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Meeting someone real before knowing them at least some is beyond stupid. I know I did a lot of things wrong the first go-around online, but even dumb as I was, I was never that stupid.

I guess the best thing is just be careful and for sure only agree to meeting real only after knowing someone online a long while. I'd also strongly urge that it's only after other communication too, like email, phone (or maybe even cam … sexual or not). Even with all that, you won't be sure until you meet, and even then, you can get burned (like with any real relationship). So I guess bottom line is to say “Don't rush it.” If it happens, it happens.

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I like the idea of sorting poses, maybe even put them in different tabs so there are fewer pose icons per tab.

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Welcome to AChat and the Forums,  MisterFate.

I can't really add a whole lot to what's been said about new features, there's been a ton of great ones (not only in this post, but forum-wide). In time, perhaps a lot of them will be implemented (love the thought of themed settings). But before all that, and probably the easiest to implement, are improvements to the chat itself (tabbed chat, less obtrusive Invite requests, and perhaps even public chat channels (all users/premium).

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Again, not a AChat pickup attempt, but at work last night:

Him: What would it cost to get you in bed?
Me: A lot, lot more than it would cost to pay your right hand.

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Psst Sue, you really should chat with some of the guys here at the forum.

There's a lot of guys that exceptions to the rule; otherwise what'd be the point in keep coming back?

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Usually they can tell when my typing gets all incoherent  And yes, Bear, I am speaking only for myself – while the animations are an aid, I've seen enough of those who rely on them solely. But, as you said (and I said somewhere in a post) different strokes for different folks; if someone wants to get off merely because of what my pixels are doing, and not what I'm saying/doing, they're not likely to be in-room with me long.

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What gets me is the concern with pixels getting off  I could care less if my avatar is quivering on the ceiling, only if I am. And the same goes for my partner, it's the sharing the intimacy and knowing that behind the pixels, you both just shared an intense emotional and physical moment that matters more than some on-screen representation (thank you spell check!).

If it's the on-screen release that's driving the whole thing … all I can say is you're likely never going to be in-room with me 

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Sure, there are some that are mature beyond their years, I know one 21 yo here that'd put a lot of guys twice his age to shame for level-headedness, thoughtfulness and maturity in general. Mostly what I've found is that the bigger the age gap, the harder it is to relate to things in their life and them in yours. That's just a general rule, there's always exceptions.

Okay, so setting aside the maturity thing, the simple fact is that in most civilized countries, there are laws against that. While them lying about their age might let you off the hook some, you still run the risk of being charged with things like contributing to the delinquency of a minor. And here in the US, even something like that will get you on the Sex Offender list. And wtf are you thinking if it goes beyond merely cybering and getting into pictures exchanged, cam or even real. Now you're not only talking the whole Sex Offender stigma thing, but also real jail time.

I've had that happen (not in AChat yet), where a guy will let out he's really (fill in the under-18 blank number). Instant bail and instant report, with screenshot. I'm not wasting what's left of my prime years on some snot nosed kid, that's for sure (not to mention the whole ewwww factor realizing that they're not a whole lot older than my son).

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A while back, way before AChat, I did, and more than once. Sexually it was about as mixed bag as it gets, and mostly the guys aren't near as studly and long-enduring semen-sprayers like they can be here. (LMAO) But on all counts it was an emotional FAIL. Yeah, a lot of that was me and where my head was at at the time and that stuff about opposites attracting might work for magnets, but if you're in a bad place emotionally, likely that's what you're going to attract. Or at least the kind of guy that can sense that and prey on it.

So the odds of getting burned are pretty damn high. I'm not just singling guys out here either, there's more than enough women out to play games too. Anyway, it sure as hell changed at how I am online and being careful, not only with the whole meet in real issue, but with things like phone (or Skype) and cam too.

On the other hand, I know some that did it and it was great for them. It's a lot rarer, but I've seen it happen, and God bless them for finding something special in a unlikely place and setting. So while the odds are pretty close to 100% I won't do the virtual to real thing again, you never know. But one thing for sure, there'll be a shitload of hurdles for him to jump before he's even close to the finish line.

So okay, say you're going to go ahead and take the big leap. Be smart about it, meet someplace public (discreet maybe if you have to, but public). Have a drink, or dinner, whatever. If it doesn't seem right, you can smile, thank them and bail. I can tell you for certain you don't want to be in some motel room and find out that your online stud is really Freddy Kruger. Not unless you like high stress environments and have a conceal/carry permit and a 9mm you know how to use and are willing to.

Just my two cents, and God forbid any of you got to learn some of those lessons the hard way.

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Yes on all counts, tight. It's about spending time, at least some, getting to know each other. But as for lists of posers, that's kind of risky, because while it makes sense in theory, it doesn't account for things like human jealousy and spite. Some girl jilt you? Brush you off or worse, the whole experience just didn't click? Easy, just post it in the forum, that'll teach  her! So having a list would be a two-edged sword, and ultimately be unfair to the real women here who have (at least some lol) semblance of standards on who they're being intimate with online.

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Well that's the SAG rules  Can't fight the union and all…

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@Adera: No, I'd take a nice sheer expensive satin or silk one like that any day over latex.  Natural is always better than something man-made lmao

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Yeah, it's that inter-personal bull that mimics the mechanical one 

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Director: Cut. Bring in the stunt double…
Me: On it…
Director: And … action…

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Which all goes back to what I was saying … while all the customization options are nice (and new ones are great!), in the end it's mostly about sharing it with someone.

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