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  • #78439
    hukk
    Participant

    @ Lover

    Don't worry Lover, we didn't take offense with anything you said, along with the other members who provided harmless commentary (most of which likely didn't even know the background behind the topic) . I point to HB's post as an explanation to why I felt bothered by the topic.

    Thanks for the help and for trying to keep things together.

    #78441
    amourcherry
    Guest

    I've been reading watching the forum for some time .
    I see all the hard work the Moderators have  invest there time in it
    and I Respect  this.

    My philosophy is that true respect is earned, not bestowed 

    Zoerink said:  well said
    respect persons, couples, groups, ethnics, religions, gender, sexual orientation…
    I would add opines ….

    I like the Discussion that is going on at the moment about Respect.

    I understand that is  about Respecting  Each Other, exclusive relationships
    and couples and respected each other life style we have many members  with different customs beliefs
    I saw the fine print and did not take sides , I read every post carefully to understand  it
    with my views

    I do not like the way respect is not given to each other here lately, we are all humans with feeling
    being a Moderator or a Member.

    To my awareness I have seen a lot of different views in the forum, my respect to some moderation
    some I do not agree with, that its not hard to avoid not looking at it to make my own conclusion to what's going on .

    Perhaps it is me only but it seems to me that people are just not as respectful as they used to be.
    I see a lot of post that are not so friendly and positive.

    This is a positive friendly community for Achat members to come meet and share ideas and have fun

    “Show proper respect to everyone.”

    We have to keep in mind that there are members that come from different countries and
    other culture and customs and that everyone has a way of expressing themselves as best they can their way.
    We should respect them as how they express themselves with their grammar and watch what we say with our words to.
    To make them feelwelcome and they can share there ideas .

    On exclusive relationships I respect this to their wishes, to me exclusive say it all.
    Nothing more to add . every one has there way they see it  in there own  relationship

    On lifestyle every one has there own way they live it. I respected this .

    I respect others on their post as long as  it dose not harm and are respectful .

    I respect that Sexual advances should be consenting and welcome by partners .

    Let us all with decency respect each other and  make this a fun place with Respect  for all.

    #78442
    hentaiboy69
    Participant

    My own thoughs:

    Respect is something you can demand but not pretend, at least you can learn it form others but you must be the first one showing you respect others. Recently, i had seen comments and request that doesn't fit the essence of respect and that hurt me a lot, not as moderator of the forum but as human being. I'm speachless for what happend here recently and it clearly show me that ,most of us talk of respect but didn't know what really it is, so i'll ask you all (me too!) to take a break and think to what happend and re-read the words recently carved on this forum and ask to your self: “Am I showing respect to the others!? And are they doing the same!?”

    Only after this, we can go back to the nice atmosphere we actual mods (and the one before us!) have always try to create!

    #78443
    AusWoody
    Participant

    first and foremost  lets look at the dictionary  definition of respect!

    A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements:

    • the director had a lot of respect for Douglas as an actor
    • [/list]

      hmm seems it isn't given  but EARNED!!!

      ok  what i do find  humorous  is those that PREACH respect  of others  seem to have  a sparsity of that very same  respect of those who opinines differ from theirs.

      so basicly  i say to all practice what you preach  or  STFU
      hypocrisy and deceit  seem to be the  two attributes  i find in abundance here !
      as opposed  to respect  honesty  and  acceptance of other peoples opines and peccadilloes.

      just my thoughts

      oh  and lack of loyalty 

    #78444
    Bear
    Participant

    From what I see the Moderators work hard here for very little in return.

    And to try and publicly humiliate any one of them, you should be ashamed of yourselves.  If they ask you do to something, I suggest there is a very good reason for it and usually is because they know more than they publish in public in a dispute.

    Ironic really that this is a topic about respect and yet very little has been shown.

    They are Moderators for a reason and due respect should be shown to them.  They make decisions for Forum for the good of forum. If you have a problem, then use the PM facility. 

    I am shocked and disgusted by the behaviour here.

    And ask yourself this when you decide to answer me, no doubt. What do you do for forum compared to the Moderators ?  Probably very little I suggest.

    Right beside you there Stone

    Respect is indeed earned…our Mods have a difficult task and  deserved a moment of pause of self reflection before responding to them. What is needed is a touch of grace… the capacity to show consideration and thoughtfulness in responses, even in a storm of differing opinions.

    #78445
    FoxyRoxxy
    Participant

    I  have been  feeling very offended  by  a lot that has been said to me
    I never meant anybody any harm
    My opinion gets easily turned around
    because I have difficulty writing

    it is  very hard for me to write proper English it is my second language so
    maybe its hard to understand 

    I start this discussion to say there is a lot of disrespect
    I thought about many areas but mostly it was about how I feel sometimes, and
    I was making sure I did not name anyone not to point anyone out
    in my first post.
    I have seen disrespect  in many posts including posts aimed to me
    and wanted to call attention to people to respect each other more
    I never meant any harm to anyone

    To me respect means being kind to each other understanding the opines  even if they are not agreeing what we like

    I started a few threads and noticed that unfortunately my hopes for them were not met and went of topic
    I was offended and felt it was a posts to started a conflicts I asked that they be removed  they offend me my wishes where not met.that post was uncalled for If you don't like my opine and thought why go post something that go's against my desires for it .
    I like to open some treads that done have any thing to do with sexual theme. I like to stay  positive encouraging and uplifting .Not that  I aginst
    this  but I like to have  others  ideas thoughts that have nothing to do with sex ….I like a word for it maybe it s  option of choice
    I would like this Respect  met .To me there are many threads  open  to post  your wishes as long as the  description is met  as how they started
    the thread and wishes …
    In the past  I posted and did not  read the title of there wishes after I found out I removed them out respect for there wishes ……

    For now I closed  one for the moment ….  1 is privet for me only
    as many others have some closed . I will describe more to make it  easy to understand it more but will will take time
    then I will open them  soon …

    I like what this person said

    Quote :by a member
    well, for one who rarely posts, I got a few pointers to make… I always believed this forum is always very friendly and is a very good place to meet new people and friends… in regards to that, one must take notice that everyone is different here… what may appeal to another person might not necessarily appeal to you…. if you see a post or thread which you don't like, you can either ignore it and walk away or give feedback in a positive way..

    in this case here, I really think its not proper to post a pic on this and say ” no chance in hell” when roxxy clearly shows shes offended by that pic… that is not positive at all and doesn't seem like a post one of humor… be positive and friendly, if that doesn't work out, then please work it outside the forums

    I hope we can all work together and have fun with consideration for others wishes
    staying positive encouraging  each other   

                        ……………..

    I want to  to say on  respecting exclusive relationships  when I said this it was
    meant to say  how I  feel about it ..

    I may be old fashion but to me my self when I am in a relationship I like to respect
    my partner the way I was raised up, this to me is how I feel about it, and I was talking about  myself . I love my partner and
    I would not want to hurt him this is how I show my love for him…
    I do not flirt with any men out respect for him ,
    not because, we don't trust  each other but because this is my lifestyle custom of how I was raised up

    I do not like
    how when I turn on the game I get many sexually and verbally rude come on's  from men that are not welcome .To me I don't like men
    disrespecting me this way. I tell them and some take it well  some do not understand this
    this is why I said that even if its a sex virtual fantasies base game, It has to come with a consenting adults partner's with agreement.
    and I don't consenting to there come on's..

                          this gave me a idea that I will post soon,that might  help with this..

    I am not here to judge criticize or give advice on others, relationships I know we all have different way's of seeing it
    and every relationships is is different and unique in its way…
    If I don't like it I will say it in a PM …

    I just  hope you can understand me  and

    I would like this respected on my opine  about the way I feel about it…

    and I  will respected the way you see your  If  I am doing something
    that is offending or you cant understand it,or you like to discuss it pm, me so we can work it out

    #78446
    Covems
    Participant

    Well done everyone.  We have successfully driven off the moderator who did the most work here in the forum.  Who's next?  Jayc must be wondering what he's gotten himself into.  I wouldn't touch that job with a 10 foot cattle prod.  It seems folks have forgotten that she is a person first, an AChat player second and a VOLUNTEER moderator third.

    I personally want to thank Brandybee for all her hard work and dedication to this “Forum Village”.  For me, she made this forum one of my favorite places to visit on the Web, and that includes when I had my own personal problems here.  She always added a cheery word and her positive outlook made a difference to my AChat Forum experience.  I sincerely hope that she will at least continue to post and stay in this “village”, though I wouldn't blame her one bit if she didn't. 

    Now, if any afflicted egos want to attack me for this post, have at it.

    Getting back to the topic of respect.  On a personal note, I've lost a lot of respect for some folks that I once held in high esteem.

    #78447
    Lover
    Participant

    A few days have gone, everybody had the chance to calm down and think about what has happened. Not just in this topic, this was just the top of an iceberg. Many little fires started lately and some members felt pissed off. I can tell you, also we mods were.

    HB was attacked and most of all Brandy. Why? Because she did what we don't like, but have to. If you're a member for a while, you know we are very careful before we edit or remove posts. It's our latest decision and we never take it easy. We stand for free speech, different opinions and diversity of beliefs, culture and personal preferences. Believe me, we're happier than you,if we don't have “to mod”. Sometimes we have to do it, though we might agree with you. But our private opinions may not be in foreground, eg when members are arguing or when you act against TOS of AChat, like critizing them in a bad way. Usually you make it easy for us, as it's a friendly and respectful forum. The best I know.

    We love to say, it's not you and we, but us together. After all also we are just members and, last but not least, human persons.

    This was not just forgotten, but she was blamed for doing her job. She was doing it not for her personal satisfaction, but to mediate and to keep the forum on track. It's normal, then and when two or more members have a discussion and we accept it. But we CAN'T accept attacks, offending or threatening. So Brandy always was there to listen to you. To deal with a lot of crap. She is spending her time for you. She is caring for everything. Games, events, contest, funny wagers and if you need any help. Yes, she alone isn't the forum, it's every single member.
    But if you honestly ask yourself who is the good force behind this all, you will get just one name.

    We always knew, it's a thankless task very often. If pack is attacking itself and you try to help, usually you are blamed in the end. But we're doing it, because we love what we're doing. It's a heartfelt wish.
    You should know, if one mod is doing something, the other mods know and agree. Attacking one of us means, attacking all of us. The last weeks have shown, we have to be more strict. Unfortunately some can't handle the freedom they have got here.

    I hoped, with days passing by, least oneperson would come and apologize. I did expect too much obviously. Did you even read her sentence? Did you reflect about what has happened? Did you just one moment think “oh, I have my part in it too and I see I was wrong?”

    I can't even imagine a forum without Brandy. Maybe there will be a thing called “forum”. But it only would be an empty case. I will fight for her with all of my heart. With or without you. I also admit, I prefer with you.

    #78448
    jayc
    Participant

    I was out of town whilst all of this cracked off, however  I have now had a chance to catch up.

    First thing I would like to say is Brandybee has my full, unwavering support for her actions and decisions she made. On face value, if you are on the receiving end of a decision you dont like, I can guarantee she has made t for the good of forum and keeping in mind the right of free speech we try to advocate. We do not tolerate abuse to members ever and if you have been the giver of such abuse, you will receive strongly worded PMs leaving you in no doubt the stance of this forum and the moderators together. To then try and bring this up for public debate is quite frankly silly and childish.

    I have known Brandy a long time, she can be forthright but I have also found her very fair. She will not mix her words if she thinks you are wrong. , I like that about her, You know exactly where you stand. To me, that is a good quality in a Moderator.

    Many of you probably dont know this, but she receives many complaints and queries from the game and here in forum which she deals with almost on a daily basis. Most are resolved, the ones that cant be are usually because the parties concerned do not take the advice on offer.

    I personally admire and respect her as a person, a player and a Moderator. We have worked together on stories and on contests. She works tirelessly for the Forum village sometimes under very difficult circumstances when people presume; they are the only person she is dealing with.
    To then publically disrespect her or anyone as a person or a Moderator is inappropriate. If you have any issues, you can PM any of us and your problem will be dealt with accordingly.

    I make a personal plea to Brandybee to return and as a Moderator. I am a junior Mod but wish to continue working with you as a Moderator and as a friend. This place will not be the same without you here.

    “Be a Love”        Brandy and RECONSIDER

    #78449
    Anonymous
    Guest

    :-[ I am pretty sure even I couldn't have chased off brandy… jesus people

    #78450
    Lover
    Participant

    Covems suggestion:

    If

    you found out for certain there is a Heaven and a Hell,
    how would you change your life?

    #78451
    Lover
    Participant

    It's a very interesting question Cove! I've thought about it a while and I don't think I would change anything. I live my life, following a simple rule: Treat everyone as you want to be treated.

    I know, I don't do everything I right, I sometimes hurt people and I fail then and when. But isn't this what is called life?

    Aren't we human and not robots? We make mistakes and sometimes these mistakes are bad for ourselfes or, what's worse, for other people. Sometimes it happens, because we don't know all the facts. Sometimes it happens because we make the wrong conclusions. And sometimes it happens, because we think A is better for us than B. Would it mean to be supposed to live in hell? I don't think so.

    There is another question for me. Would it really mean, to live in heaven or hell AFTER we died? Or could it mean, our life would be like heaven or hell. If  bad things happen to us, if we live a life in the dark, if we get ill… could this be the hell, just we get it while we're still alive? Can we live our life like heaven, if we are “good” people? (whatever this is). Is being happy the same as being in heaven?

    If we talk about this, we also should discuss about another question: Is our life predetermined? Is there fate? Is there really the opnion of free choices? (Some scientists who research the brain doubt…). But if we don't have a choice, would it be fair to have heaven and hell? Oh.. fair? Is there fairness in life? Do we get what we give or deserve?

    IF we know, there is Heaven and HEll, would we still be able to make decisions and do anything at all? Or would we stuck in asking all the time, what we have to do now to get to heaven? Oh my, I'm happy to answer your question for myself: There is heaven and hell, but it's on earth – in our lifetime. And if we follow the simple rule, treat other as you want to be treated, we will be in heaven. Now

    #78452
    AusWoody
    Participant

    Funny thing  i looked at my life  many years ago
    and yes  i done things im not proud of  but overall
    im happy with the life i have lived
    i follow my code  –  honour  truth and fairness to all

    yes some  i corrected but i can honestly say they deserved what they recieved
    there are  many others i let slide  just circumstances saved them i guess

    i let the big guy do as he sees fit  with me

    #78453
    Brandybee
    Participant
    If

    you found out for certain there is a Heaven and a Hell,
    how would you change your life?

    I always thought there was.  So there's nothing I would change, maybe a few wishes that people / pets who touched my life stayed around longer.

    I'd like to think that St Peter would let me in the Pearly Gates but I might have to sit in the naughty corner for awhile.  Bet I'd get passed him eventually though, he'd be fed up of me asking him if he had voted yet in the Erotic Story Contest 

    #78454
    jayc
    Participant

    This fall i was hospitalized for a week with a major health issue, laying there i had lots of time to reflect on my life. Yes there are things i have done that im not proud of, but we all have. given the chance to change things?  No……i would not change a thing. I like the concept of Karma.

    Good intent and good deed contribute to good karma and future happiness, while bad intent and bad deed contribute to bad karma and future suffering.

    A nice concept, and good way to lead you life 

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