What turns you off in chatting?

[Adera]

Quite a lot of men that I respond to start off with some small talk, which is nice, but then they just ask if I want to room or something of the like out of the blue. Well maybe not out of the blue, it's not very surprising considering the setting but still… I just wish they'd try to woo me and excite me before asking.

It feels so mechanical and boring when they ask that way, it's as if they're saying “Hey I'm horny, are you horny as well? If so we could room y'know”.

If they however tried to make me interested in an increasing manner, which some men does I might add, then I might think that this guy seems interesting and that playing with him could be quite fun.

[Lover]

Most people here forget that, though it's a sex game, they have to be interesting and that there has to be a (little) connection and sypathy between two people before rooming. Most just want a real person behind the screen just for their OWN fun.

Beside girls from forum and perhaps one or two exceptions, all the last chats when new girls started to talk to me have been like this:
“hi”… “sex?”
Sometimes they also ask “how are you”
The good ones say “Youre nice” or “I like how youre dressed”..and afterwards “sex?”…lol
They all get the same answer. I just room with my spouse. Yesterday one girl asked me afterwards if I have all poses, which I agreed. Next she asked, if I invite her….crazy
My favs are whores or girls asking after a “hello” if I can give them money for their subscription.

[G1adys]

Speaking of 'how are you'… I had written in my info 'I'm fine, thank you' as an answer, and i can tell, almost all (not only men) who tried to contact me didn't read that. And when they ask me how am i, i answer 'just as i wrote in my info!'.

But the winners are still those who start from 'wanna suck my [industrial-grade tool]' or 'I'm so horny, let's go to the room!' I'm glad they are so excited about themselves, but what should that matter to me?

[Adera]

Yeah, I get a lot of girls approaching me that way too, I never room with them.

Actually, I'd be happy if guys asked me if I want to suck theirs… most ask if they can suck mine for some reason.

[G1adys]

Hm, I can understand that. I was wondering why women keep asking me for sex with them, and asked some of them. One explained it like she sees me, a shemale, as a softer version of male, as someone with [a male bodypart she wants] but with more woman-like personality. I guess, it could be common image of a shemale to women (to those of them who are willing to tolerate trangender persons)

As for men view on me, i was told about two images. One is a woman with [something], and that's how i see myself. And another is a man with breasts. That's might be the answer about their reasons…

[Lover]

G1adys

Speaking of 'how are you'… I had written in my info 'I'm fine, thank you' as an answer, and i can tell, almost all (not only men) who tried to contact me didn't read that. And when they ask me how am i, i answer 'just as i wrote in my info!'.

That's an old topic… most aren't able to read profiles. Or aren't interested which just shows their lack of attitude about a real talk or wish to know more about the person. Makes it easier for you to send them away

But the winners are still those who start from 'wanna suck my [industrial-grade tool]' or 'I'm so horny, let's go to the room!' I'm glad they are so excited about themselves, but what should that matter to me? Cheesy

Perhaps they think it makes you horny too Hey, be nice and get a little bit horny….lol

[Adera]

Softer version of a male… yeah I've heard that as well, they don't know how insulting that is. Even if everyone doesn't put it like that it's kinda how they see things and that's easy to notice… so I just tell them that I'm not interested.

Women that doesn't have a genuine interest in other women aren't interesting for me in that way.

Men that sees us as women that just happens to have something different actually comes quite close to the truth.

[Marilyn]

I agree with everything.
The cold invites are just a big turn off…

But sometimes you have something like this…

“hello I wonder if you'd like a nice terrace facing the sea at sunset, surrounded by flowers, you and me dancing…. and then just let our imagination to fly away”

With something like this, you HAVE to reply. Even if it's just to say “Sorry I'm busy…” or “not interested..”
But you still HAVE to reply. 

[Lydiarose]

“hello I wonder if you'd like a nice terrace facing the sea at sunset, surrounded by flowers, you and me dancing…. and then just let our imagination to fly away”

I have done this for real and yes you have to answer

[Covems]

Oh no they don't.

[Marilyn]

Oh no they don't.

They don't, what, Covems? 

[Covems]

Oh no they don't.

They don't, what, Covems? 

Answer

You should try AChat in someone else's shoes.

I issue a challenge to all you ladies…  Create a new account… but sign up as a MALE… stay as a free user, then spend an hour or two trying to have a conversation with a female or a shemale.  Then, if you're really adventurous, make that MALE character premium… again… try starting up a conversation.  Then record your experience here in the Forum.  You don't have to room with anyone… just try and start a conversation… see how it goes.  And no fair contacting folks you already know and explaining what yoiu're doing.  Go ahead… see what it's like.

I issue the same challenge to the male population here.  Create a FEMALE character then spend an hour or two on AChat.  Pafe and Satoire issued this challenge to me when I first started, and told me to think about how some of the messages make you feel.  I accepted the challenge and even gifted the NEW character so I could make “her/me” premium.  I tell you, it  gave me a whole new perspective on how women get treated here.

[hentaiboy69]

I issue a challenge to all you ladies…  Create a new account… but sign up as a MALE… stay as a free user, then spend an hour or two trying to have a conversation with a female or a shemale.  Then, if you're really adventurous, make that MALE character premium… again… try starting up a conversation.  Then record your experience here in the Forum.  You don't have to room with anyone… just try and start a conversation… see how it goes.  And no fair contacting folks you already know and explaining what yoiu're doing.  Go ahead… see what it's like.

Covems, i have a good taste of it till now, i can swear it……..sometimes thay are annoying, it's a real pain when your screen start to be fulfilled by cold invite and your board submerged by “Hi, are you looking for fun!?”, specially when you are in the middle of a chat with friends! But sometimes can be nice just to let your reasone lose control and just ienjoy some fun……of course, there must be respect, this is important….

And let me say a last word about male free users: it happend to me someone said “i'm glad you just answer me, others never do” even if i just daid “sorry, waiting a friend for a date”. And we talk about how to push people to become premium…..if we don't try to give to free a chance to know AChat a little, they will never enjoy it! So, my friends and ladies…..try to give a chance to the one who send a message in a polite mode, they can surprise you!

[G1adys]

As for me, i do not judge people by their subscription status. I can chat and play with free users, if they are nice, and i have both free and premium users in my blacklist (although free ones greatly outnumber the subscribers in there).

But as a shemale i cannot play with free users when my subscription is expired. Shemales do not have even two free poses! So, most of time the only thing i can give to a free user is chat

[Cheya]

I issue a challenge to all you ladies…  Create a new account… but sign up as a MALE… stay as a free user, then spend an hour or two trying to have a conversation with a female or a shemale.  Then, if you're really adventurous, make that MALE character premium… again… try starting up a conversation.  Then record your experience here in the Forum.  You don't have to room with anyone… just try and start a conversation… see how it goes.  And no fair contacting folks you already know and explaining what yoiu're doing.  Go ahead… see what it's like.

Covems, i have a good taste of it till now, i can swear it……..sometimes thay are annoying, it's a real pain when your screen start to be fulfilled by cold invite and your board submerged by “Hi, are you looking for fun!?”, specially when you are in the middle of a chat with friends! But sometimes can be nice just to let your reasone lose control and just ienjoy some fun……of course, there must be respect, this is important….

And let me say a last word about male free users: it happend to me someone said “i'm glad you just answer me, others never do” even if i just daid “sorry, waiting a friend for a date”. And we talk about how to push people to become premium…..if we don't try to give to free a chance to know AChat a little, they will never enjoy it! So, my friends and ladies…..try to give a chance to the one who send a message in a polite mode, they can surprise you!

I experienced that too, some people were telling me that they tried to talk with woman for hours and that i was the first one to reply which they were really thankful for. Sadly quite a few people seem to judge each others by their subscription status .
There seem to be black sheeps on either side, i have to confess that i miss to reply sometimes as well, due to being very busy or highly annoyed of people spamming messages over and over again.
There are still people who spam their messages or cold invites a couple of times, or people who keep asking you if you are busy just because it takes you a few more seconds to reply and last but not least the abbreviations specialists “hi hru …thx f u ?” and it goes on and on …
Countless examples could be posted, i think the best advice would be to treat your chat partner the way you want to be treated.
Nevertheless it is going to be a steady learning curve and with that there might come more success as well

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