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[kittenlepurr]

Choosing partners for me is partially based on first impressions and over time interactions. My friends/lovers on my list get priority.

If people are contacting me:
An example of an interaction that fails is when they are rude or suggestive from the get go. Being impolite makes me just inclined to ignore as I see it.

Another example of it is being demanding. If i have already said to the person I wont do something and i have to constantly repeat it.. then it proves either they dont listen or they are just after their own pleasure and not mutual.

Now if I am contacting them:
Usually I say hi try to strike up a conversation if it goes to sexual basis from there I usually will ask questions to work out if we are compatible to play. If not I will just keep chatting or look for someone else. If yes we will see how far the flirting goes and if it ends up in the room.

What I usually search for is very mood dependant:
Sometimes I am in the mood to talk to another girl

Other times a guy.

One thing I do like though is people that are in achat for the fun not for the “oh I can get gifts” thing … its something i find just a little … fun killing asking for $A to play. Which is why I never do so.

[kittenlepurr]

Coming back after about 6 months (being in a relationship which ended ) finding my friendships mostly gone is not a big shock. I understand that the idea that friendships are maintained by constant/consistent interraction. While i told most of them that i would be not on the fact they disabled the friendship is not a massive surprise at all.

Under those circumstances you really dont need it explained why some people would cancel the relationship but if in the normal scheme of things they cancel and dont tell you its from my perspective a little rude.

The thing to remember is like already said in previous posts the idea of an achat online friendship maybe different from say a friendship you have with someone face to face. 

[kittenlepurr]

Hi kitten.

I guess he could have the option of kissing the tip of my dick, though I don't really need that option. :

you know what works better for you Adera …. I just thought it would be a nice idea. Especially considering I bet there is still a massive lack of poses for shemale + partner.

(I have been in a relationship for a while thats why I haven't been on anything but the forums)

[kittenlepurr]

QUOTE: “Yeah, I know… I mainly bought the SF pose because I thought this might be a good pose for when I’m with a female that likes anal. I’m not really expecting I’m going to get much use out of the SF pose compared to the SS pose which is just awesome.”

😛

[kittenlepurr]

what I meant was for him to be able to massage my anus and finger me, that wouldn't make the pose stray from being a foreplay pose since there is already a jerk off and an action for him to suck me now.

Hi all

Those are great ideas its good that they are adding poses for you to use Adera .

I would also suggest in addition to the sucking option … to give the tip a kiss. I like doing it to guys and its a fun tease… so I dont see why it wouldn't work here for you.

I have noticed there is very few … tender foreplay poses across the board and would be nice to go that way.

[kittenlepurr]

hehe i dont count the number of times a guy contact me to show me his “material” in exchange of see mine  . Poor guys , they are really deceived when i tell them that i dont give my e-mail to everyone , and certainly not to see a “big cock” lol . They are really deceived too when i say that i dont share pics . My pussy is for my GF and nobody else 

I think you mean more disconcerted rather then deceived. They may think that but they don't know what its like for a girl online where you have to constantly  prove you are.
Some may feel deceived but you didn't lie on the fact that you don't share your email so why they would is just silly. Besides cock pictures are prevalent and there is no need to thing its unique to see one specific persons.

If they feel deceived that's their problem. Like you said Rukya your pussy is for your GF and noone else.

[kittenlepurr]

Ehehe, to get mine you’d have to work some for it. 😉

Kinda fun conversation starter though, I like the ones that have a bit more originality.

I always like a challenge 😉 xxo

So do I but the whole kitten and cream/milk thing gets done to death to a point.

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completely nude on friday was a hot day where i was … so I worked on my tan

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more they ask if i would like some cream

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*Sneaking around in search for sexi with a well shaken can of soda* Here kitty kitty kitty… oops that pobably works better on Kittenlepurr.

meow ?…. people use it too much with me because of the name .

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Adera I dont think anyone believed that you would be tricking someone with your female account just the fact you would be using the more options available in the MF poses.

For you and I Adera we have a big timezone difference … matching up can be difficult plus I am not often on because of how busy I am in real life now.

But if anyone in general would like to show Adera the pose I think you both would enjoy it. I will also look for you on your main profile if i am on so you can see first hand.

[kittenlepurr]

Daniela I am going to have to disagree with you on some points. The others I definitely agree with you

– Close up phtographs of a vagina are definitely not what a female would do!

One of my girlfriends has posted photos of this type on another site that she uses as more or less a joke. However she reconsidered after so many perverted messages. So its not that wont be done just something that is very rare and is easily regrettable.

And these are the points I consider NOT being an evidence of a men faking a girl:

– Language: I personally think there is no better way to describe a penis as cock or dick. I have never heard it different in American teen movies like American Pie which I think it is the usual English word to say to a penis (which i think is much too medicinal as well as vagina). Therefore I also call my pussy what it is. So I guess the use of certain words is not really and indicator. People are just too different and females from certain countries (e.g. Germany) might be also more open-minded, experienced and outgoing than from other countries.

– Dirty Talk: Hell, I love to talk dirty while having sex. While doing it why not tell the guy directly what you want them to do and do not make a poem out of it. But it is only hot if the guy is also able to use another language level while in general talk and sex discussion. Again, people are very different and even girls like dirty talk.

– Anal sex: see above (dirty talk) – my explanations are exactly the same

– any other kind of fetish or sexual interest (except for illegal ones): I guess people are just that different that you cannot say a latex or high heel fetish is just focused on guys so that a female character with all the high heels would indicate a guy faking a girl. The world is not just black and whit ebut it is grey and i think you will find this grey in AChat.

I agree with these points the reason why is … Language is so varied from country to country even to family level as well. Personally I don't like dirty talk that much … I rather hear moaning in pleasure over the dirty talk that being said like anyone i can get into it. As for a sexual preference being fetish or anal we all have them on some level thus it cant be an indicator.

After reading all three pages of this thread I have to wonder why no one cares about women picking up male avatars and masquerading as men?

Heck, at the height of the recent LGBT protests we had on here Adera flat out said she was considering getting a female avatar so she could make love to men like she wanted to, and no one blinked.

Which leads me to ask WHY this discussion is so focused on fake females?

Since this type of thread seems to start up every 8 months or so I will just repeat my reply and say that while everyone has their ways that they are “sure” they can spot a man masquerading as a woman, I've yet to hear one that is actually sure.

The only way we could be certain is if we would surrender the anonymity we enjoy here, and go through some some of verification process, and I don't think anything could kill AChat faster.

In 34 days I'll have been here two years, and one thing I've learned over that stretch of time is that your options come down to accepting your lovers here as they present themselves, or stop playing AChat.

Excellent point Janine. I think the main reason why that is is that one Medjal is a guy and he has been hurt … so he focused on his personal experience. So not that he wasn't aware more along the line he didn't consider the fact.

Another point is men from what i have seen become very insecure when their sexuality is pulled into question. Which if they are believing they are dealing with a guy over this when they thought it was a girl. Makes them wonder and get very concerned over it. I think the term is “Question Ones Manhood”

Ultimately people cant be sure aside from the vibe the best thing is people being defensive without having it impede their fun.

Personally I did react to Aderas suggestion and if memory serves talk to her about it after. So there wouldn't have been a post anyway.

I think we all enjoy the anonymity that we have here and like having fun. The verification would definitely in my opinion make them loose business.

I am over all personally accepting of my lovers like i said earlier i believe they are what they present or claim that they are. While i may have another vibe that does not impede the fun.

Deception is bad of course, but for me at least part of AChat is that I can be entirely open with things I can't share in real life.

Here however I can express that part of me openly and honestly because you guys DON'T know the rest of me. The irony being that our anonymity can allow us to be honest in ways we constantly lie about in our day to day lives.

I'm honest enough with myself to know that I don't know WHO is at the other side of the screen. Ultimately I feel it's better I don't, I would loose too much of what brings me here in the first place.

Exactly how I feel Janine. I could not have said it better.

[kittenlepurr]

I think you put it in a good way Kitten.

ty Adera … i just put it in as devils advocate after all there is always many sides to an arguement.

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Kittens back to post for fun:

I can understand peoples frustrations on this topic.

The fact that they are being lied to regarding their partners online is something that people can take extremely personally. Mainly because of all the emotions they invest in them. Makes it no different from being lied to in real life .. it feels like you have been physically cut. (I know from personal experience of that fact)

Everyone has made good points ranging from the increase in whoring in AChat to the attitudes/ramifications to that act.

My opinion is one of slightly naive trust … I believe that people are all who/what they say they are … I like coming on to just enjoy chatting with people not necessarily having to play around with them. That being said the naive trust ends if it wants to be expanded from here .. having an honest attitude at the beginning is the best approach with AChat.

My opinion on people that fake their gender to be on AChat … playing the devils advocate is that they are doing it for the same reason why many people join AChat to get instant gratification. Denying them this may lessen their presence. However like anyone I can tell very quickly if I am talking with a guy/girl behind the avatar.

Best solution I think that can combat this is (without being overly intrusive as a business)
1. Allowing Gifts to be done throughout all Sex types available. [takes away the mercenary people to a point]
2. Be cautious and reserved to the point if you believe this person is lying to you then simply stop talking to them and ignore. [let them find someone else]
3. The only reason why the whoring (yes even with guys playing as girls) works is that people have it as a resort and take it … or are too lazy/horny and need immediate satisfaction … life doesn't provide that neither should AChat members. If everything related to it takes too long you will notice people drop off.

Ok now another side of a pov. Those of us that are actually girls should not have to prove that we are girls by people demanding us to do so it kills the fun for us. Gender-faking unfortunately is directly related to why people take that approach its unfair that it occurs but understandable.

So the only thing i can think of here is that if you believe a person is not whom they say they are do not join. If they seem to desperate then its a warning sign though not a guarranteed one. And others that people have suggested above.. Like I have said before in the forums … its important to protect yourself first.

The best thing you can do is decide… one way or the other.. its up to you.

PS. My experiences I am aware are not the same as others but I have my attitude that works for me and doesn't impede the fun if i choose to have it. Or the conversations with people I have on AChat.

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All the above are excellent suggestion for personal safety and working out how to deal with people regarding the meeting public.

The way however I approach this is like i said before I keep a degree of seperation between my AChat and rl. Therefore meeting is not on the cards, in addition I am always upfront and honest about this .. some people have had an issue about it. However I choose to take the approach that I do not expect to meet anyone on Achat i real life. This is due to many bad experiences in the past that have made this attitude. (Some have been good but the majority have been bad)

I agree for those that do decide to meet its better for a group meeting as opposed to a 1 on 1 and should be in  a very public location.

It is true there are people out there in real life if you meet them that they can hurt you true of even on AChat as you build a friendship emotions are certainly part of it.

My advice from my experience is to keep these things seperate but if you are not going to proceed with all caution possible. (thats for both sides) Best case is everything goes well.

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