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[Janine Dee]

I would say mockery is the only thing Twilight is good for. 

[Janine Dee]

Actually I think we might motivate them faster if we say we'll play the A$ to BUY new rooms, and I'm not even being snarky there. Money motivates.

[Janine Dee]

Oh Honey, my point is define “radical”. You are on the right track with the trust, but the trust builds. You hit it more on the head with the “know” and that also takes time and communication.

Sorry, I think I've mentioned I am a trained Dominant, and I am very passionate when it comes to playing safe, but I'm also just experienced in the realities of it.

[Janine Dee]

Vampires don't sparkle!

Sorry, reflex 

[Janine Dee]

Jump on in Billy, we would rather have the company and an occasional misunderstanding then just another lurker. 

And for the anger… even when I am well and truly pissed I try to keep a level head. I don't like getting angry, and the one time I did get angry on here I posted an apology for doing so.

I also don't respond well to anger, but that is just to explain where I came from. I am happy to move past it.

[Janine Dee]

Ohhh sweetie, that is setting yourself up to fail. Dominants are not mind readers, and some of the worst sessions I've ever had were when the submissive expected me to be one. It's one thing to give us a long list and let us pick and choose from it and surprise you that way, but to have us just pick stuff… eventually we will pick something you don't like.

Hopefully it would just be something you didn't enjoy rather then actively disliked, but even if we get lucky on those first few picks eventually we'd hit something wrong, and that's no fun for us either. If I just want to spank a female shaped ass I could buy a Real Doll. I want to know the owner of said ass wants it spanked.

What is as (if not more) important then a list of do's is a list of don'ts. Medical or psychological, while medical issues aren't as big of an issue online asthmatics can not wear ball gags, and people with carpal tunnel can not have their wrists bound in all the ways those that don't can, but there are also those mental limits that can take a person past the enjoyable to the truly mentally painful.

(I don't like bloodshed real or virtual.)

Sometimes you won't know it till you cross that threshold, but once you know it's there you need to make sure the Dominant knows about it.

Only sickos want the submissive to actually suffer.

[Janine Dee]

Actually I don't mean people getting off on it in the shop. I mean like with the dildo 69, if I had seen the hand job motion I would not have spent (wasted) A$150 on it. So they make more money not letting us get full detail until we cough up the A$.

[Janine Dee]

Oh, okay lol.

And Sinnnn doesn't' need anything physical to control whether or not she'll let me climax. 

[Janine Dee]

It's not just appreciation though. I've also run into submissives who have felt all they had to do was show up. It is a two person (and occasionally more then that) enterprise. The submissive should be able to give some idea of what they like as well as be willing to show distress as well as appreciation. (Some are annoying determined to tough it out. It's terribly sweet that they want to give that to me as a Domme, but I don't want it.  I want them enjoying it too.)

[Janine Dee]

That is the “most” rather then freedom from all part of the responsibility.

[Janine Dee]

Nope, mines on a belt.

And she doesn't get tied up willingly hon. 

Now while I love my vagina, and am truly happy to have her I'm not sure how I “cheated”.

[Janine Dee]

I mainly propose the dungeon idea as it would be a radical environment change. Most others are variations on a theme. Say laying on a couch rather then a bed.

A dungeon would be a whole other world.

[Janine Dee]

Actually Urban, De Sade is just where sadism comes from, and he was just f-ed in the head.

BDSM has codes, and values safe conduct. Sure there are those who don't uphold those ideals, but they are recognized as rogues.

And Adera sweetie, the submissive is allowed to be greedy, expected even. The Dominant gets to enjoy control while the submissive gets all that attention and focus, as well as freedom from most responsibility.

[Janine Dee]

Never happen. To much money to be lost on people actually seeing what it does before spending the money and deciding not to buy. ;D

[Janine Dee]

I'm with Adera on this.

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