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There are many posts in this thread that I agree with and sympathize with.  Both men and women are often frustrated with the socializing that occurs in this game.  The profiles don't offer us much space to stand out and be distinct, other than in our clothing.  So it is often difficult for a guy to know what to say to a woman to distinguish himself as 'conversation' worthy since he doesn't know much about her to begin with other than her avatar's outfit.  Overall, the only thing any of us can do, is remain polite, patient, and try to use complete sentences.  Much like socializing at a bar or any other venue, no one is guaranteed to meet someone with whom they will click. Still, we all keep trying for various reasons.  Either we are seeking fantasies to be explored, or conversations and connections because we are lonely.  I think part of being 'distinct' when being brave and approaching a woman is having the integrity to not flip out when she doesn't respond, as well as not feel crushed.  Some people on here have been very nice.  Others don't seem to have the ability to carry a conversation, let alone be very descriptive in their actions once in a room.  But I am confidant that there are more gems here than coals, and sooner or later everyone will find someone to enjoy shining with in a room. 

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Though I have nothing colorful to share, I too would like to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and much happiness in the coming new year!

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I would say it begins with respect.  there are only so many ladies online at a time, and only so many of them share the same language with the men.  I have been told by women on here that they are constantly being bombarded by messages from men and invites as well.  If I send a message to someone, I try to say more than just “hello” but that's not always possible.  sometimes the woman's profile is so blank there doesn't seem to be anything to start a conversation going other than “hello, how are you?” or some variation of that.  But, I am learning that those are the profiles to avoid, as are the ones where we don't share the same language.  That said, once a conversation has begun, respect more than anything seems to impress.  There are so many rude men on here, that when the ladies meet a gentleman such as myself they seem to enjoy my ability to carry on an actual conversation, and magically my simple jokes seem to take on a bonus effectiveness.  More than a few times a woman has asked me to come to her room just because she is tired of being harassed by a rude guy but still wants to continue talking with me.  And sometimes they just want to talk in the room, and that's fine too.  But other times they want to go to bed … and yeah, those are the best times. 

So my advice, be kind, be polite, show respect, and if the lady doesn't respond then don't bother her.  She is either A) busy, under attack by many jerks and so in a bad mood and you really don't want to feel her wraith, or C) she doesn't have enough personality to be worth your time or have fun in the room (which is what all those blank profiles are about I think). 

Other than that, have fun.

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