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Seems likes there's lots wanting to be leading ladies … so I'll settle for stunt double  They can get the glory, I'll settle for … well umm, you know…

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I slay dragons with a big sword, and you like it

Nah, I'm more partial to well-wield polearms. 

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Thanks Janine, that's good to know, I'm not in danger of running out soon then. Iggyville might grow to be Iggyopolis though. 

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Against the wall would be great  And sure, more MMF 3some works for me too! But as for the “getting bored” part, dang, if you're getting bored having steamy cyber, then someone's spending too much time looking at pixels and not participating with the partner(s) … and umm, you know, taking care of themself too. 

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They could at least add a just snuggling animation to Spooning Dang, that'd be nice!

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I sure as hell hope it doesn't have a limit lol

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I'll vote yes for long, straight hair. But the “slay dragons and shit” … is that a sexual euphamism I don't know, or did someone get lost on their way to WoW?

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Love that idea, Keiko!

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Some of the real “winners” I've seen (and my answers to them).

1. Hey bb, ever had a 10″ black cock?
Where I'm from, we don't brag on 10″ roosters and we're more partial to Rhode Island Reds … Ignore.
2. Wanna fuck? (just about everyone probably gets this, but it's how you answer that really makes it)
Yes, just not with you … Ignore.
3. hi sxy bb hru?
Is that English? … Ignore
4. Can I lick your pussy?
Presuming I had a cat, I don't know how it'd like being licked … Ignore
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So, so many more. And really, at least with me, starting off with “hi” is okay. I know you might be nervous or whatever, and a simple hi is a starting point without having to come up with some supposedly clever and sexy come-on line. I work at bar, I've heard a crapload of them, and guess what … they don't work in bars either.

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I'm not saying that customizing the avatar isn't fun, it is. Different outfits for different moods, etc. I love that part too. But the avatar shouldn't be solely how anyone is judged or interacted with.

Anyone else get the, “Hi sexy, you look great.” greeting in chat? I do. And what's my first thought? “Oh great, fixated on pixels.”

For me, the avatar is my representation, so yes, I did try to make it at least somewhat like me. But just as I don't want guys in RL oggling me and judging me by my outsides, I don't want guys here judging me by pixels either.

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lol yep, the “Hi” and Invite happens a lot. I guess “Hi” is supposed to pass as chatting. 

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The fluidity thing is more as a visual enhancement, I'm perfectly fine typing it … after all, that's what existed before fancy graphics anyhow. A great experience is about two people (or 3 in some cases) connecting. While the pixels help to convey certain things, mostly what's being conveyed is in that text box below.

As for the 800 char description, that was just a number to throw out, but 64 characters is way too limiting. I think the banner thing is great for some kind of teaser, lyric, quote or whatever, but it isn't suited really for giving some basic info. Sure, there's wanting some mystique and all the cool aspects of first meeting (you can tell a lot about someone by how they get over that awkward first step). But at least enough text space to maybe expand on preferences, fantasies, kinks whatever.

And I do agree, there's way too many that don't read profiles at all. Too bad for them, because it'll be obvious and they won't get far anyway. Like I said, “Cold Invite = Ignore” should be a clue, you'd think. Yet, I get bombarded by them anyway. Go figure.

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And here I thought it was all about people interacting. Silly me.

Yeah, customizing an avatar is nice, I tried hard to get close as I could to being “me” … still far off the mark, but I tried. My point is, if the person I'm talking to/interacting with, is that concerned with the pixels and how they are gyrating or whatever, pity them. Because they're missing out on what AChat REALLY is … a place for people to come to, meet, talk and maybe, just maybe, share an intimate moment if things click. Do I care if my avatar gets off and has orgasms that leaves her quivering on the ceiling? Hell no, I only care if I do … but maybe I'm selfish that way lmao. More importantly, I care if my partner has a moment like that too, where his whole world explodes around him and he's seeing stars, dancing dots or whatever. Because that means we shared something wonderful that transcended the limitations of virtual and for a moment maybe bordered on something real.

Bottom line is, all those guys (and girls) looking for any total semblance of reality from the pixels as more than just an indicator of what should be going on between two people being intimate is maybe a whoa moment to examine oneself and motives, desires and wants. And if what you're wanting is something meaningful from pixels, damn, you need more help than my two cents will ever give.

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Sorry, Avalucie, I have to totally disagree with the premise. There are already 3D world places out there, RLC and SL, and tons of MMO games, it's never been (I would think) AChat's intent to compete with that. I do agree that the in-room stuff could be enhanced some (like being able to walk around, sit on a chair, edge of the bed), maybe allow for a bit of disrobing striptease to tease my partner with and that sort of thing, it doesn't need to be more than that.

You mention incentives. Meeting someone, having something click in chat and going on to share an intimate moment isn't incentive enough? Sure the hell is for me. And even in a bigger virtual world sense (like RLC or SL), the same held true, while clubbing hanging out with a whole group of friends etc. all have their place, it still boiled down to interacting with people. Sometimes that led to sharing intimate experiences and sometimes not.

So in AChat, in-room, if a guy isn't interacting with me via chat, what the hell am I in there for anyhow? Because really, if it's just a matter of me getting off, screw AChat and typing, I can use a vibe, close my eyes, fantasize to my heart's content and spare myself the bother of trying to juggle that vibe and type. Okay guys, fan yourself and chill, yeah you guys jack and we jill … be real, damn.

So while I can't speak for the OP, what makes those intimate moments is establishing at least a bit of interest (chatting) and sometimes a spark or connection happens and it goes to a more intimate level. And what AChat gives is more than enough for that (though we always want more, right? lol).

As for outfits … I'd sure like the option to strip tease wooo imagining the guy feasting his eyes, feel that tension building… but really all that pixel stuff shouldn't be the focus imho, it should be there to convey what's going on between two people at a intimate level. It's cyber sex, but that doesn't mean it's emotionally (or physically) meaningless. Hell call it mutual masturbation if you want (that'd be the technical correct thing, I reckon), but if it's really a shared experience, then it can (and most likely will) transcend that and let me tell you, it's great when it happens. As good as real? Hell no. But still awesome in its own way. Maybe even more awesome because there were so many hurdles to jump to get your mind (and body) to that place.

That's SHOULD be the incentive, not some pixelated gimmick crap. HD porn and a vibrator has a lot more going for it than merely pushing buttons and typing ooh-ahh, yeah baby, faster, harder.

As for gifting. I don't ask for it and don't expect it. It's a great surprise and thrill when it happens, like getting flowers or a card from someone … it brings back the smile and memory of what clicked (and how!). But to make it more blatant than it already is seems more like pandering or whoring to me. Or maybe that's just me.

As for rating systems … hell no! I'm not here competing for some twisted reality version of Fucking with the Stars. I'm here because of the social aspect first and foremost. The other stuff is great if/when it happens.

So I guess what I'd say Avalucia, is if that's what you're looking for, maybe you better take a close look at your motives for being in AChat. It is NOT a game, and it's that perpetuating a game notion that makes it tougher for the really nice guys to get out there and get themself noticed. There's already way too much “game” playing (the human kind not the video kind) going on anyhow without going out looking for ways to make this Sims 3 Fuck City.

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Hi Ewell and welcome!

Some interesting stuff in this thread and it seemed like a good place as any to throw in my two cents. I personally HATE cold invites, they are intrusive popping up a damn dialog box when I'm chatting away with others. So I have to stop, click ? and then Ignore and then Decline. Not a big deal one time, but it'll happen countless times in a day (actually I think my max has been 65, and the population of Iggyville keeps growing).

That said, though, I'll chat with just about anyone as long as they're polite. But sometimes I'm just swamped or with a friend I haven't chatted with in a while and want to catch up … or whatever and so I can't (and don't) answer them all. Sorry guys, it's just that there's a whole lot more of you than there is of me and Friends always get priority chat.

Skipping language as a barrier (legitimate issue since the Net is global), there's another aspect to the whole point Ewell makes with “I'm guessing these are mainly women who speak neither English nor French (the two languages I say I speak … though I could probably get the gist of things in Italian as well). But it is a bit weird. And they are not necessarily free users either.” I don't know if I'm the first to break it to you, E, but unfortunately there's a lot of POSERS out there too. Guys playing girls and it's not just a AChat thing, it happens just about everywhere on the Net to one extent or other.

Even allowing for what Jamine Dee said (Yeah, woo let us loose in the candy store, right? lol) you should take those kinds of not interacting, drag you into a room things as a red flag. Even if it's not some poser (and don't ask me why guys do that online, I don't have a psych degree), is that really how you want to interact with someone online? Sorry, banging pixels isn't my thing, because without interaction and sharing a mutual experience, it's wayyyy easier to just get out my vibe and don't bother with typing.

So really, as far as I'm concerned, that's the thing … it IS a shared experience or should be and it's why I insist on chatting with someone before even considering going in-room with them. Like I'd do that real life, just drag any guy that said “Hi” into my room? Don't think so … at least a little something has to click. So do yourself a favor Ewell and insist on that chatting interaction … so okay, maybe it is in fractured English or pseudo-whatever language, but there should be at least SOME attempt.

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