Maybe because we don't like what they are doing or how they are doing something. Maybe we don't like the words they use. Sometimes just because we don't understand the meaning of their words – what did the writer (the sender of the message) want to say?
Then it's on us to check our reaction. If we are upset, we better wait to answer. Maybe ask first – what do you mean? Do I understand you right?
We can agree with someone's opinion. Respect is easy then. Or we can disagree with someone's opinion. This is the point when respect begins. Respecting other relations means, not trying to go between them. For this, first you have to know they are in a relation. Either from opening your eyes or becausethey tell you. If you, knowing they are spoused or exclusive, try to seduce them, it's on them to tell you “Stop”. So long, so good. Nothing bad has happened. If you still continue, you lose respect. Simple but true.Respect also ends, when it comes to personal attacks or offending. This, and just this, we mods never will accept or tolerate. Not because we don't like it, but it's bad for a good atmosphere in forum. Tell me I'm wrong, but I believe we mods (and almost everybody else too) always respected oher's opinion. We never judged or harmd other lifestyles. As long as I'm mod here, this also never will happen.
We also make sure, we respect you as person, even when we have to edit or remove a post. This is just for the common sense and doesn't mean you're a bad person. We just refer to one single action you're doing. In this moment we judge the behave, never the person. This is respect too.
Tolerance is another term in this context. Being more tolerant is the ONLY way to get all these different people under one hat. Everybody, including me, has to learn to be tolerant. Step back, think about, say “not what i like, but it doesn't affect me”. Smile – done.
Intolerance is not just the opposite of tolerance. It's saying “I am right and you are wrong. You, as person, are wrong. You are bad, because you're not living the way I do.” Here, in this forum, there is no place for this attitude. You can stay and learn to be tolerant or you can go.I always will stand for free speech. For respect. For tolerance. Join me. Let's make it a place for a strong community. Let's make it a place for a big family, where not everyone has to agree with everything, not everyone has to be friend with everyone. But is respecting everyone.
To learn, to grow – and to HAVE FUN@ Leighdee, hukk:
In no way my post was referring to you both. The opposite is true. My intention was, to get a general discussion about repsect, tolerance and consideration. For this forum, but also for life in general. I believe, this attitude and an honest but also fair communication is they key to a good together. Obviously I failed and you think, I was talking about you. I apologize. Please read my post againm having this new background.It's good to have this discussion topic. Maybe here we can concentrate the storm, which otherwise would have been in more topics. Here we can talk about the forum and us. No game, no events, no funny stuff is disturbing. Just the passion of our hearts (and sometimes tounges). It shows, we're alive and it's important for us. So look ahead, think of how you want to be treated and how you should treat others. Post your opinion in the same way you would talk to your friends and beloved people. Sometimes wait a few minutes – things said in rage can hurt a lot and even if you regret it afterwards, it's said (written).
I know, together we will sail the storm and reach Sunny Island. Stronger tha before. Little wiser than before. Smiling@ Leighdee, hukk:
In no way my post was referring to you both. The opposite is true. My intention was, to get a general discussion about repsect, tolerance and consideration. For this forum, but also for life in general. I believe, this attitude and an honest but also fair communication is they key to a good together. Obviously I failed and you think, I was talking about you. I apologize. Please read my post againm having this new background.Lover I didn't think you were just speaking to me, I did feel it was to all who were involved or who felt some type of way. I didn't take anything you said to be hurtful; just the opposite was felt about your post. I read it as being informative as well as what it was meant to do and that is clear the air…its actually all the other “fluff” that came and went around the original post that really is the issue with me.
It's good to have this discussion topic. Maybe here we can concentrate the storm, which otherwise would have been in more topics. Here we can talk about the forum and us. No game, no events, no funny stuff is disturbing. Just the passion of our hearts (and sometimes tounges). It shows, we're alive and it's important for us. So look ahead, think of how you want to be treated and how you should treat others. Post your opinion in the same way you would talk to your friends and beloved people. Sometimes wait a few minutes – things said in rage can hurt a lot and even if you regret it afterwards, it's said (written).
I know, together we will sail the storm and reach Sunny Island. Stronger than before. Little wiser than before. SmilingI think you are on to something here, and it is a good way to clear the air with respect and tact; without repercussions or ill wills for ones feelings or opinions. This would be totally awesome. I am all for a Sunny Island
Respect others
I wold like to discuss this about respecting exclusive relationships and couples on Achat.
I know that this is a Virtual Sex Games but I would like some of you to know who I feel about it
yes its all sex fantasies with consenting adults partner, not all are consenting just because its a sex game dose not
mean all have the same life style sure we can post but when you know it will start a conflict and you name a person
why posted it to trigger a reaction ? of cures there is going to be a reaction… and then this disterbes the friendly
places we have here ….I ask that before you post something and it has to name others that it be consenting ..And also that we learn to respected each other and life style we have many members with different customs beliefs
its a sex game but its a consenting one, ask think before you postLet me say few words…….
Rocxxy, dear, your subject have a vaste implications and if you wrote “let's talk about respect Others”, it sound more like you want to point the attention on the conflict we have here in forum recenttly, most then about “respect esclusive relationship”, or this is what everyone can think just reading the red title. but this change when you continue to read your post and then, immediately the theme is more clear, so i'd like to ask you to be more clear when you post a title for a discussion, just to don't cause some mistaken.
After this, let me say something about this: in the three years i was here, i met 4 persons very important for me and if i never forced them to establish an esclusive relationship, the time with them was wonderfull, eccept one case, with a man which pretend i was Always ready just for him at any time. poor boy, now he is in my ignore! :
Why i never ask for esclusive relationship!? simple, i can be online only in late evening, so why i have to force the people I care to wait me in a bored mood!? i don't care if they have fun with others here in AChat, not till i know their feeling for me are not fake!
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