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As I was typing that last response I was thinking to myself ” crap, now Im addicted to this site.  This all happened beginning of Aug, and for the past month my marriage is better than it has been for years.  I was seriously typing away and wondering how I was gong to let this go.  I appreciate the imput sinn and bear have given me.  She was one of your group, maybe you helped her along.  Thankyou and I am done here.

[Marin]

As I went back and re-read my post, i stated that “This site ALMOST ruined my marriage”  It was hard to get thoughts across with my head scrambled but I really wasnt blaming the site directly.  The content of he site almost made me leave my wife for good.  I really doubt that if Ifound out she was logging into an abused woman chat site (verbal abuse is as bad as physcial abuse) or a christian site, and chatting about our issues- that I would have never considered leaving her.

In a positive note, this site has got my attention to her needs more than a site of other nature would have.  

[Marin]

Had to check the Bible for a second, and my comment about the 400lb person is uncalled for and I appologize.  Bear, without passing judgement taking Bible verses out of context can be bad.    If you continue to read Luke you will find:  “He also told them this parable, “Can a blind man lead  blind man?  Will they not both fall into a pit? Luke 6:39

Jesus did not relieve his folloowers from decerning between right and wrong, but he condemmed the unjust and hypocritical judging of others.  In stating my concerns about this site, while not actively practicing in the sexul acts of this site, I am not a hypocrite.  I am just stating that this sitepromotes sexual behavior and fantasy, which if you are married and participating you are infact committing adultery.

If everyone who normally chats on this stie about regular life experiences is not concerned by the sexual content of this site, why dont we just set up a site, similar in format which has more christian values.

Would any of you let your children log on to this site or forum?  How many of you are hiding this site from your spouse?  Why?  I am thankful that I found out about this site before it became a more serious problem.  Believe me, if you read my wifes inbox, you would knbow what I am talking about.  It really broke my heart.  I have now fogiven her, and am continuing to move foreward.  my posts will probably be limited here soon.  A relationship buitl on fantasy is the same as one which is physcial.  Lust is adultery in the eyes of god.  And I do agree that sex is not a sin, not once did I mention it was, only in the wrong context is it considered a sin.  The beauty of sin is it is understood that we are forgiven because Christ died for our sins, however we do need to acknowledge that we are sinners, repent from our sins, and accept Christ into our lives.  I guarantee that if anyone here goes to church, you would never admit to logging onto this site.  Except for me, I will continue tobe posting as I feel the need to shine the true light on everyone here.  Without passing judgement, if you are on this site, like my wife you are looking for something missing in your life which you wont find here.  I GUARANtee if you turn to god, read your bible and prya, your life will too change!

[Marin]

I was wondering what this would stir up.  For both sinn and bear, if you read my post you will notice that I take FULL responsibility for my wife straying onto this site.  You will also notice that I sort of rewarded the site for being so easy to detect and log on (it saves passwords and usernames) which enabled me to find out what was going on.  Bear, as far as resetting, incomming messages in the personal message box on this forum do not clear, only outgoing ones do if you dont save them.

Had i been paying attention to my wife for the past 10 years, we wouldnt be having this conversation. 

[Marin]

Yet you choose to post these opinions on a site which promotes sexual misbehavior.

Do you actually think that anyone who uses an adult sex porn site actually cares about your soapbox or morals?  Get real.  This site helps people hide behind keyboards and monitors and become anyone they wish to be.  Do you actually think this is the type of site which people are able to be sincere to your feelings.  They will comment, and before you know it you think they care.  Then you wind up in a room with someone, who probably weighs 400 lbs, is sitting in a lazy boy in his moms basement at 45 years old, masturbating as he is watching computer generated sex action-which isnt all that good anyway!  Im sorry if I seem too judgemental but this site almost ruined my marriage.  I was admittingly not giving my wife the support emotionally which she needed, and she wound up here.  As I have read her chats and posts, she was being genuine.  Tallking about her job, our issues and her likes.  All she got back in response was large ammounts of guys praying on her vulnerability.  I now know what I need to do to fix my marriage because of this site.  I would like to help others find their way as well.  I will reach out and use every tool necessarry to do that as long as I can.

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